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Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:19 PM

In a few hours it will be Fathers Day.

I don't have one to celebrate with. I miss him.

My Father. He slipped quietly away from me early morning 11/09/2014. Alzheimer.

You?

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Reply In a few hours it will be Fathers Day. (Original post)
sheshe2 Jun 2019 OP
Funtatlaguy Jun 2019 #1
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #4
Funtatlaguy Jun 2019 #8
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #11
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #5
no_hypocrisy Jun 2019 #2
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #7
SouthernIrish Jun 2019 #3
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #9
The Velveteen Ocelot Jun 2019 #6
highmindedhavi Jun 2019 #10
Ohiogal Jun 2019 #13
frogmarch Jun 2019 #12
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #14
frogmarch Jun 2019 #17
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #19
frogmarch Jun 2019 #27
CincyDem Jun 2019 #15
GaYellowDawg Jun 2019 #16
Golden Raisin Jun 2019 #18
ploppy Jun 2019 #20
MFM008 Jun 2019 #21
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #22
MFM008 Jun 2019 #23
mnhtnbb Jun 2019 #24
LuckyCharms Jun 2019 #25
MustLoveBeagles Jun 2019 #26
mentalsolstice Jun 2019 #28
Fla Dem Jun 2019 #32
mentalsolstice Jun 2019 #33
Tribalceltic Jun 2019 #29
lapucelle Jun 2019 #30
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #37
Fla Dem Jun 2019 #31
In_The_Wind Jun 2019 #34
sheshe2 Jun 2019 #35
Harker Jun 2019 #36

Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:20 PM

1. Alcoholism took him. He was no prize anyway. Not missed.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #1)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:25 PM

4. I am so very sorry to hear that, Funtatlaguy.

My dad was far from perfect. Very far, yet I loved him and he loved me.

Hugs~

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Response to sheshe2 (Reply #4)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:27 PM

8. Not everyone gets a perfect set of parents. Made me stronger.

He was a terrible bigot. Hated women, Jews, gays, etc.
I learned what not to be from him.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #8)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:30 PM

11. I understand.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #1)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:25 PM

5. I am so very sorry to hear that, Funtatlaguy.

My dad was far from perfect. Very far, yet I loved him and he loved me.

Hugs~

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:23 PM

2. I'm glad he's gone and I don't have to pretend to celebrate anymore.

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Response to no_hypocrisy (Reply #2)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:26 PM

7. Very sorry to hear that.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:24 PM

3. My Dad passed on my birthday in 2015.

I just try and remember how blessed I was to have such a good man for my Dad. It is hard to lose the ones we love, but we were very fortunate to have them in our lives while we did. You can still celebrate the day by remembering him and thinking of memories that put a smile on your face. He would be pleased with that.

Hugs, Jules

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Response to SouthernIrish (Reply #3)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:28 PM

9. Thanks, jules.

Good times and bad times.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:26 PM

6. Me, too.

April of 2011, Parkinson's. He was almost 92. Still miss him.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:28 PM

10. 10 years ago, cancer

Passed on to me alot of what was then considered common knowledge, Airman in the late 60s, HS validictorian, last of his kind it seems.

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Response to highmindedhavi (Reply #10)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 10:18 PM

13. My dad died in 1982

Heart attack triggered by an asthma attack.

He was 48 years old when I was born. He had two postgraduate degrees and was very smart, but he was also an alcoholic who was very bigoted. Most people who didnít know him real well thought he was a swell guy, and at times he could be witty and charming. We were not that close. I am glad I did not carry on with his beliefs.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 09:50 PM

12. My dad died 60 years ago,

when I was 15 years old. He had hypertension, but there was no treatment for it then. He went regularly for examinations at Fitzsimons General Hospital in Denver (then Fitzsimons Army Hospital), but there was nothing they could do.

I'm grateful for all the advances in medicine since then.

I think of my dad every day and still miss him a lot.

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Response to frogmarch (Reply #12)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 10:20 PM

14. I can't even imagine losing your dad at 15.

Way to young to lose a father, frogmarch.

So sorry for your loss and the years that you missed him.

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Response to sheshe2 (Reply #14)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 11:15 PM

17. Thank you sheshe.

It took me aback when I realized he's been gone this long. I remember him almost as if he was here yesterday. My mom died soon after, and I miss her lots too.

They didn't get to know my sisters and me as grownups, and now I'm a great-grandma. Wow, time.

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Response to frogmarch (Reply #17)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 11:38 PM

19. Hey great-grandma.

You are blessed.

The wee ones are everything.

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Response to sheshe2 (Reply #19)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:08 AM

27. They are for sure! nt

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 10:44 PM

15. 7/11/15



Long life. Rich in experiences. Quick end.

(and a lifelong hard core democrat who would be beside himself with the current state of affairs)

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 11:07 PM

16. 4/10/2010

Cancer.

He was the best man I've ever known. I had always hoped to be married, and ask him to be my best man. Never got an opportunity for either.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sat Jun 15, 2019, 11:26 PM

18. My father died (cancer) when I was 16. I turn 70 this year.

Seems like another lifetime ago. He was a narcissist, very cold, distant, severe and without any love for me. A lot of Trump's narcissistic traits and acts have echos and deep resonance for me: the name-calling, belittling, shaming, etc. I truly worry about and have great empathy for Barron.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:24 AM

20. 1972

He was 52. He was a wonderful dad and I still miss him.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:00 AM

21. My dad

Died suddenly , age 69 September 11. 2000.
My mom age 81, after suffering for years this January.
I think of them both often.
Im just a 60 year crybaby orphan.

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Response to MFM008 (Reply #21)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 01:01 AM

22. Oh.



It hurts.

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Response to sheshe2 (Reply #22)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 03:53 AM

23. Thanks

💋😘🤗

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:28 AM

24. This is the first Father's day for my sons

without their father who killed himself the day after his birthday last December 13th. I am having brunch with my oldest son today and hope to get him talking about his feelings. My youngest son communicates very little with me because he blames me for breaking up our 32 year marriage when I left my husband 13 months before he blew his brains out. It's a long story--I've posted some about it over the last 18 months--but not going into details now. Suffice it to say it's a difficult day.

My own father has been gone now for 17 years. He lived to be 91. Although he was what once was known as a Rockefeller Republican, I think he would be appalled by what has become of the Republican party. He was not an affectionate man, but I always knew he loved me.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 07:56 AM

25. Mine passed February 1970.

He was a good man.

I'm sorry for your loss.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 09:47 AM

26. I lost mine on March 21, 2018. He was 72.

It was very sudden. I miss him. He was Bipolar and not diagnosed until I was a teenager. My parents divorced before I was a year old because of his unstable behavior. It wasn't easy dealing with him growing up but things improved when I was an adult. I feel bad for my 6 year old half-brother who has to grow up without him.





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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:39 AM

28. This is my first Fathers Day without my Daddy.

He passed away 9/7/2018. Itís still raw to think about.

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Response to mentalsolstice (Reply #28)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:32 AM

32. The first years are the hardests, peace to you.

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Response to Fla Dem (Reply #32)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 12:01 PM

33. Thanks FD!

He was truly a good man. He and my mom married for all the wrong reasons. He could have bailed out at anytime, and most people would not have blamed him. However, he and most of his family were very gracious under the circumstances. He lived a good long life, 87 years. I hate to say it, but I wish he had outlived my mom. He was much more easygoing and would have adapted easier to widowhood. On the other hand, she has always been manipulating and passive/aggressive.

I miss him!

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 10:39 AM

29. February 1981

I was just 19. His 14th heart attack killed him. I dropped out of College and got married. I miss him and feel so cheated about him not seeing how proud he would have been of me.
Not a day goes by I don't miss him.. to me he was the perfect father figure.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:05 AM

30. February 20, 1993. My dad was a Pearl Harbor survivor. (Schofield Barracks).

He was already in the Army and stationed in Hawaii. I have a picture of him standing under a palm tree next to a big Harley that he owned at the time. He was 23.

He saw action in the Pacific and in Europe. He had four Purple Heart medals and was transported home to New York on The Queen Mary which had been converted into a hospital ship.

He never talked about Pearl Harbor or the war. I found most of this out by accident over time. My mom told me about his Pearl Harbor service when I was about 11 and came home one December 8 all excited because a classmate told us that his uncle had been there.

The only part I remember hearing directly from him was about The Queen Mary.

My dad was always a small businessman. He bought a NYC taxi medallion and had a big yellow checker cab with two extra jump seats in the back. That was a good business before Reagan wrecked the middle class. My parents owned a pretty house and put three kids through school on that income. When we kids got to college, we all had to buy him a rear window college decal for his cab. He wanted everyone to know.










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Response to lapucelle (Reply #30)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 06:06 PM

37. Thanks for your dads history, lapucelle.

My dad was in the So Pacific at the same time. He was stationed on a minesweeper and awaiting orders to sweep the sea of Japan when Pearl Harbor was attacked.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 11:30 AM

31. My Dad, VInnie. Feb 1993 on my birthday. 80 Years.

Great Dad and guy, hardly ever raised his voice. Worked 2 jobs most of the time when we were kids. Loved holidays and family events. Miss him and my Mom who passed at 62.

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 04:23 PM

34. Dad left this earth in the late Spring of 1974.

Maybe we'll meet again in Heaven.

He drank too much. He was only 54 when his heart gave out.


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Response to In_The_Wind (Reply #34)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:19 PM

35. ...

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Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Sun Jun 16, 2019, 05:56 PM

36. Mine died recently.

Why I have mixed feelings about someone who once told me that "everything was fine" until I came along... I'll probably never know.

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