When you and your SO have a disagreement, do you give each other the silent treatment , yell at each

[debm55]

other or calmly talk it out? We try to calmly talk it out.

[Mad_Dem_X]

1. In the past, I would have given my husband the silent treatment...

nowadays, I try to talk it out with him rationally. He's a lot calmer than I am, so I try to be more like him.

[debm55]

2. I could never go on with the silent treatment

[BlueTsunami2018]

3. Depends on what we're disagreeing about.

I think a disagreement about dinner would resolve more amicably than if someone spent the mortgage on hats.

There are degrees.

[debm55]

4. I see your point.

[ret5hd]

5. Uhhhmmm...what kinda hats?

I’m partial to chain mail.

[sanatanadharma]

6. Many possible disturbances may arise as egos rub against each other, the solution is ...

... always go to bed hugging each other.

Over twenty years we two have never taken anger to bed and only miss the hugs when one is in another town too far.

[debm55]

7. Same here.

[Tetrachloride]

8. Silence maybe, but not the silent treatment

[Ocelot II]

9. I don't have a SO. That way I don't have to worry about such nonsense.

[debm55]

10. Okay. I did include calmly talk it out, though.

[Ocelot II]

11. But that wouldn't be any fun. Throwing things is far more cathartic.

[debm55]

12. I guess to each their own. Neither my husband or I are violent people.

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[jcgoldie]

13. the only time we raise voices is...

If one or both have been drinking. That can escalate an argument quickly. We have enough experience with it in 23 years of marriage, however, that thus far we know when to shut it down and cool off. Usually apologize within an hour or so.

[debm55]

14. That's great that you have worked it out. Never go to sleep without telling each other you love them

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[surrealAmerican]

15. "Let's talk about this later."

Sometimes, having some time to think through your position and your partner's position can help.

[Darwins_Retriever]

16. I go with a tried and true approach

I always agree with her. Very few things are important enough to get in a fight with her, other people yes, her no.