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(6,001 posts)
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:06 PM Jan 2013

so the wife looks at me this morning and says

you know you will be at the shelter before the week is out,just name him junior because I know it will be another bernard.

Sad part is she knows me too well

I should get like ten or twenty terriers...they would eat less than one Budster

I loved that dog.

Thank you all of you for the kind words.Life sucks right now but...well it just sucks

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so the wife looks at me this morning and says (Original Post) backwoodsbob Jan 2013 OP
We love you, my dear backwoodsbob... CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2013 #1
thanks backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #2
We understand. gateley Jan 2013 #13
I always try and get a different type of dog, hollysmom Jan 2013 #3
oh I've had em all backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #7
Well, Bernards are certainly huggable, I will give you that hollysmom Jan 2013 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author hollysmom Jan 2013 #4
Between November of pipi_k Jan 2013 #5
it's killing me right now backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #11
I feel your pain... pipi_k Jan 2013 #12
I cried for 6 months when I helped Byron cross the rainbow bridge. In_The_Wind Jan 2013 #6
I'm so sorry. GoCubsGo Jan 2013 #8
Just read about this on other strings. Sorry about your dog, guy. Moondog Jan 2013 #10
I know how you feel - but LibertyLover Jan 2013 #14
you are a good man, BW rurallib Jan 2013 #15
I'm so sorry... a la izquierda Jan 2013 #16
Its GREAT that she knows you so well, bob, elleng Jan 2013 #17
We do feel with you... MrMickeysMom Jan 2013 #18
Make sure you take care of you... ScreamingMeemie Jan 2013 #19
I am so sorry for what you are going through, backwoodsbob magical thyme Jan 2013 #20
I know how hard it is raptor_rider Jan 2013 #21


(6,001 posts)
2. thanks
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:44 PM
Jan 2013

it hurts now...kind of setting in that he is gone.Last night was a shock...now it's setting in.

I adored the Budster.He was literally my best friend.


(62,683 posts)
13. We understand.
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:40 PM
Jan 2013

And when I lose my best friends, I vow never again. But then one finds ME, and I'm able to give that love to my NEW pal, as as I know McChord, Spot, Nero, would have wanted.

It's rough.


(5,946 posts)
3. I always try and get a different type of dog,
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:46 PM
Jan 2013

But I also like to leave some time between dogs. Each dog I owned was unique in their personalities, it makes them so fascinating.
So far I have had a Sheltie (I was a child then and dad bought him), a beagle, a husband that hated animals - big break, a border collie - so amazingly intelligent and now my little stupid hunting dog that is the most affectionate ever, her sweetness makes up for the lack of brains.

Sounds like you are near going to get another soon, best of luck. I tend to look on petfinder.com because most of the shelters near me the choice is which pit bull do I want. There is a lot of dog fighting near here.



(6,001 posts)
7. oh I've had em all
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:54 PM
Jan 2013

Bred shepperds for a while...had my big bear and little bear...have the wonder terrier...The Budster and Major...an arctic wolf....they were my babies.Have sheltered pretty much every breed on the planet when I had my shelter in Virginia working with PAWS and our local no kill.

I LOVE the Bernard attitude and disposition.WHEN I am ready it will be another Bernard pup or a mixed breed bernard.i'll search till I find another Budster.


(5,946 posts)
9. Well, Bernards are certainly huggable, I will give you that
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:02 PM
Jan 2013

It takes a special person to take responsibility for such a large handful. Best of luck to you.

Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)


(21,020 posts)
5. Between November of
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:48 PM
Jan 2013

2008 and June of 2009 we lost all three of our "old girls".

As they aged, I thought my heart would be so broken by their loss that I would never be able to have another dog again.

Two things I learned...

1. It's possible to love again.

2. Getting two more dogs wasn't a betrayal of their memories. Instead, it was an honoring of them...and their kind. So well loved that life would be virtually empty without more furkids to love.

My heart still hurts terribly sometimes for my old girls, but I have my two "new" girls (that we got in 2009 at the age of 10 months - they are sisters).

I hope you find another special friend to love as well.



(6,001 posts)
11. it's killing me right now
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:07 PM
Jan 2013

he was my special baby.Out of the literally hundreds of dogs I've sheltered for our no kill in Virginia...he was the one.I'm getting more networked into our local SC no kills,organizing food drives and such.

It's killing me right now but there will be another budster somewhere sometime.It just hurts bad right now.


(21,020 posts)
12. I feel your pain...
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:18 PM
Jan 2013

For each loss of my old girls, I don't think being hit by a speeding bus would have hurt any worse.

Don't be afraid to cry.

Some people may not understand. To hell with them.

Do what you need to do. And yes...there will be another Budster out there waiting for you to give him a forever home.


(72,300 posts)
6. I cried for 6 months when I helped Byron cross the rainbow bridge.
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 03:54 PM
Jan 2013

It's okay to feel the pain.

You'll always remember your Buddy.

You will love another dog.


(32,114 posts)
8. I'm so sorry.
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:01 PM
Jan 2013

Buddy will send you his successor when he knows you're ready for it. Yeah, life sucks. But, before long, you'll be making life way less sucky for another lucky doggie. Sounds like that's going to be real soon.


(4,833 posts)
10. Just read about this on other strings. Sorry about your dog, guy.
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 04:04 PM
Jan 2013

I've gotten to the point where I just hate outliving pets. Painful.

Hang in there.


(4,788 posts)
14. I know how you feel - but
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 05:14 PM
Jan 2013

life will start to be better when you have the new dog, so go and do it sooner rather than later. Oh, yeah - - name him Junior.


(131,535 posts)
17. Its GREAT that she knows you so well, bob,
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 07:18 PM
Jan 2013

and better that we all can think of you visiting the shelter and providing a VERY loving home for Junior.


(20,453 posts)
18. We do feel with you...
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 07:22 PM
Jan 2013

At least know that we're all special people in this same way! He will ALWAYS live in your heart, I say.


magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
20. I am so sorry for what you are going through, backwoodsbob
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 07:58 PM
Jan 2013
We animal people eventually learn the pain of lost love oh too well.

No doubt you gave your Buddie a great, great life and wherever his spirit is, he will always be with you in your heart.

You'll know when the time is right, and the right new best friend will appear.


(1,014 posts)
21. I know how hard it is
Mon Jan 28, 2013, 01:15 PM
Jan 2013

To lose a loved one. My breed of choice is German Shepherd. I lost my last one 8 yrs ago, and it still hurts. Thinking of getting a pup this spring.

I grew up around them. My father was a cop, and trained them like police dogs. They were awesome dogs around us.

Best one was when I was 15. We got her and the very first night, my mom could not stand her crying. I took her into my room, and she slept with me for over 3 years until I moved out. I'm really good at sleeping on just only a foot of bed. Lol!!!

I moved out after graduation, however moved back in after 3 yrs, was pregnant. Had my daughter and with my parents, moved to the country part of our county.

She was a good dog, never jumped out of the fence, which was only 3 foot high. Just a good girl. Someone poisoned her, just after living out here 2 weeks!!! She died. I lifted her up in the home, didn't know how to climb stairs. I carried her, all 110lbs of her, every time she needed in or out. And someone killed my girl!!! I know who it is, and keeping tabs on my now dogs.

If I get another Shepherd, I'll keep it far away from them!!!

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