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Package etiquette (Original Post) Phoenix61 Dec 2017 OP
Etiquette is for relics. CrispyQ Dec 2017 #1
It depends crazycatlady Dec 2017 #2
This was a gift I mailed to a friend Phoenix61 Dec 2017 #3
Of course you should get a thank you note question everything Dec 2017 #4
Definitely! Duppers Dec 2017 #5
Yes I do left-of-center2012 Dec 2017 #6
Yes always. Even though both USPS & UPS have tracking systems, I let the sender know. Fla Dem Jan 2018 #7
I like to do two things: a quick email and a written thank you... Phentex Jan 2018 #8
Do you do this when purchasing something online? crazycatlady Jan 2018 #9
email yes, written thank you no... Phentex Jan 2018 #10
I've only had one Etsy customer notify when the package arrived crazycatlady Jan 2018 #12
Yes. Should always let the sender know. LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #11
Wouldn't you do that and also thank them for the gift? G2theD Aug 2022 #13


(36,002 posts)
1. Etiquette is for relics.
Sun Dec 24, 2017, 02:09 PM
Dec 2017

That's how if feels, anyway.

I would send an acknowledgement when I received it & a thank you when I opened it.


(4,492 posts)
2. It depends
Sun Dec 24, 2017, 02:31 PM
Dec 2017

If it is something like Amazon, no.

But for a recent Etsy order that took a long time (international), I had contacted the seller at first saying it did not arrive (after 3 weeks) asking for tracking info (cost prohibitive in the UK) they told me they didn't have any. I sent them an update saying that the package arrived.

But in most cases, tracking should handle everything. Even USPS First Class has it.

AS an Etsy seller, not one buyer has let me know when the order was received.


(16,892 posts)
3. This was a gift I mailed to a friend
Sun Dec 24, 2017, 02:37 PM
Dec 2017

for Christmas. It just irks me when I take the time to send something and the recipient can't take the time to say, " Thanks, I got the gift you sent me."

question everything

(47,094 posts)
4. Of course you should get a thank you note
Sun Dec 24, 2017, 02:41 PM
Dec 2017

but...from my experience, actually writing a thank you note takes a bit longer.


(16,329 posts)
8. I like to do two things: a quick email and a written thank you...
Tue Jan 2, 2018, 10:56 AM
Jan 2018

I think it's nice to let someone know I got the package. Then I still write a thank you. But apparently the last part is from olden times according to people today.


(4,492 posts)
9. Do you do this when purchasing something online?
Tue Jan 2, 2018, 06:25 PM
Jan 2018

Just curious--- I've never once had an Etsy buyer notify me that their package was received. (tracking lets me know)


(16,329 posts)
10. email yes, written thank you no...
Wed Jan 3, 2018, 10:14 AM
Jan 2018

I have made only a handful of purchases off etsy (necklace and stuff like that) but I did email the sellers because I was so thrilled with the items. One was a painting that blew me away in person. It was very large and I'm sure it was tracked but it was so pretty i had to express my delight.

I thought the OP was referring to when you send a gift to someone. I had a friend send me something directly from Macy's so I texted her to let her know I got it and then I followed up with a written email.

When I purchase online, they usually know when it was received because it's tracked. Like Amazon. On ebay, I leave feedback right away so they know as well.

Now, I ordered off a wedding registry for my niece when she got married and I didn't hear a thing for almost a year. It was an expensive purchase and I worried about it. I think I got a notification that it had shipped but not sure there was tracking info. FINALLY got a hand written thank you but a quick email or text would have been nice.


(4,492 posts)
12. I've only had one Etsy customer notify when the package arrived
Wed Jan 3, 2018, 10:26 AM
Jan 2018

She also since placed another order. To this day, she's the only customer who left a review (well 5 as she ordered 5 pussyhats).

<shameless plug>if you like necklaces, I have quite a few in my store</shameless plug>

The only person I've (so far) had things shipped to directly was my sister (from AMazon for my nieces' birthdays). She usually sends me a picture of the girls playing with the item.


(17,169 posts)
11. Yes. Should always let the sender know.
Wed Jan 3, 2018, 10:21 AM
Jan 2018

Most people do this.

In a few recent and separate circumstances, some gifts were sent to some young relatives.

No thank you, no acknowledgement, no nothing. Asked about it a month later. Response was, "oh yeah, thanks".

Felt like slapping them upside the head.

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