The old saying goes, "A son's a son 'til he takes a wife. A daughter's a daughter the rest of...

[agracie]

...her life. "

As the mother of three grown sons, I have to agree. What's your experience ?

[trof]

1. My married daughter is still my daughter.

No sons.

[agracie]

2. Once my son was married, he became a part of the wife's family. We became a distant second. n/t

[we can do it]

5. That's how my brother is - oh yeah and jeebus comes before us too...

Glad I drug his whiny little butt around with me all those years.

[trof]

6. I'm sorry. My son-in-law is 'our boy'.

He comes from a dysfunctional family.
Long story.

He began seeing our daughter when they were 15.
I use the term 'seeing' to mean that he was smitten, although they weren't allowed to date alone until they were 16.

I liked him the first moment I met him.
He hung out at our house a lot, and I was fine with that.
We were the family he wanted, not the one he had.

They lived together 'without benefit of clergy' as they say, while he was doing post-grad work, and I was OK with that. He told me he didn't want to marry until he could provide for my daughter.
Fair enough.

Eventually, the nuptials took place and I now have two really neat grandchildren.

I'm sorry you feel you've 'lost' a son.

[femmocrat]

9. Same here.

He lives near her family though. And she has a big family that is always getting together.

I don't have a daughter, so I'm not sure. Among my siblings, my brother was actually the closest to my parents.

[Tobin S.]

3. It's kind of that way in my family

My sister lives right around the corner from my folks and visits them or talks to them daily. I live 50 miles away and might see or talk to them once a month.

[hedgehog]

4. I made damn sure my DIL knew she was wlecome and I was enchanted that

she married my son. I also made damn sure to give them space. So far, we get along fine.

[a la izquierda]

8. You sound like my in laws

They're super.

[mokawanis]

7. 2 daughters and 1 son

Both of our daughters spend more time with us than my son does...but I'm not complaining because all 3 of them live near us and we get to see them pretty regularly.