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I don't know if this is the right forum to post in, I am so sad and am grieving. The best pet I have ever has died this afternoon. "Stewie" named after the kid in Family Guy was found early one morning abandoned at a pet store at 3 weeks old. He was bottle fed around the clock. He was the coolest cat. The most friendly one I have ever had. He used to play with Ferrets and dogs and was the only cat that would jump in the shower with me. He loved to play in water. At night I would call him and he would come to bed with my wife and I, we would lift the covers and he would sleep with head above the blanket line just like a person. He was also the most social cat we ever had...when we had a group of people over he would literally sit in the middle of the circle waiting to see who would hold him. Every morning at 6:41 he would stick his wet nose in my ear and start purring really loud to wake me up. He had been sick for about 3 months, diagnosed with cancer. I will miss him terribly, I am so sad!
If this is in the wrong forum, please let me know and I will delete it!
oregonjen
(3,336 posts)It's so hard to lose a friend and family member.
TexasTowelie
(112,167 posts)It sounds like Stewie had a lot of character and was a real people pleaser that made each day a bit better for your wife and you. I lost a cat about a year ago so I know what you mean about missing him terribly.
840high
(17,196 posts)LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)My best pet ever died two years ago, so I know what you mean. There are some that are just extra special. Stewie sounds like he was a special guy! It's so hard to lose a pet because they are always there.
Consider cross posting this in the Pets Group. When I've lost pets, I've gotten so much support there.
Again, I am so sorry.
gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)there may be a "techie" way of doing it, but I always just start a new topic in the other group and copy and paste, but usually add a line that I'm cross-posting. Here is the Pets Group:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1161
gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)Oscarmonster13
(209 posts)I am so sorry for your loss, as lame as that sounds. I have lost enough furbabies to know it never gets easier. Our last one was only 8 mos and he got a hold of a poisoned mouse and bled to death internally, there was nothing we could do...
After a couple months we got a new kitten, and he is being groomed to be an INDOOR kitty. He also gets under the covers and sleeps with his head in the crick of my arm.
I hope you will find some healing for the hole in your heart soon :hugs:
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)I waited months to get a new one because I didn't think any cat could replace my buddy. Turned out to be true, but my new cat is so cool and affectionate in different ways. Next time, I'm getting a new one pretty quickly to begin a new friendship. Obviously, we might be different. Take care and let us know how it goes.
fizzgig
(24,146 posts)i am so sorry for the loss of your friend
orleans
(34,051 posts)it's hard to lose one we love and the adjustment to their absence takes time
i lost my little furkid (dog) back in june and still have a hard time over the fact that she is not here with me.
stewie sounds very unique with an adorable personality that was greatly appreciated. you were lucky to have each other. and i'm very sorry for such a loss. i suspect the days ahead won't be easy.
i post a lot in the bereavement group
i began posting there about my mom who passed several years ago but i have also posted about my furry little girl who made my world better and left my world so empty after her departure.
leave this thread here in the lounge--no one will object and i've seen other bereavement threads here. but if you would like to make a double post of this, or just come visit, you'll find the bereavement group here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
again, my condolences. take care.
brewens
(13,582 posts)and gave him a nice life. I don't think you get a cat to behave like "Stewie" without being really good to him and making his life fun. I sure hope that after some time you adopt another little friend, he/she will be as lucky as "Stewie" I'm sure.
oldandhappy
(6,719 posts)Sending hugs and a tear. Yeah, these guys leave a big hole in your heart. You and wife give each other lots of hugs. You gave Stewie a lot and he gave both of you a lot. And when you can, give a new kitty a chance to love you, also. Your vet may know of a cat that needs a loving family.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I don't think we require forum etiquette for that. I am so sorry for your loss. Stewie was clearly a classy cat.
Triana
(22,666 posts)Take comfort that he went being very loved. And of course your love went with him.
frogmarch
(12,153 posts)My heart goes out to you. I don't think anything in the world hurts more than losing a beloved pet. I hope you'll find comfort in happy memories of your dear Stewie.
Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)dballance
(5,756 posts)Sounds like he was a wonderful companion.
redwitch
(14,944 posts)And most unusual too. I am sorry for the pain I know you must be feeling.
warrior1
(12,325 posts)Rest in peace Stewie.
arikara
(5,562 posts)and I understand your sadness. It will be 11 years tomorrow that we lost our best cat ever. Spinner was 19 years old and we had him since he was 4. There was just something so indescribably special about him. When he crossed the rainbow bridge my Mr and I said we weren't going to get another at least for awhile but after 3 weeks of crying I told him this is stupid, there are so many that need homes, we aren't going to get over him at least we can get another to help take our minds off our sadness. So we wound up bringing 2 cats home from the spca. They are totally different than Spinner but we love them dearly for who they are.
But I still think of Spinner every day and still miss him after 11 years, and so does my Mr. I do understand your pain and I'm sorry for what you are going through.
Cha
(297,196 posts)Greybnk48
(10,168 posts)I'm sorry. I know it really hurts to lose a loving pet.
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)Skittles
(153,160 posts)Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you...
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.
by Isla Paschal Richardson
Voice for Peace
(13,141 posts)and having moved along, tis time
to make a little heaven for someone new
we are the heavenmakers.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,686 posts)I'm sorry.
Voice for Peace
(13,141 posts)so sad to lose a kitty or anybody.
maybe Stewie was making room for a new buddy who needs a home.
may your tears be sweet and full of love and beautiful memories.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)Vodid
(112 posts)You're lucky to have found him, and had your good times with him.
Archae
(46,327 posts)My calico cat Charlotte is 5 now, and my Tuxedo female Lucky is 15.
And they are THE most affectionate cats you could ever meet.
It's always hard to lose a family member, (and cats and dogs are family members,) so you have my sympathy.
And...Charlotte just jumped up on my lap!
Here's Charlotte and Lucky sleeping on my bedroom chair.
totodeinhere
(13,058 posts)with me ever since I was in grade school has been diagnosed with kidney disease. She is OK for the time being but her disease is irreversible and eventually I will be forced to make a difficult decision when her quality of life deteriorates to the point where the humane thing will be to euthanize her. Losing a pet or having a sick pet is so sad.
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)Losing a pet is very hard-I still get choked up thinking of putting our beloved dog down-about 7 years ago.
It is like a family member, I know, and I am sorry you are so sad. What a lucky cat that was to have you!
jimlup
(7,968 posts)My beloved is sitting behind me right now. She's 8... I worry as she gets to be an older cat. Got to get her in for a check-up this winter.
BeyondGeography
(39,374 posts)You'll always remember Stewie. He's irreplaceable.
RIP Stewie.
wisteria
(19,581 posts)for your loss. They are all so unique and irreplaceable.
The Wizard
(12,545 posts)On January 4, 1993, the cat in this book and the books that preceded it was put to sleep in Kerrville, Texas, by DR. W.H. Hoegemeyer and myself. Cuddles was fourteen years old, a respectable age. She was as close to me as any human being I have ever known.
Cuddles and I spent many years together, both in New York, where I found her as a little kitten on the street in Chinatown, and later on the ranch in Texas. She was always with me, on the table, on the bed, by the fireplace, beside the typewriter, on top of my suitcase when I returned from a trip.
I dug Cuddles' grave with a silver spade, in the little garden by the stream behind the old green trailer where both of us lived in the summertime. Her burial shroud was my old New York sweatshirt and in the grave with her is a can of tuna and a cigar.
A few days ago I received a sympathy note from Bill Hoegemeyer, the veterinarian. It opened with a verse by Irving Townsend: "We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circle
"
Now as I write this, on a gray winter day by the fireside, I can almost feel her light tread moving from my head and my heart down through my fingertips to the keys of the typewriter. People may surprise you with unexpected kindness. Dogs have a depth of loyalty that we often seem unworthy of. But the love of a cat is a blessing, a privilege in this world.
They say when you die and go to heaven all the dogs and cats you ever owned in your life come running to meet you.
Until that day, rest in peace Cuddles.
Kinky Friedman
Madina, Texas
February 5, 1993
Samantha
(9,314 posts)You and your wife gave him a wonderful life and he gave you smiles and happiness. It is a shame our relationships with our pets can't last forever, so I guess the best we can do is just to be thankful for the time we are given with them. So sorry for your loss.
Sam
gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)Stewie was 15
Samantha
(9,314 posts)You know a part of him will always be with you, I am sure.
Sam
murielm99
(30,738 posts)We had to put our 16 year old cat down last fall. It was very hard for us.
I think this is the right forum. We all love our pets, and most of us have lost at least one.
Solly Mack
(90,765 posts)MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts)Bless little Stewie
I'm so sorry you lost him.
He was a little person, and so loved, I can tell. I hope that you find comfort in this time.
NCarolinawoman
(2,825 posts)Charming and sweet little person, who loved and was beloved.
Nothing can, or will, break that mutual love.
ScottyEss
(54 posts)He was friendly with all the other animals he came across, and always came to bed at night with my wife and me.
I have no doubt that Stewie had a wonderful life in your care. And while it will be difficult to let him go, whenever you need a visit he will come to you in your dreams and your reminiscences.
irisblue
(32,973 posts)You gave Stewie a great life, and he gave you his love.
SaveOurDemocracy
(4,400 posts)2naSalit
(86,598 posts)to lose a loved one, human or not. I have a harder time losing a pet than a human, always have.
May he rest in peace.
TlcJobCoach
(16 posts)I had my share of losses. Every time it hurts tremendously, even if you realize they lived a good life and it was their time to go.
So sad. Sorry for your loss.
Joe Shlabotnik
(5,604 posts)To kitty Valhalla
glinda
(14,807 posts)sandpan
(34 posts)I know how you feel. My little Fiona died one month ago and I cry everyday because I miss her so much. She was my best friend the past 4 years. I miss her big blue eyes and her beautiful face that looked up at me when I said her name. Again, I find myself crying and I can't see page without rubbing the tears away. Thank you for writing this post. I don't feel so alone in my sadness and grief. My house is so silent; I need to fill the emptiness. I am trying to adopt another little ragdoll girl kitty; however, the rescue process seems so difficult and slow. Again, thank you and you're not alone.
gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)azurnoir
(45,850 posts)and may you find comfort in his memory
catbyte
(34,382 posts)beautiful tribute. He sounds like he was an awesome little guy. Again, I am so very, very sorry.
bearssoapbox
(1,408 posts)A touching story and tribute.
They wrap themselves around our hearts and lives and we are both better for it.
This is on the wall of the pet cemetery where we have our fur babies cremated.
THE GENESIS CAT
The Lord looked down upon His world, created fresh and new,
With soaring, shining mountain tops and gleaming seas of blue.
The lordly lions roaming free with tigers golden bright,
All very grand, magnificent, but somehow, not quite right.
He stroked His beard and mused awhile and thought of this and that,
'All these are far too big,' he said, 'I'll make a smaller cat;
To edge towards the fire at night, out of the chilly wind,
An independent animal, but needing human kind;
With fur so soft and warm to touch, but brimming full of guile,
With pansy-faced wee kittens to make the children smile.'
All that was very long ago, but still the cat's with us,
Aloof and condescending, but loving all the fuss.
You'll never, ever own a cat, as all cat lovers know,
He'll curl himself around your heart and never let you go.
Author unknown
My condolences.
anasv
(225 posts)a la izquierda
(11,794 posts)Having lost three dogs and a cat, I know your pain.
Sanity Claws
(21,847 posts)My condolences on the loss of your dear cat Stewie. You gave him a wonderful life. May he rest in peace.
B Calm
(28,762 posts)LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)this is a very hard thing to go through. I've been there. Stewie was lucky to have you. And you were lucky to have him.
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)Losing a pet is always hard.
raccoon
(31,110 posts)rurallib
(62,413 posts)my deepest sympathy
samplegirl
(11,477 posts)I hate to read these stories........it is just heartbreaking. I am so sorry for the loss in your life.
Crewleader
(17,005 posts)You have my deepest sympathy and a big hug.
BarbaRosa
(2,684 posts)nirvana555
(448 posts)benld74
(9,904 posts)Please check out http://rainbowsbridge.com/
One can place a memorial to their pet, all funds going to shelters across the country. I used this for my daughters cat Tigger this past year. She didn't visit, but I SURE did.
magical thyme
(14,881 posts)CrispyQ
(36,462 posts)They sure steal our hearts, don't they?
Mnemosyne
(21,363 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)so sort for the loss of your beloved Stewie. What a great cat he must have been to live with from the way you describe him. (((HUGS)))
mike_c
(36,281 posts)I'm sorry. RIP Stewie.
joeybee12
(56,177 posts)truebluegreen
(9,033 posts)immoderate
(20,885 posts)--imm
LiberalEsto
(22,845 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)I know how much that hurts.
Fla Dem
(23,663 posts)I never had a pet because of allergies until I found my baby girl collapsed on my driveway from dehydration. She was only about 6 weeks old and now she is 8. I endure my allergies and asthma because I cannot imagine my house without her. She is my Pal and my little girl. You gave Stewie love and happiness all the days of his life. He was a lucky boy, and he knew he was loved. That is all we can do for our furry children and then remember them forever.
Boomerproud
(7,952 posts)He obviously loved and trusted you, and you gave him a great life. That is all you can do. (((Hugs))) to you and your family and I know Stewie is up in kitty heaven playing with my Spencer and Madison.
gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)I just posted a theology question about pets going to heaven in the religion section.
Tom Ripley
(4,945 posts)gopiscrap
(23,760 posts)It's been a month and I wanted to thank all of you for your kind words on the day of and day after his death. It meant a lot to me! Addition question: my teenage daughter has been lobbying for a new kitty and I am not sure the family is ready for one. How long does one wait after the death of a very beloved pet to get a new one? I know it's a dumb question, but just curious and could use a bit of advise...I have never had a pet like this one before and one that I grieved so hard for! Thanks again...Mike
orleans
(34,051 posts)my furbaby (dog) passed over 7 months ago and i don't foresee getting another (but there are several other factors at play in my personal situation).
it sounds like your daughter is ready to pick up the pieces and begin moving on.
several years ago i lost a beloved dog and six weeks later, without asking me, a friend brought over a ten year old dog from a shelter. i was in no state of mind to make a decision about keeping her (my mom had passed just three months prior) and this ten year old resembled a dog my mom and i had years ago so...i let her stay). i was still grieving over the loss of my other dog, and my mom, and it took a number of months before i warmed up emotionally to this new ten year old. but i did.
my other friends questioned the practically of me keeping the ten year old, knowing she wouldn't be with me that long. but she stayed and i loved her so. she became a comfort, a joy, a companion. i was devastated over losing her. i haven't moved on and am still heartbroken by her absence. she was only with me for three and a half years. yet i am so grateful to have had her that long. i still love her so.
it might take time to warm up to a new addition but eventually you will.
in answer to your question of "how long" -- it sounds like your daughter is answering it for you; it's been long enough and now is the right time for her.
best wishes for whatever you decide.
"weep if you must
parting is hell
but life goes on
so sing as well."
--joyce grenfell
(i just recently found this poem--this is the last part of it -- and i could do well remembering these words myself.)
orleans
(34,051 posts)du has a bereavement group
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
which i first discovered after i lost my mom. it has been a real comfort for me to be able to go there, read, and post. i've posted there about my dog as well as my mom.
warrprayer
(4,734 posts)And as a Cat lover, I can only imagine your grief.
Deepest sympathy.
chrisa
(4,524 posts)All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...
Source:RainbowsBridge.com
May peace find you.
otherone
(973 posts)I hope you start to feel better soon..
MerryBlooms
(11,769 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,339 posts)myrna minx
(22,772 posts)Joe Shlabotnik
(5,604 posts)I've had a few of those cats that are so sociable and human-like. It only makes their loss harder.
840high
(17,196 posts)Tom_Foolery
(4,691 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)for the loss of your beloved Stewie. Sounds like he had a great life with you though. (((HUGS)))
tavernier
(12,388 posts)several months after he passed, and even hissed at Coco who snuggled up in his spot. No one else will believe it, but they weren't there.
Cats have strong spirits.
I may be a nutty old lady, but even my too sane hubby felt him there.
Sorry for your loss... Been there.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)R. P. McMurphy
(834 posts)I know that you will miss him terribly. I'm so sorry he had to leave you. I don't know what happens to us when we die but I hope you will be reunited with him.
Brigid
(17,621 posts)And to his humans.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)And I think this is the best. So sorry about your loss. I'm glad you were such a good pet parent and hope you'll give a good home to another needy animal ASAP. Stewie would want that.
cantbeserious
(13,039 posts)eom
btrflykng9
(287 posts)that you lost your cat, Stewie. It's rough when you find those furry kindred spirits and then have to part ways...
Here's to Stewie.