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Related: Culture Forums, Support Forumsi am a toucher , hugger , etc. this emergency has relly upset my world .
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(14,628 posts)I'm a toucher too and I live alone. I live in New Orleans, about 90 minutes from my mom, and I haven't seen her since early March.
She's a very social person but hasn't been able to hang out with her posse. In the Before Times, her little gang of about 6 or 7 old folks would meet for coffee several times a week, lunch or dinner a few more times, and she and my oldest sister would go to dinner at least once a week. All that stopped dead in mid-March and I worry about her.
I call her several times a week and we talk for hours. We mostly laugh at the dumb shit Dumpus said or did that day.
And I make my daughter and my older brother call her frequently, but it's taking a toll on my mother. My sister moved in with my mom a couple years ago, so she's not totally alone, but they keep totally different schedules.
I am so fucking mad at Dump for stealing the joy from my mother's remaining years. She's 92 and in relatively good health, but she really misses her friends. Fucking Dumbass Dump!
safeinOhio
(32,749 posts)They were born in 1911 and 1913 and I never saw them hug or kiss anyone. Now, I'm thinking they were just ahead of their times.
MissMillie
(38,603 posts)I can completely sympathize.
For the longest while, we weren't even able to get into the nursing home to see my mother, let alone hold her hand or hug her.
It may not have done much for her--though I'm sure there's an argument to be made that she would have felt it even though she was not conscious--but it would have done me a world of good.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,976 posts)this is even starting to bother me. I haven't had direct physical contact with a live human since March, and even for an introvert like me it's a getting to be a drag. I don't have much in the way of family anymore and what's left of them aren't huggers either, but still. I hope we haven't all gone completely mad by the time this damn thing is finally under control (no thanks at all to His Lardship).
AllaN01Bear
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