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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy cat had to be put to sleep last night.
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He was about a month shy of his 11th birthday.
He'd been off his dry food and was drooly, I thought he had a bad tooth, and was waiting for my income tax refund to take him to get his teeth sorted. I was feeding him wet food instead until it came in. Last night I went downstairs for a glass of juice - I've had a nasty stomach flu - and he was sitting in front of his untouched food like he wanted to eat but couldn't get the energy to do it. So I took him to the emergency vet.
It wasn't a bad tooth, or even a recurrence of calcivirus (he'd been exposed when he was a kitten and he's had a few mouth ulcers from it over the years).
He had a tumor in his mouth that the vet said started on one side and, since he'd only been showing symptoms for a little while, she believed it was cancerous. It had already spread into his jaw and under his tongue to the other side. Treatment would have required a specialist, radiation or chemotherapy if it was cancer, and regardless of if it was cancer or not, he would have had to have an artificial jaw placed, which most cats don't tolerate well and would have been difficult to fit to his smushed-up Himalayan face anyway.
He went to sleep purring.
I'm gonna miss my Ninja kitty more than I can say.
applegrove
(118,685 posts)WCGreen
(45,558 posts)We were with our Annie last year...
hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)As one with a aging cancer-stricken "pup"-- knowing I am facing that sometime soon, I can only say that I understand the pain.
May your kitty's lifetime of happy memories stay with you and ease your pain.
Angry Dragon
(36,693 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,636 posts)I've been there, and yes it is tough...
But you know they rely on us to take care of them. He would have died anyway, but in terrible pain. And what a beautiful boy he was...
He knew you loved him...
He felt safe; that's why he went purring.
CurtEastPoint
(18,650 posts)It was difficult. I've been there, too. He is still purring...trust me.
When I am gone release me and let me go.
I have too many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears.
Be thankful for our wonderful years.
I gave to you my love, you can only guess . . .
how much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you have shown,
but now it's time I travelled on alone.
So grieve a while for me if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It's only for a time that we must part,
so bless the memories within your heart.
I won't be far away, for life goes on.
So if you need me call, and I will come.
Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near.
And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear.
All my love around you soft and clear.
And then when you must pass this way alone,
I'll greet you with a purr and say "Welcome Home!"
ArnoldLayne
(2,067 posts)She is 12 years old. I feel very bad for you as I will be when Misty is gone.
Brigid
(17,621 posts)Your Ninja kitty is in a happy place now, across the Rainbow Bridge, I promise.
GoCubsGo
(32,086 posts)It's hard enough when you know it's coming, but it's even worse when it's out of the blue like this. Hugs.
Skittles
(153,169 posts)Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you.....
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.
--by Ilsa Paschal Richardson
mrs_p
(3,014 posts)We also put a loved one down last week. I'm so sorry. It is unbelievably hard to say good-bye to our dear companions.
Tikki
(14,557 posts)They have our heart and we never forget them.
Tikki
libodem
(19,288 posts)Kitty was saved a lot of misery. Sorry for your loss.
emilyg
(22,742 posts)rurallib
(62,423 posts)enjoy the memories.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)saying goodbye to a furry friend for the last time.
Peace to both of you.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)myrna minx
(22,772 posts)kaitcat
(193 posts)He really was beautiful.
Can I go now? By Donna Zeigfinger
MAY I GO NOW? May I go now? Do you think the time is right? May I say good-bye to pain filled days and endless painful nights? I've lived my life and done my best, an example tried to be. So can I take that step beyond and set my spirit free? I didn't want to go at first, I fought with all my might. But something seems to draw me now to a warm and loving light. I want to go. I really do. It's difficult to stay. But I will try as best I can to live just one more day. To give you time to care for me and share your love and fears. I know you're sad and afraid, because I see your tears. I'll not be far I promise that, and hope you'll always know that my spirit will be close to you wherever you may go. Thank you so for loving me. You know I love you, too. That's why it's hard to say goodbye and end this life with you. So hold me now just one more time and let me hear you say, because you care so much for me, you'll let me go today.
Betty88
(717 posts)About a year ago we had to put our beloved Sam to sleep for almost the exact same thing. We did not want to put him through chemo and a nasty painful operation. You did the right thing.
stuntcat
(12,022 posts)He had you to take care of him his whole life, and love him, and then help with a very peaceful end.
It's sad right now, but his life was great because of you!
tabbycat31
(6,336 posts)What a beautiful kitty.
raccoon
(31,111 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)for the loss your beautiful, beloved kitty. It must hurt like hell, but I think you did the right thing. (((HUGS)))
haele
(12,660 posts)Once the cancer started showing symptoms, it was a matter of weeks for both of them - one was 15, the other 17 when we had a hospice vet come over and put them to to sleep at home to save them further discomfort. The vet could only have given them another three/four months if we wanted to treat them, and they wouldn't be quality months.
Our vet told me that that elderly cats often have a type of bone cancer in their jaw or skull for over a year, it's just not noticable to their people until the tumor starts to grow and impede their eating, breathing, or vision. By then, it's just a matter of months or weeks, depending on the age of the cat. The only symptom you might see early enough to catch and treat the cancer is unusual or excessive drooling, "goop" around the eyes, or cracked teeth - cats will hide any pain they might be feeling due to a sore jaw or "headache" that the cancer may be causing.
Regular vet and dental visits might catch it early, but even then - if the vet or vet tech doesn't know what he or she is looking at, it might not be caught.
So sorry, he looked like a lovely, happy kitty.
Haele
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)What a beautiful kitty.
I had a very similar incident with one of my girls a few years ago.
From the time I noticed the lump on her face until the time she was gone was about 10 days. It was so fast. She was only 3 years old.
one_voice
(20,043 posts)You did the right thing for your sweet kitty!
RebelOne
(30,947 posts)I know the pain of losing a beloved part of your family. I had to put down my Rottweiler because she had liver and bone cancer. She was 2 months shy of her 13th birthday.
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)MiddleFingerMom
(25,163 posts).
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It's so damn HARD to say goodbye -- ESPECIALLY to the special ones.
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Take some comfort in having given each other wonderful lives.
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aquamarina
(1,865 posts)It's always hard to part with our beloved furr babies. Condolences to you.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)He is a beautiful kitty and I know you will miss him terribly.
pink-o
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She was almost 18, but the Shelter told me she was 4 years younger, so I wasn't as vigilant in looking for cancer as I might have been. She had a tumor in her colon, but like your baby she never suffered. She died at home, but we would have put her to sleep if it had been necessary.
It's so hard. They're your babies, your family members and we will miss them. But here's hoping for paths lined with catnip, trees to climb and feathers to pounce on. Happy trails, Kitties!
Jakes Progress
(11,122 posts)I have had to have a few put to sleep. I always try to console myself by knowing that I was the only one hurting now.
Very little hurts as much as this. So sorry.
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)You did the right thing. Putting him through so much would be a quality of life problem. This was best, even if it is too sad.
So so sorry.
Spock_is_Skeptical
(1,491 posts)He looks like he could be a littermate to one of ours who is about the same age! My heart just about fell out to see him, what a cutie pie. Okay, you got me crying with ya now.
My thoughts really go out to you during this time, I know much it hurts. We put our 19-yr old kitty to sleep a few months ago, so I definitely can relate to what you are going through. Even when we know it's for the best & they are no longer suffering, it still hurts so much. It's good to know that he went to sleep purring, and being with someone he loved, and who loved him.
Just keep the happy memories of your kitty with you always, I can tell he was well loved and lived a happy kitty life with you.
Sending you all the best vibes and happy, happy kitty thoughts.
moriah
(8,311 posts)I appreciate it lots.
I still look up when I hear a creak in the house, thinking he's there. And every time I've opened my front door my eyes have looked for him -- he was an escape artist and loved to run outside past me when I came in... he'd hear my keys and be right there waiting to sneak out.
And I really miss my rumbly vibrating hot water bottle on the small of my back at night.
I know it'll get better with time.
And later this month I'll probably be taking in a pair of ones that look almost just like him, except not smushed up in the face and shorthaired.... a friend of mine's Mom passed on last year and they have been trying to find a home for her two cats. They're mom and daughter, and right now are stuck in a one bedroom apartment with another cat... it's overcrowded and my friend and his girlfriend are about at the end of their rope. They're old, and very cuddly lapcats... and while they'll not replace my Ninja, I know they'll give this place some life again.
Cuz it's awful empty right now.