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Wed Aug 8, 2018, 06:59 PM

I brought Curly's ashes home last night.

When I got into the car I held the little box to my heart and wept. I learned 50+ years ago that when you have pets, they WILL eventually get sick, get old and die. But that doesn't make it any easier when they do.

I still feel this enormous hole in my heart. I believe that this death has hurt me more than any other pet's loss in my life. I'm not going nearly as far as this, but I remember in 1963 when my grandfather's dog of 22 years, Pepper, died, he lost all will to live. I often heard my mom and aunts & uncles recounting hearing Grand Pop saying that his dog was dead and he didn't want to live anymore. He was gone within a few months. I certainly don't go as far as that. In fact, I want to get another doggie again BECAUSE of how much I love Curly.

But DAMN, this still hurts like Hell. I didn't know that I could cry this much in 5 years, let alone 5 days! I keep remembering how VP Biden saying how eventually the memory will bring the smile before it brings the tear. I know that this will eventually come, but God damn, it hurts now.

I love and miss my little boy.

Thanks for reading.

PEACE!

RESIST!

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Reply I brought Curly's ashes home last night. (Original post)
MarianJack Aug 2018 OP
janterry Aug 2018 #1
MarianJack Aug 2018 #2
dhol82 Aug 2018 #3
MarianJack Aug 2018 #9
GemDigger Aug 2018 #4
MarianJack Aug 2018 #12
Permanut Aug 2018 #5
MarianJack Aug 2018 #7
Major Nikon Aug 2018 #6
MarianJack Aug 2018 #8
dhol82 Aug 2018 #10
MarianJack Aug 2018 #20
Major Nikon Aug 2018 #15
MarianJack Aug 2018 #21
Ohiogal Aug 2018 #11
MarianJack Aug 2018 #14
spooky3 Aug 2018 #13
MarianJack Aug 2018 #17
secondwind Aug 2018 #16
MarianJack Aug 2018 #18
Doreen Aug 2018 #19
MarianJack Aug 2018 #22
Doreen Aug 2018 #24
MarianJack Aug 2018 #26
madaboutharry Aug 2018 #23
MarianJack Aug 2018 #25
sinkingfeeling Aug 2018 #27
Moostache Aug 2018 #28
jalan48 Aug 2018 #29
Mrs. Overall Aug 2018 #30
Ligyron Aug 2018 #31
pnwmom Aug 2018 #32
FuzzyRabbit Aug 2018 #33
Roy Rolling Aug 2018 #34
leanforward Aug 2018 #35
Corvo Bianco Aug 2018 #36
The Wizard Aug 2018 #37
heaven05 Aug 2018 #41
The Wizard Aug 2018 #45
heaven05 Aug 2018 #38
Brogrizzly Aug 2018 #39
MFM008 Aug 2018 #40
orangecrush Aug 2018 #42
Totally Tunsie Aug 2018 #43
Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2018 #44
BigmanPigman Aug 2018 #46
JPK Aug 2018 #47
Demonaut Aug 2018 #48

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:01 PM

1. I'm so sorry

and Ji Jang Bosal, Curly. You were loved

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Response to janterry (Reply #1)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:03 PM

2. And he always will be.

Thank you!

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:04 PM

3. My heart hurts with yours.

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Response to dhol82 (Reply #3)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:15 PM

9. Thank you

Grief shared is grief assuaged.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:04 PM

4. My heart hurts for you MarianJack.

I hope your little Curly brings the right dog to take his place to your attention.

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Response to GemDigger (Reply #4)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:17 PM

12. Eventually,...

...after some time for healing.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:05 PM

5. R.I.P Curly..

This post from your human companion shows how loved you were.

I know the road you are walking; I have Murphy's ashes with me on the bookshelf as I type this. Thing is, I took some extra left over food to the shelter after I lost Murphy, and there was Joey waiting for me. He rescued me, and now he is helping me to type this. These little creatures are really special.

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Response to Permanut (Reply #5)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:09 PM

7. Soon for another doggie.

We have to mourn and heal some first.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:08 PM

6. As George Carlin said, life is just a series of dogs

I mourn every one of them Iíve lost. Some more than others. As I get closer to the end I wonder if one of mine will mourn me instead one day.

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Response to Major Nikon (Reply #6)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:13 PM

8. My son made two promises to me.

First, when we go, He'll scatter a vial of each of our ashes where we have our pets' ashes buried.

Second, he'll take care of our surviving pets.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #8)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:16 PM

10. You have an amazingly wonderful son!

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Response to dhol82 (Reply #10)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:28 PM

20. Yes I do, thanks.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #8)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:19 PM

15. We have my in-laws dog

She is old and probably wonít see another summer. She still follows me around the house even though getting up takes more effort.

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Response to Major Nikon (Reply #15)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:30 PM

21. They are SO loyal

I believe we owe them loyalty in return.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:16 PM

11. My heart absolutely aches for you.

May you hold loving memories of Curly close to your heart forever.

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Response to Ohiogal (Reply #11)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:18 PM

14. I certainly will!

Thank you.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:17 PM

13. I'm so sorry. Please remember that Curly lives forever

in your heart.

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Response to spooky3 (Reply #13)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:26 PM

17. He certainly does.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:21 PM

16. Aw, I can imagine what you feel. They really

are like family, and many times more than that.

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Response to secondwind (Reply #16)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:27 PM

18. Very loved family

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:27 PM

19. My heart goes to you.

I am still heart broken about two of my animals the most. One was a very special cat Lunar who helped prevent me from dying and the other was my service dog Shultz who made my life easier and protected me. They both died to early.

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Response to Doreen (Reply #19)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:34 PM

22. It seems they always go too early.

I certainly expected to have Curly for another 2 or 3 years.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #22)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:42 PM

24. My Lunar only lived for 8 years and my Shultz for only 6.

They should have lived for many years more. Even Shultz being a German Shepherd died to soon. then again anytime is to soon.

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Response to Doreen (Reply #24)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:44 PM

26. Any time is too soon.

Last edited Thu Aug 9, 2018, 03:14 AM - Edit history (1)

How very true!

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:39 PM

23. I lost my beloved dog last October

His ashes are in a little rosewood box on the fireplace mantel. Sometimes I just hold it. I miss him every day.

Iím sorry, I know how it feels.

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Response to madaboutharry (Reply #23)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:42 PM

25. I miss him so much!

Thank you.

RESIST!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:52 PM

27. I know how you're hurting. I've had dozens of dogs during my

70 years, but there were 2 or 3 that I had a special bond with. One was a survivor of multiple illnesses, including diabetes. One was my 'soul mate'. One I saved from drowning as a pup. Their deaths were almost unbearable. I still cry on the anniversaries of their passing...22, 14, and 10 years later.

Hugs.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 07:58 PM

28. I am sorry for your loss

I know how hard it is to say goodbye, my last "special kitty" to cross the rainbow bridge is STILL hard on me 2 years later (partly because we only had him for barely 2 years after saving him from being abandoned in a box in the woods)...I do smile more now than get sad thinking of him, so it does get better...

I hope your memories are stronger, and faster, than the grief...in the mean time thank you for providing a safe and happy life for Curly...

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:33 PM

29. I'm sorry for your loss. We had to put down our little broken coat Jack Russell last year and I

still miss him. Our pets are such good friends.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:37 PM

30. This is so difficult. Wishing you much peace.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:41 PM

31. He's been reincarnated

Go find him.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:51 PM

32. Aw, I'm sorry. I know, it's shocking how much it hurts to lose a beloved pet.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:53 PM

33. So sorry for your loss.

We miss our furry family members as much, and sometimes more, than our people family members.

I hope you find your next four legged friend soon. I am sure he or she will bring you as much joy as Curley did.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 08:54 PM

34. It only hurts because you love so much

It is the side-effect of being the kind person Curly loved, too. It hurts. But time will replace those tears.

If you were an a**hole, it wouldn't hurt at all. Curly knew that.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:00 PM

35. You'll always miss them

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:08 PM

36. Love you and Curly hold him close

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:09 PM

37. On losing a beloved pet

On January 4, 1993, the cat in this book and the books that preceded it was put to sleep in Kerrville, Texas, by DR. W.H. Hoegemeyer and myself. Cuddles was fourteen years old, a respectable age. She was as close to me as any human being I have ever known.
Cuddles and I spent many years together, both in New York, where I found her as a little kitten on the street in Chinatown, and later on the ranch in Texas. She was always with me, on the table, on the bed, by the fireplace, beside the typewriter, on top of my suitcase when I returned from a trip.
I dug Cuddles' grave with a silver spade, in the little garden by the stream behind the old green trailer where both of us lived in the summertime. Her burial shroud was my old New York sweatshirt and in the grave with her is a can of tuna and a cigar.
A few days ago I received a sympathy note from Bill Hoegemeyer, the veterinarian. It opened with a verse by Irving Townsend: "We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circleÖ"
Now as I write this, on a gray winter day by the fireside, I can almost feel her light tread moving from my head and my heart down through my fingertips to the keys of the typewriter. People may surprise you with unexpected kindness. Dogs have a depth of loyalty that we often seem unworthy of. But the love of a cat is a blessing, a privilege in this world.
They say when you die and go to heaven all the dogs and cats you ever owned in your life come running to meet you.
Until that day, rest in peace Cuddles.
Kinky Friedman
Madina, Texas
February 5, 1993

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Response to The Wizard (Reply #37)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:29 PM

41. actually

 

don't tell anyone, I so hope that's true... I would love to see them all....

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Response to heaven05 (Reply #41)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:46 PM

45. All my pets

made me a better human.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:26 PM

38. yep, it does hurt

 

stay peaceful in your heart, Curly is at peace........my respects and sympathy......

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:28 PM

39. A lot of love for you Marian, it's hard, hurts.

But I know for a fact you cared and loved Curly with a kind and generous heart. Thank you for that. That makes you an awesome person, take solace inwardly. The pain will get better.

Again a lot of love.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:28 PM

40. So sorry

They wiggle into your heart and break it when they go.
I have to tell my sick mom of 81 her 15 year old kitty died while she was gone.
This wont end well.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:35 PM

42. So sorry for your loss




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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:38 PM

43. Our pet babies give so much and ask for so little in return.

So sorry for your loss.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:40 PM

44. Sooooo sorry MJ. Know exactly how you feel. This

special being who takes care of you and you take care of them is gone. And they were 100% on vigil to take care of you. Always. Reminds me of the joke..Lock your spouse and your dog in the trunk and see which one is glad to see you when you open it up.

The love of a pet (and it's Love for you) is so pure and transcends all human experience.

My dog Larry was diagnosed with aggressive bone cancer 4 months ago. He is still tail wagging and eating and sleeping so still my favorite being. But one day soon I will most certainly feel as you do.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:51 PM

46. I was thinking about Curly

when I read and responded to another post about a very sick pet today on DU. I cried again just now thinking of your loss and how much pain I went through 15 years ago when my little girl died right before Christmas. They say time makes it better to a degree but that does not help much in the meantime. I am still grieving over her. I did get another little girl who now is 15 and I cherish every second with her...since I know there is no "forever". I know a lot of people who died soon after a very loved one died and no one is loved more than our pets. I am sick now but I will live long enough to take care of my baby and that is what counts and I am very happy about that. I will not get another to fill the hole in my heart after she dies since it wouldn't be fair to any dog and would be selfish on my part knowing I couldn't be here to give her a long life of love. I am glad you will be able to do that for another dog and time will eventually allow the good memories to come before the tears. Poor Curly, poor you. I need to get more tissues now (really).

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:53 PM

47. Along with my Mom's ashes

I have other three previous pup's ashes waiting for my own, all to be combined and then scattered. We still have three more that are with us that are quickly approaching the time when they will be included as well. Always hard to lose a life long friend.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Wed Aug 8, 2018, 09:59 PM

48. He knew you loved him...thank you for showing strength

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