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Got married when I was 17 and that move turned out to be the best decision I ever made during my lifetime. I am convinced of that. Of course my parents said it was never going to last. That was about 40 years ago.
Completely compatible. Doesn't make any difference if we are working together on something or enjoying ourselves doing something. It is all alike. Doesn't matter. Its just a pleasure to be around her.
And after 40 years we barely need to talk with each other very much any more. We know what the other one is thinking. Its become intuitive.
Anyone else get this lucky?
Don
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)because it seems we so rarely do.
good for you
i feel the same.
edit... i never wanted to marry. i thought it was one big headache. 18 years i cannot believe how very easy it is.
33 years and counting. Have never raised our voice at each other. No need to fight when you know every decision the other one makes is in your best interest. Now, yelling at the kids, that's a different story...
oneshooter
(8,614 posts)I was 34 when we got married, she was 29. Three great boys, 26, 24, and 13. She is just as lovely as the day we met.
The secret is to find a woman with good taste in everything......................but men!
Marry her, love her, respect her.......................Heaven!
Oneshooter
But I am happy for you!
PassingFair
(22,434 posts)He is harsher than I am.
Expects more than I do.
I love them just for being here. For being who they are.
Other than the children, we have no real disputes, aside
from the occasional household crap that you have with anyone
you live with.
HopeHoops
(47,675 posts)I STILL can't find mates for my socks, but at least I've got a snuggle.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,976 posts)I have excellent cats.
Humans? Not so much.
NNN0LHI
(67,190 posts)My brother was married 3 or 4 times? Maybe more? Not sure exactly how many because when he was younger he would go on vacation with a girlfriend and come back married and get a quickie divorce and I honestly lost count. His entire younger life was nothing but one tumultuous relationship after another.
He now has had two labs for about ten years now and and has never been happier in his life since he got them. And appears at peace in his life. And I can understand why. They are really good dogs. They are happy. He is happy. Hey, who am I to argue?
Don
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)We've been together for about a year and a half now. We got married last November. We've had a few disputes, but we've resolved them. Mostly by me saying, "Yes, dear." Seriously, we haven't been together for a long time but we seem to have been made for each other.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)that is cute. we did that at the beginning, too. lol. totally forgot. not needed. ahhhh
av8rdave
(10,573 posts)Doc Holliday
(719 posts)on the "barely need to talk anymore" part....but that's about all I missed out on.
We celebrated #35 in September of 2011. I don't know if she's "perfect" or not-- I sometimes suspect that she isn't-- but she'll do until perfect comes along.
Remember the old commercial tagline, "My wife-- I think I'll keep her." ??
That's me....for as long as she'll let me.
sakabatou
(42,202 posts)Even though we haven't met yet, we've been together for almost 5 years.
dixiegrrrrl
(60,010 posts)And have not met?
I really want to hear more about that..sounds fascinating.
sakabatou
(42,202 posts)Plus she's been moving a lot.
NNadir
(33,583 posts)My wife has consistently been my best friend ever.
We were friends before we were lovers, and that I think made all the difference. The only thing I question is whether I've ever really been good enough for her.
We had some very wonderful years too, before having children (although we love our two boys) and that made a lot of difference.
mysuzuki2
(3,521 posts)She had long blond hair, boobs to die for and an "amorous" disposition. At 19 I thought I'd died and gone to heavenon . A few years later I realized that my sense of direction had been 180 degrees off. In my later life I've learned to judge on a better set of criteria.
trof
(54,256 posts)We will have been married 43 years this coming April.
We both have our shortcomings, but who doesn't?
Over the years we've learned that the little things that bug you in a relationship aren't that important in the bigger scheme.
I wouldn't trade her for anyone.
redqueen
(115,108 posts)I wasn't lucky enough to have found him so early. I'm just glad I found him.
frogmarch
(12,161 posts)From the first time we met, we knew we were right for each other, and we were married a few weeks later. That was 46+ years ago, and were still very happy together.
We became great-grandparents of an adorable baby girl last week!
nolabear
(42,002 posts)frogmarch
(12,161 posts)She is for sure. Hope we can make the trip to see her soon. It's unbelievable how quickly time passes. It doesn't seem all that long ago when the baby's grandfather, my firstborn child, was a newborn, and then his firstborn child, the baby's mom, was. Wow.
one_voice
(20,043 posts)after a fools rush in marriage that lasted a year and half...
I started seeing my husband...we've been together almost 24 years. I've known him since I was a freshman in high school, we were very good friends all through high school. We're just enough opposites to keep it interesting. I could not imagine my life without him. He's my best friend.
You also have a nice story...I wish you many more years together!
dixiegrrrrl
(60,010 posts)And the "funny" thing is, I knew when I was 40 that I would not find him until I was 53.
I told a close friend exactly that, in 1980..."I will not fall in love seriously until I am 53."
( sorta that Irish/esp "knowing" thing that happens a lot)
A month before my 53rd birthday we met, by chance, online.
Have been together for 13 years now.
Took him a little longer than it took me to realize this is really the "forever" one, I tease him about that sometimes.
But very early on, we both "just knew".
Worth every minute of waiting, to be grown up enough, to have a healthy relationship, it was.
tabbycat31
(6,336 posts)But he passed away in April. I was on the road when it happened and never got to say goodbye, which hurts me. I miss Tabby every day. He understood me and was always there for me when I was down (more often than not lately).
On the verge of snagging a man who I think is perfect for me but he's as shy as I am and I'm scared to ask him out.
Tikki
(14,562 posts)and 45 years.
19 and 18 years old, respectively.
A sense of humor is very important.
The Tikkis
nolabear
(42,002 posts)Took me a couple tries but some survivor instinct kicked in and in my late twenties I fell in love with a smart, warm, silly, steady man who's just plain good. He goes out of his way to be good. He puts up with my somewhat more colicky creative type personality and I put up with his guy-ness. We've had a good bit of "in sickness and in health" but for the most part are doing really well. Don't believe I'd be better off with another. And the kids are young men to be proud of, not a little because of their dad.
Xipe Totec
(43,892 posts)Bruised, beaten, but not down.
She's out there, somewhere, I know it...
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,791 posts)Xipe Totec
(43,892 posts)Thank you, Miss Peggy!
csziggy
(34,139 posts)35 years in July that we've been legal. It hasn't always been perfect, but we've always fit together. We worked together at our business for decades so it was not as if we spent a lot of time apart.
LOVE my hubby!
Adsos Letter
(19,459 posts)Not always easy, but worth every second.
JohnnyLib2
(11,212 posts)onestepforward
(3,691 posts)It was later in life (I was 31) and I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found him! We've been together 18 years and I couldn't imagine my life with him
Iggo
(47,591 posts)Okay, so she wasn't perfect.
Behind the Aegis
(54,051 posts)We have been together for ten years come February (2-22-02...can't get more easy to rememeber than that). We can't marry because by doing so all heterosexual marraiges would fall apart, cats and dogs would be having sex, rain would flow up, and all food would taste like lima beans! Or so I hear.
He is very easy-going, kind, and gentle. I am a hurricane in a little Jewish, gay man's body, though I have my good moments on occasion.
He may deserve better, but damned if I am going to let him go!
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)Our anniversary was yesterday. Going out tomorrow night to celebrate.
unionworks
(3,574 posts)It isn't about how long you are with someone. Sometimes the "love of your life" isn't measured in hours and minutes.