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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsSome one explain to me what an encel is
The only thing I get so far is that they are male and if sexually rejected they kill
Clash City Rocker
(3,406 posts)Short for involuntarily celebrate. Guys who havent had sex with a woman, and who, instead of seeing that as a result of their own inadequacies, blame it on women, to the point where some of them react with violence.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)Clash City Rocker
(3,406 posts)I shouldnt be on the internet typing this time of night.
Aristus
(66,828 posts)Funtatlaguy
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(81,993 posts)And yeah, now that I think of it, thats a term that seems to apply mainly to men. Ive never heard of any women being described that way.
Walleye
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(81,993 posts)For most of her life she was single. Babysat me a lot when I was little. Really wonderful woman, living, sweet, indulgent of my whims and my various play pretend games.
Last time I saw her was several years later, after wed moved away and had gone back for a brief visit. And shed actually found someone! At long last, in her 60s, I think, shed finally found someone, fallen in live, and got married.
And her whole appearance had changed in the process. Gone was the matron look. Where she never wore makeup, dressed in drab utilitarian clothing, her hair in a tight, severe presentation with a hair net, and those black utilitarian shoes like what the nuns wore.
No more of that! Shed transformed into a pretty woman-of-a-certain-age, dressed in more flattering, colorful, and feminine styles, wore some makeup, and her hair was looser, more softly arranged around her face. She was prettier - and her appearance had become something she cared about more than before. Shed gained some weight, and her whole look was softer and more approachable. Her demeanor was different, too - softer, and even a wee bit coquettish. There was a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye that hadnt been there before.
I was still pretty young then but I immediately noticed a difference. Like a drab unremarkable caterpillar that had turned into a glorious butterfly.
Walleye
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(81,993 posts)Especially for those of us who are still breathing!
Tetrachloride
(8,023 posts)to clarification as it might pertain to whatever individual. There are grey areas where a person may exist for a short time.
Involuntary may be voluntary for a time.
Being a jerk to others? thats a lot easier to agree on
Effete Snob
(8,387 posts)Chainfire
(17,757 posts)MicaelS
(8,747 posts)They think they are too good to pay for it.
malthaussen
(17,307 posts)In the incel world, sex is the reward for proper conduct. It utterly confuses and infuriates them that they conduct themselves perfectly (in their own view), yet are denied the acknowledgement of this conduct.
-- Mal
malthaussen
(17,307 posts)It's easy to mock the incels (and I do), but they are the way they are at least partially because they learned all the wrong things from society and their parents.
The rationale of the incel is simple enough: if I act in accordance with the Rules as they have been set down, then I am entitled to possess the sex doll of my dreams. If said doll withholds such due recognition of my perfect actions, then she is being unfair, unreasonable, mean, and probably insolent. It's very much a transactional approach to relationships, with the constraint that there are rigid rules that should be followed by everyone, and that not observing these rules is a capital offense (in extreme circumstances). The incel believes he is a perfect little "gentleman" (by their own words), and that she who fails to acknowledge this, and reward him as he deserves, is being deliberately contrary and unjust. It's quite appalling, really -- but the attitude of the incel is not much different from certain mainstream attitudes, only more extreme.
It would help, of course, if they saw women as people, but that is apparently too much to ask of them.
-- Mal