I'm such a fuck up

[vercetti2021]

My uncles surprise birthday today. My cousin got him a nice suite at our local ball park tonight with his friends and family. Myself included. Anyways I can't imagine how expensive it was. But I went downstairs to see my father who was also here for the game. About 15 minutes of talking to him. I went back upstairs to the suite and everyone was standing around waiting for him. Everyone went back inside and I walked out of the suite for a split second as he was walking towards the room. He saw me. I ruined the surprise.

Everyone gave me dirty looks as I ruined it. So I know I'm going to be screamed at later after this ballgame and party ends. So I'm huddled in a spot away from everyone feeling awful.

[Hugh_Lebowski]

1. Just because he saw you doesn't mean he knew there'd be a whole bunch of people

Nor, more importantly, who all those people would be.

At best, as you describe it, he got a 'clue' a few seconds early.

Seems pretty minor, no need to beat yourself up over it my friend.

[vercetti2021]

2. I agree

But the pissed stares tell me otherwise and silent treatments

[Hugh_Lebowski]

4. The most important part is not the 'shock' it's the joy of the person you're celebrating

seeing that a bunch of people he didn't expect being there to join him to celebrate. I'm VERY sure your Uncle doesn't give a crap that he ended up being slightly more suspicious in the seconds before. And no matter what he was surprised by who was there, other than you. And it's not like you purposefully betrayed everyone, it was an accident.

Sounds like the angry ones are being pretty selfish, no offense to your family and friends.

[Ocelot II]

5. That's on them. You did nothing wrong, and if anybody is blaming you

for "ruining" the surprise, they're being petty assholes.

[vercetti2021]

7. I tend to do that

Just unexpectedly it happens

[cate94]

3. Anyone going to a suite

On or near their birthday, knows something is up. Or, at least has some suspicions. Don’t worry about it. If the party goes well, it will be okay.

[pandr32]

6. +1

[vercetti2021]

8. I hope

But mentally it doesn't help me

[cate94]

11. I'm sorry

I think you could take credit for saving his life, because the shock might have been too much for for your uncle. And btw, your timing is so bad, you’d suck as a comedian. I don’t know your family dynamics, but joking always got my brother out of deep shot. Even stupid jokes (like mine). Good luck.

[Lars39]

9. If anybody even tries to yell at you or blame you

for something, you leave. Don’t say a word, just leave. They only get to be in your presence if they treat you right.

[Hoyt]

10. At worst, that'll be something everyone laughs about for years.

[cate94]

12. +1

[LisaL]

13. I doubt your uncle believed he was going up to an empty suit.

I am sure he know something was up.

[marble falls]

14. If that makes you such a fuck up, your family would really give me the business!

[vercetti2021]

15. Its just how it is with me

Like I'm not easy sitting still and have to move.

[marble falls]

16. When you gotta move, you gotta move. We learn to forgive others and we never learn how ...

... to forgive ourselves.

If I were your dad, uncle, cousin, I know I wouldn't make no never minds about it. If someone says something about it later: listen quietly, smile and say, "but isn't it grand that these two brothers can meet and have a beautiful birthday celebration with so many family members, right?"

You really care, certainly meant no harm and caused no harm. Be content with an NBA ruling on this: "No harm, no foul".

Ease up on yourself.

[vercetti2021]

17. I did after I went home

Got a text from my cousin later yelling at me but I just ignored it

[marble falls]

18. When stuff means nothing, tell you yourself, "it don't mean nothing." ...

... if doubts creep up, remind yourself that things need to be kept in perspective. What was the important event: getting to give an old man a startle before the party or the party itself? If the emailing cousin can't get it, at least you should.

You were not put on this planet so your cousins can kick your dog. Particularly if no damage was done or if the damage was a piffle.

At least take the satisfaction of being right or at least 'not guilty' and smile at the effect of other people winding up over piffles.