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moriah

(8,311 posts)
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 10:33 PM Feb 2012

My cat had to be put to sleep last night.

Last edited Sun Feb 5, 2012, 11:09 PM - Edit history (1)



He was about a month shy of his 11th birthday.

He'd been off his dry food and was drooly, I thought he had a bad tooth, and was waiting for my income tax refund to take him to get his teeth sorted. I was feeding him wet food instead until it came in. Last night I went downstairs for a glass of juice - I've had a nasty stomach flu - and he was sitting in front of his untouched food like he wanted to eat but couldn't get the energy to do it. So I took him to the emergency vet.

It wasn't a bad tooth, or even a recurrence of calcivirus (he'd been exposed when he was a kitten and he's had a few mouth ulcers from it over the years).

He had a tumor in his mouth that the vet said started on one side and, since he'd only been showing symptoms for a little while, she believed it was cancerous. It had already spread into his jaw and under his tongue to the other side. Treatment would have required a specialist, radiation or chemotherapy if it was cancer, and regardless of if it was cancer or not, he would have had to have an artificial jaw placed, which most cats don't tolerate well and would have been difficult to fit to his smushed-up Himalayan face anyway.

He went to sleep purring.

I'm gonna miss my Ninja kitty more than I can say.
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My cat had to be put to sleep last night. (Original Post) moriah Feb 2012 OP
So sorry. Ya feel guilty but know that you did the right thing. The cat didn't suffer much. applegrove Feb 2012 #1
I'm so sorry.... WCGreen Feb 2012 #2
I'm so very sorry.... hlthe2b Feb 2012 #3
................ Angry Dragon Feb 2012 #4
You did the right thing, my dear moriah... CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2012 #5
You were a good person to take care of him in his time of need. CurtEastPoint Feb 2012 #6
He looks almost like my half Himalayan cat Misty. ArnoldLayne Feb 2012 #7
I'm so sorry, moriah. Brigid Feb 2012 #8
I'm so sorry, moriah. GoCubsGo Feb 2012 #9
you did right by your fur baby Skittles Feb 2012 #10
I cry with you... mrs_p Feb 2012 #11
I am so sorry.... Tikki Feb 2012 #12
Best thing you could have done libodem Feb 2012 #13
I'm sorry. emilyg Feb 2012 #14
so sorry - one of life's toughest choices. rurallib Feb 2012 #15
There is nothing harder than hifiguy Feb 2012 #16
"He went to sleep purring." SammyWinstonJack Feb 2012 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss. myrna minx Feb 2012 #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. kaitcat Feb 2012 #19
Very sorry for your loss Betty88 Feb 2012 #20
he was just a lucky kitty stuntcat Feb 2012 #21
I am so sorry for your loss tabbycat31 Feb 2012 #22
I'm sorry to hear that. raccoon Feb 2012 #23
Oh, I'm so sorry TuxedoKat Feb 2012 #24
I'm so sorry - I lost both my boys to a cancer in the jawbone area - haele Feb 2012 #25
I am so sorry for your loss MadrasT Feb 2012 #26
I'm sorry... one_voice Feb 2012 #27
Really, really sorry. RebelOne Feb 2012 #28
So hard, but sounds like you did what you needed to do. wildeyed Feb 2012 #29
I'm sorry for your loss, moriah... that is one beautiful kitty. MiddleFingerMom Feb 2012 #30
Poor beautiful baby. aquamarina Feb 2012 #31
I'm so sorry for your loss, moriah lillypaddle Feb 2012 #32
Aww, so sorry! I lost my Bombay earlier this month pink-o Feb 2012 #33
Peace to you and to Ninja. Jakes Progress Feb 2012 #34
I am sorry to hear about this. Rest in peace, Ninja. Curmudgeoness Feb 2012 #35
my deepest sympathies on your loss~ Spock_is_Skeptical Feb 2012 #36
Thanks, all of you.... moriah Feb 2012 #37
it's so hard to say goodbye to our friends fizzgig Feb 2012 #38
I am so, so sorry. He was a cutie. Behind the Aegis Feb 2012 #39

hlthe2b

(102,292 posts)
3. I'm so very sorry....
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 10:39 PM
Feb 2012

As one with a aging cancer-stricken "pup"-- knowing I am facing that sometime soon, I can only say that I understand the pain.

May your kitty's lifetime of happy memories stay with you and ease your pain.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,636 posts)
5. You did the right thing, my dear moriah...
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 10:41 PM
Feb 2012

I've been there, and yes it is tough...

But you know they rely on us to take care of them. He would have died anyway, but in terrible pain. And what a beautiful boy he was...

He knew you loved him...

He felt safe; that's why he went purring.

CurtEastPoint

(18,650 posts)
6. You were a good person to take care of him in his time of need.
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 11:03 PM
Feb 2012

It was difficult. I've been there, too. He is still purring...trust me.

When I am gone release me and let me go.
I have too many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears.
Be thankful for our wonderful years.

I gave to you my love, you can only guess . . .
how much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you have shown,
but now it's time I travelled on alone.

So grieve a while for me if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It's only for a time that we must part,
so bless the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away, for life goes on.
So if you need me call, and I will come.
Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near.
And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear.
All my love around you soft and clear.

And then when you must pass this way alone,
I'll greet you with a purr and say "Welcome Home!"

ArnoldLayne

(2,067 posts)
7. He looks almost like my half Himalayan cat Misty.
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 11:12 PM
Feb 2012

She is 12 years old. I feel very bad for you as I will be when Misty is gone.

Brigid

(17,621 posts)
8. I'm so sorry, moriah.
Sun Feb 5, 2012, 11:35 PM
Feb 2012

Your Ninja kitty is in a happy place now, across the Rainbow Bridge, I promise.

GoCubsGo

(32,086 posts)
9. I'm so sorry, moriah.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 12:13 AM
Feb 2012

It's hard enough when you know it's coming, but it's even worse when it's out of the blue like this. Hugs.

Skittles

(153,169 posts)
10. you did right by your fur baby
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 12:15 AM
Feb 2012


Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you.....
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.

--by Ilsa Paschal Richardson

mrs_p

(3,014 posts)
11. I cry with you...
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 12:15 AM
Feb 2012

We also put a loved one down last week. I'm so sorry. It is unbelievably hard to say good-bye to our dear companions.

 

hifiguy

(33,688 posts)
16. There is nothing harder than
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 10:54 AM
Feb 2012

saying goodbye to a furry friend for the last time.

Peace to both of you.

 

kaitcat

(193 posts)
19. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 12:27 PM
Feb 2012

He really was beautiful.

Can I go now? By Donna Zeigfinger

MAY I GO NOW? May I go now? Do you think the time is right? May I say good-bye to pain filled days and endless painful nights? I've lived my life and done my best, an example tried to be. So can I take that step beyond and set my spirit free? I didn't want to go at first, I fought with all my might. But something seems to draw me now to a warm and loving light. I want to go. I really do. It's difficult to stay. But I will try as best I can to live just one more day. To give you time to care for me and share your love and fears. I know you're sad and afraid, because I see your tears. I'll not be far I promise that, and hope you'll always know that my spirit will be close to you wherever you may go. Thank you so for loving me. You know I love you, too. That's why it's hard to say goodbye and end this life with you. So hold me now just one more time and let me hear you say, because you care so much for me, you'll let me go today.

Betty88

(717 posts)
20. Very sorry for your loss
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 12:54 PM
Feb 2012

About a year ago we had to put our beloved Sam to sleep for almost the exact same thing. We did not want to put him through chemo and a nasty painful operation. You did the right thing.

stuntcat

(12,022 posts)
21. he was just a lucky kitty
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 01:03 PM
Feb 2012

He had you to take care of him his whole life, and love him, and then help with a very peaceful end.

It's sad right now, but his life was great because of you!

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
24. Oh, I'm so sorry
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 01:29 PM
Feb 2012

for the loss your beautiful, beloved kitty. It must hurt like hell, but I think you did the right thing. (((HUGS)))

haele

(12,660 posts)
25. I'm so sorry - I lost both my boys to a cancer in the jawbone area -
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 01:51 PM
Feb 2012

Once the cancer started showing symptoms, it was a matter of weeks for both of them - one was 15, the other 17 when we had a hospice vet come over and put them to to sleep at home to save them further discomfort. The vet could only have given them another three/four months if we wanted to treat them, and they wouldn't be quality months.
Our vet told me that that elderly cats often have a type of bone cancer in their jaw or skull for over a year, it's just not noticable to their people until the tumor starts to grow and impede their eating, breathing, or vision. By then, it's just a matter of months or weeks, depending on the age of the cat. The only symptom you might see early enough to catch and treat the cancer is unusual or excessive drooling, "goop" around the eyes, or cracked teeth - cats will hide any pain they might be feeling due to a sore jaw or "headache" that the cancer may be causing.
Regular vet and dental visits might catch it early, but even then - if the vet or vet tech doesn't know what he or she is looking at, it might not be caught.

So sorry, he looked like a lovely, happy kitty.

Haele

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
26. I am so sorry for your loss
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 05:02 PM
Feb 2012

What a beautiful kitty.

I had a very similar incident with one of my girls a few years ago.

From the time I noticed the lump on her face until the time she was gone was about 10 days. It was so fast. She was only 3 years old.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
28. Really, really sorry.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 05:07 PM
Feb 2012

I know the pain of losing a beloved part of your family. I had to put down my Rottweiler because she had liver and bone cancer. She was 2 months shy of her 13th birthday.

MiddleFingerMom

(25,163 posts)
30. I'm sorry for your loss, moriah... that is one beautiful kitty.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 07:24 PM
Feb 2012

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It's so damn HARD to say goodbye -- ESPECIALLY to the special ones.
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Take some comfort in having given each other wonderful lives.
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pink-o

(4,056 posts)
33. Aww, so sorry! I lost my Bombay earlier this month
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 08:33 PM
Feb 2012

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She was almost 18, but the Shelter told me she was 4 years younger, so I wasn't as vigilant in looking for cancer as I might have been. She had a tumor in her colon, but like your baby she never suffered. She died at home, but we would have put her to sleep if it had been necessary.

It's so hard. They're your babies, your family members and we will miss them. But here's hoping for paths lined with catnip, trees to climb and feathers to pounce on. Happy trails, Kitties!

Jakes Progress

(11,122 posts)
34. Peace to you and to Ninja.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 08:33 PM
Feb 2012

I have had to have a few put to sleep. I always try to console myself by knowing that I was the only one hurting now.

Very little hurts as much as this. So sorry.

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
35. I am sorry to hear about this. Rest in peace, Ninja.
Mon Feb 6, 2012, 08:41 PM
Feb 2012

You did the right thing. Putting him through so much would be a quality of life problem. This was best, even if it is too sad.

So so sorry.

Spock_is_Skeptical

(1,491 posts)
36. my deepest sympathies on your loss~
Tue Feb 7, 2012, 02:15 AM
Feb 2012

He looks like he could be a littermate to one of ours who is about the same age! My heart just about fell out to see him, what a cutie pie. Okay, you got me crying with ya now.

My thoughts really go out to you during this time, I know much it hurts. We put our 19-yr old kitty to sleep a few months ago, so I definitely can relate to what you are going through. Even when we know it's for the best & they are no longer suffering, it still hurts so much. It's good to know that he went to sleep purring, and being with someone he loved, and who loved him.

Just keep the happy memories of your kitty with you always, I can tell he was well loved and lived a happy kitty life with you.

Sending you all the best vibes and happy, happy kitty thoughts.










moriah

(8,311 posts)
37. Thanks, all of you....
Tue Feb 7, 2012, 03:19 AM
Feb 2012

I appreciate it lots.

I still look up when I hear a creak in the house, thinking he's there. And every time I've opened my front door my eyes have looked for him -- he was an escape artist and loved to run outside past me when I came in... he'd hear my keys and be right there waiting to sneak out.

And I really miss my rumbly vibrating hot water bottle on the small of my back at night.

I know it'll get better with time.

And later this month I'll probably be taking in a pair of ones that look almost just like him, except not smushed up in the face and shorthaired.... a friend of mine's Mom passed on last year and they have been trying to find a home for her two cats. They're mom and daughter, and right now are stuck in a one bedroom apartment with another cat... it's overcrowded and my friend and his girlfriend are about at the end of their rope. They're old, and very cuddly lapcats... and while they'll not replace my Ninja, I know they'll give this place some life again.

Cuz it's awful empty right now.

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