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Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
4. I accept your apology....
Sun Jan 20, 2013, 01:19 PM
Jan 2013

on behalf of all the posters, incl. myself, who have been needlessly attacked on DU over the years by various other posters.

Having never called anyone a name, or said f___ yu, or cursed at another poster....it's amazing how many "ignores" I've racked up and how many insulting, if not outright attacking, posts I've rec'd from other posters. Why? I guess because I disagreed with their position, and they were extremists.

UTUSN

(70,827 posts)
7. Thank YOU, and you speak for me. I hesitate to jump into this personal thread, but I am TOUCHED
Sun Jan 20, 2013, 03:45 PM
Jan 2013

by your post.

It has been a few years since I got really lambasted/flamed, and years ago those things really hurt. Maybe I've learned to tippytoe in how I frame some opinions, or just avoid some topics that will set-them-off. Or maybe I've grown a thicker skin, and if so I'm thanking those flamers at DU because real life didn't do that for me, vulnerable/tender precious flower that I am. I get that you find the "reason" for flamers doing their ugly thing to be incomprehensible, NOT because we disagree with them in opinions, just a NASTINESS.

Here are some traits of flamers:

Flaming, characterized by:

* Replying provocatively to every post.

* Deliberately ignoring many MANY ANSWERS specific to their DEMANDS..

* Thinking they will wear out whoever their target it, determined to have the last word.

* Launching personal attacks/accusations.

* Ceaselessly demanding Replies, under cover of the pseudo-“altruistic” motive of eliciting an “explanation,” but with NO amount of answers EVER being enough explanation/clarification for this SAINT, with the demanded criteria ever-CHANGING.


I'll always lovingly remember Catwoman's posting long long ago to me, "Don't let them run you off!"

UTUSN

(70,827 posts)
11. Really, my post was not about you and T/A (I have NO idea what happened)
Sun Jan 20, 2013, 05:04 PM
Jan 2013

I replied specifically to the poster and then I talked GENERALLY about flamers (not you). I knew it was tricky jumping into a very personal thread.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
12. Well, UT...I'm glad you're still around! I have grown to accept
Sun Jan 20, 2013, 09:34 PM
Jan 2013

my "ignores" as badges of honor.

If a poster has been posting here for a couple of years and has no ignores, when we know how some posters are....I'm thinking the poster with no ignores isn't really saying anything or voicing an opinion, or giving a true perspective.

nolabear

(42,015 posts)
10. Once again DUtante triumphs. If only the world would follow example.
Sun Jan 20, 2013, 04:25 PM
Jan 2013

Seriously, nice to see a hand extended and shaken. You guys are mensches.

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