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gopiscrap

(23,760 posts)
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 10:36 PM Jan 2014

My beloved cat died this afternoon

I don't know if this is the right forum to post in, I am so sad and am grieving. The best pet I have ever has died this afternoon. "Stewie" named after the kid in Family Guy was found early one morning abandoned at a pet store at 3 weeks old. He was bottle fed around the clock. He was the coolest cat. The most friendly one I have ever had. He used to play with Ferrets and dogs and was the only cat that would jump in the shower with me. He loved to play in water. At night I would call him and he would come to bed with my wife and I, we would lift the covers and he would sleep with head above the blanket line just like a person. He was also the most social cat we ever had...when we had a group of people over he would literally sit in the middle of the circle waiting to see who would hold him. Every morning at 6:41 he would stick his wet nose in my ear and start purring really loud to wake me up. He had been sick for about 3 months, diagnosed with cancer. I will miss him terribly, I am so sad!

If this is in the wrong forum, please let me know and I will delete it!

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My beloved cat died this afternoon (Original Post) gopiscrap Jan 2014 OP
I'm so sorry for your loss oregonjen Jan 2014 #1
My sympathies on the loss of your cat. TexasTowelie Jan 2014 #2
I am so sorry. Hugs. 840high Jan 2014 #3
I am so sorry. LisaLynne Jan 2014 #4
Thank you how do you cross post? gopiscrap Jan 2014 #41
You know ... LisaLynne Jan 2014 #57
Thank you! gopiscrap Jan 2014 #66
He sounds like an awesome little guy Oscarmonster13 Jan 2014 #5
I'm really sorry. If he is your only pet, I learned a lesson when my buddy died years ago. Hoyt Jan 2014 #6
rest easy, stewie fizzgig Jan 2014 #7
my heart goes out to you orleans Jan 2014 #8
I'm sorry to hear that, it's never easy. It sure sounds like you did good rescuing him brewens Jan 2014 #9
Thank you for giving Stewie a home and love, and oh ya, the pillow! oldandhappy Jan 2014 #10
One of your family has passed on tavalon Jan 2014 #11
I'm so sorry for the loss of your family member Triana Jan 2014 #12
Ohhh, I am so sorry! frogmarch Jan 2014 #13
I'm so sorry loving vibes to you and yours Arcanetrance Jan 2014 #14
So sorry! dballance Jan 2014 #15
Stewie sounds like a wonderful kitty. redwitch Jan 2014 #16
I'm so sorry for your loss. warrior1 Jan 2014 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss arikara Jan 2014 #18
RIP Stewie.. Cha Jan 2014 #19
Stewie sounds like he was an awesome friend! Greybnk48 Jan 2014 #20
So sorry for your loss! IdaBriggs Jan 2014 #21
... Skittles Jan 2014 #22
twas heaven here with you Voice for Peace Jan 2014 #25
RIP, Stewie. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2014 #23
:( Voice for Peace Jan 2014 #24
Very sorry shenmue Jan 2014 #26
Wow, Stewie was a GREAT cat... Vodid Jan 2014 #27
So sorry to hear that. Archae Jan 2014 #28
I know exactly what you are going through. My 16 year old cat who has been totodeinhere Jan 2014 #29
I am sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester Jan 2014 #30
So sorry for your loss jimlup Jan 2014 #31
That hurts BeyondGeography Jan 2014 #32
He sounds like a wonderful and sweet kitty, so sorry wisteria Jan 2014 #33
this helped me The Wizard Jan 2014 #34
So sorry to read the sad news -- how old was Stewie? Samantha Jan 2014 #35
Thank you gopiscrap Jan 2014 #39
So you guys gave Stewie 14 years and 49 weeks of a wonderful life Samantha Jan 2014 #49
I am so sorry. murielm99 Jan 2014 #36
I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Jan 2014 #37
"He would sleep with head above the blanket line just like a person…" MrMickeysMom Jan 2014 #38
Yes, Stewie was a little person. NCarolinawoman Jan 2014 #82
It sounds like your cat was very much like our Piper. ScottyEss Jan 2014 #40
I am so sorry irisblue Jan 2014 #42
So sorry for your loss. SaveOurDemocracy Jan 2014 #43
That's always sad 2naSalit Jan 2014 #44
This is awful TlcJobCoach Jan 2014 #45
Godspeed good Stewie. Joe Shlabotnik Jan 2014 #46
I am very sorry that your friend died. It is the hardest thing to loose a fur baby. glinda Jan 2014 #47
I'm so sorry. sandpan Jan 2014 #48
Thank you and welcome to DU gopiscrap Jan 2014 #50
may Stewie RIP it's so hard to lose them, they do become family azurnoir Jan 2014 #51
I'm so very sorry to read that you lost your beloved Stewie. I am in tears reading your catbyte Jan 2014 #52
Sounds like Stewie and your family were lucky to have found each other. bearssoapbox Jan 2014 #53
so sorry... anasv Jan 2014 #54
So, so sorry for you. a la izquierda Jan 2014 #55
My condolences Sanity Claws Jan 2014 #56
Sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was really neat cat. B Calm Jan 2014 #58
I'm sorry - LiberalElite Jan 2014 #59
Sorry to hear that davidpdx Jan 2014 #60
I'm sorry for your loss. nt raccoon Jan 2014 #61
hard to lose a good friend rurallib Jan 2014 #62
Sounds so much like my cat samplegirl Jan 2014 #63
I feel for you and know what it is like to lose beloved pets like your Stewie Crewleader Jan 2014 #64
I'm so sorry. BarbaRosa Jan 2014 #65
I'm so sorry that your little one has passed. Take care of yourself. nirvana555 Jan 2014 #67
RIP Stewie. Condolenses to you. benld74 Jan 2014 #68
I am so very sorry for your loss... magical thyme Jan 2014 #69
My sympathies on the loss of your friend. CrispyQ Jan 2014 #70
... Mnemosyne Jan 2014 #71
Ahh TuxedoKat Jan 2014 #72
that is so hard.... mike_c Jan 2014 #73
So sorry to hear this, but I'm sure he's now in kitty heaven! joeybee12 Jan 2014 #74
I am so sorry. truebluegreen Jan 2014 #75
Sorry for the loss of your friend. immoderate Jan 2014 #76
I'm sorry for the loss of your dear cat LiberalEsto Jan 2014 #77
I'm so sorry... Phentex Jan 2014 #78
Feel so sad for you, my cat is nowhere as social as yours, but I will be bereft when that day comes. Fla Dem Jan 2014 #79
Your loving tribute brought tears to my eyes. Boomerproud Jan 2014 #80
Thank you gopiscrap Jan 2014 #83
My sympathies to you and everyone who knew and lovied Stewie Tom Ripley Jan 2014 #81
I have been meaning to write since last week gopiscrap Feb 2014 #84
everyone is different orleans Feb 2014 #91
also, just to let you know orleans Feb 2014 #92
not in wrong forum at all warrprayer Feb 2014 #85
The Rainbow Bridge chrisa Feb 2014 #86
peace and low stress otherone Feb 2014 #87
My deepest condolences. MerryBlooms Feb 2014 #88
So sorry for your loss - Sounds like a great little guy. GoneOffShore Feb 2014 #89
I am so sorry . myrna minx Feb 2014 #90
So sorry Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2014 #93
My heart aches for you. Hugs. 840high Feb 2014 #94
I am sorry for the loss of your loved one... Tom_Foolery Feb 2014 #95
Ah so sorry TuxedoKat Feb 2014 #96
Scottie jumped on our bed tavernier Feb 2014 #97
I'm so sorry. Stewie will always be with you in your heart. Walk away Feb 2014 #98
Stewie sounds like a wonderful friend R. P. McMurphy Feb 2014 #99
RIP, Stewie. Brigid Feb 2014 #100
In your time of need, no forum is really the 'wrong' one. IrishAyes Feb 2014 #101
Condolences cantbeserious Feb 2014 #102
Very sorry to hear btrflykng9 Feb 2014 #103

TexasTowelie

(112,167 posts)
2. My sympathies on the loss of your cat.
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 10:44 PM
Jan 2014

It sounds like Stewie had a lot of character and was a real people pleaser that made each day a bit better for your wife and you. I lost a cat about a year ago so I know what you mean about missing him terribly.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
4. I am so sorry.
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:06 PM
Jan 2014

My best pet ever died two years ago, so I know what you mean. There are some that are just extra special. Stewie sounds like he was a special guy! It's so hard to lose a pet because they are always there.

Consider cross posting this in the Pets Group. When I've lost pets, I've gotten so much support there.

Again, I am so sorry.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
57. You know ...
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 08:24 AM
Jan 2014

there may be a "techie" way of doing it, but I always just start a new topic in the other group and copy and paste, but usually add a line that I'm cross-posting. Here is the Pets Group:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1161

Oscarmonster13

(209 posts)
5. He sounds like an awesome little guy
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:10 PM
Jan 2014

I am so sorry for your loss, as lame as that sounds. I have lost enough furbabies to know it never gets easier. Our last one was only 8 mos and he got a hold of a poisoned mouse and bled to death internally, there was nothing we could do...

After a couple months we got a new kitten, and he is being groomed to be an INDOOR kitty. He also gets under the covers and sleeps with his head in the crick of my arm.
I hope you will find some healing for the hole in your heart soon :hugs:

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
6. I'm really sorry. If he is your only pet, I learned a lesson when my buddy died years ago.
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:13 PM
Jan 2014

I waited months to get a new one because I didn't think any cat could replace my buddy. Turned out to be true, but my new cat is so cool and affectionate in different ways. Next time, I'm getting a new one pretty quickly to begin a new friendship. Obviously, we might be different. Take care and let us know how it goes.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
8. my heart goes out to you
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:17 PM
Jan 2014

it's hard to lose one we love and the adjustment to their absence takes time
i lost my little furkid (dog) back in june and still have a hard time over the fact that she is not here with me.

stewie sounds very unique with an adorable personality that was greatly appreciated. you were lucky to have each other. and i'm very sorry for such a loss. i suspect the days ahead won't be easy.

i post a lot in the bereavement group
i began posting there about my mom who passed several years ago but i have also posted about my furry little girl who made my world better and left my world so empty after her departure.

leave this thread here in the lounge--no one will object and i've seen other bereavement threads here. but if you would like to make a double post of this, or just come visit, you'll find the bereavement group here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

again, my condolences. take care.

brewens

(13,582 posts)
9. I'm sorry to hear that, it's never easy. It sure sounds like you did good rescuing him
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:20 PM
Jan 2014

and gave him a nice life. I don't think you get a cat to behave like "Stewie" without being really good to him and making his life fun. I sure hope that after some time you adopt another little friend, he/she will be as lucky as "Stewie" I'm sure.

oldandhappy

(6,719 posts)
10. Thank you for giving Stewie a home and love, and oh ya, the pillow!
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:24 PM
Jan 2014

Sending hugs and a tear. Yeah, these guys leave a big hole in your heart. You and wife give each other lots of hugs. You gave Stewie a lot and he gave both of you a lot. And when you can, give a new kitty a chance to love you, also. Your vet may know of a cat that needs a loving family.

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
11. One of your family has passed on
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:26 PM
Jan 2014

I don't think we require forum etiquette for that. I am so sorry for your loss. Stewie was clearly a classy cat.

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
12. I'm so sorry for the loss of your family member
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:30 PM
Jan 2014


Take comfort that he went being very loved. And of course your love went with him.

frogmarch

(12,153 posts)
13. Ohhh, I am so sorry!
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:31 PM
Jan 2014

My heart goes out to you. I don't think anything in the world hurts more than losing a beloved pet. I hope you'll find comfort in happy memories of your dear Stewie.

redwitch

(14,944 posts)
16. Stewie sounds like a wonderful kitty.
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:38 PM
Jan 2014

And most unusual too. I am sorry for the pain I know you must be feeling.

arikara

(5,562 posts)
18. I'm so sorry for your loss
Sun Jan 5, 2014, 11:51 PM
Jan 2014

and I understand your sadness. It will be 11 years tomorrow that we lost our best cat ever. Spinner was 19 years old and we had him since he was 4. There was just something so indescribably special about him. When he crossed the rainbow bridge my Mr and I said we weren't going to get another at least for awhile but after 3 weeks of crying I told him this is stupid, there are so many that need homes, we aren't going to get over him at least we can get another to help take our minds off our sadness. So we wound up bringing 2 cats home from the spca. They are totally different than Spinner but we love them dearly for who they are.

But I still think of Spinner every day and still miss him after 11 years, and so does my Mr. I do understand your pain and I'm sorry for what you are going through.

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
22. ...
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:09 AM
Jan 2014

Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you...
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.

by Isla Paschal Richardson
 

Voice for Peace

(13,141 posts)
25. twas heaven here with you
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:19 AM
Jan 2014

and having moved along, tis time
to make a little heaven for someone new

we are the heavenmakers.

 

Voice for Peace

(13,141 posts)
24. :(
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:16 AM
Jan 2014

so sad to lose a kitty or anybody.

maybe Stewie was making room for a new buddy who needs a home.
may your tears be sweet and full of love and beautiful memories.

Archae

(46,327 posts)
28. So sorry to hear that.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:25 AM
Jan 2014

My calico cat Charlotte is 5 now, and my Tuxedo female Lucky is 15.

And they are THE most affectionate cats you could ever meet.

It's always hard to lose a family member, (and cats and dogs are family members,) so you have my sympathy.

And...Charlotte just jumped up on my lap!

Here's Charlotte and Lucky sleeping on my bedroom chair.

totodeinhere

(13,058 posts)
29. I know exactly what you are going through. My 16 year old cat who has been
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:30 AM
Jan 2014

with me ever since I was in grade school has been diagnosed with kidney disease. She is OK for the time being but her disease is irreversible and eventually I will be forced to make a difficult decision when her quality of life deteriorates to the point where the humane thing will be to euthanize her. Losing a pet or having a sick pet is so sad.

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
30. I am sorry for your loss.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:54 AM
Jan 2014

Losing a pet is very hard-I still get choked up thinking of putting our beloved dog down-about 7 years ago.
It is like a family member, I know, and I am sorry you are so sad. What a lucky cat that was to have you!

jimlup

(7,968 posts)
31. So sorry for your loss
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:58 AM
Jan 2014

My beloved is sitting behind me right now. She's 8... I worry as she gets to be an older cat. Got to get her in for a check-up this winter.

 

wisteria

(19,581 posts)
33. He sounds like a wonderful and sweet kitty, so sorry
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:04 AM
Jan 2014

for your loss. They are all so unique and irreplaceable.

The Wizard

(12,545 posts)
34. this helped me
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:05 AM
Jan 2014

On January 4, 1993, the cat in this book and the books that preceded it was put to sleep in Kerrville, Texas, by DR. W.H. Hoegemeyer and myself. Cuddles was fourteen years old, a respectable age. She was as close to me as any human being I have ever known.
Cuddles and I spent many years together, both in New York, where I found her as a little kitten on the street in Chinatown, and later on the ranch in Texas. She was always with me, on the table, on the bed, by the fireplace, beside the typewriter, on top of my suitcase when I returned from a trip.
I dug Cuddles' grave with a silver spade, in the little garden by the stream behind the old green trailer where both of us lived in the summertime. Her burial shroud was my old New York sweatshirt and in the grave with her is a can of tuna and a cigar.
A few days ago I received a sympathy note from Bill Hoegemeyer, the veterinarian. It opened with a verse by Irving Townsend: "We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circle…"
Now as I write this, on a gray winter day by the fireside, I can almost feel her light tread moving from my head and my heart down through my fingertips to the keys of the typewriter. People may surprise you with unexpected kindness. Dogs have a depth of loyalty that we often seem unworthy of. But the love of a cat is a blessing, a privilege in this world.
They say when you die and go to heaven all the dogs and cats you ever owned in your life come running to meet you.
Until that day, rest in peace Cuddles.
Kinky Friedman
Madina, Texas
February 5, 1993

Samantha

(9,314 posts)
35. So sorry to read the sad news -- how old was Stewie?
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:19 AM
Jan 2014

You and your wife gave him a wonderful life and he gave you smiles and happiness. It is a shame our relationships with our pets can't last forever, so I guess the best we can do is just to be thankful for the time we are given with them. So sorry for your loss.

Sam

Samantha

(9,314 posts)
49. So you guys gave Stewie 14 years and 49 weeks of a wonderful life
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 02:09 AM
Jan 2014

You know a part of him will always be with you, I am sure.

Sam

murielm99

(30,738 posts)
36. I am so sorry.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:26 AM
Jan 2014

We had to put our 16 year old cat down last fall. It was very hard for us.

I think this is the right forum. We all love our pets, and most of us have lost at least one.

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
38. "He would sleep with head above the blanket line just like a person…"
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:27 AM
Jan 2014

Bless little Stewie… I'm so sorry you lost him.

He was a little person, and so loved, I can tell. I hope that you find comfort in this time.

NCarolinawoman

(2,825 posts)
82. Yes, Stewie was a little person.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 09:11 PM
Jan 2014

Charming and sweet little person, who loved and was beloved.

Nothing can, or will, break that mutual love.

 

ScottyEss

(54 posts)
40. It sounds like your cat was very much like our Piper.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:29 AM
Jan 2014

He was friendly with all the other animals he came across, and always came to bed at night with my wife and me.

I have no doubt that Stewie had a wonderful life in your care. And while it will be difficult to let him go, whenever you need a visit he will come to you in your dreams and your reminiscences.

2naSalit

(86,598 posts)
44. That's always sad
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:45 AM
Jan 2014

to lose a loved one, human or not. I have a harder time losing a pet than a human, always have.

May he rest in peace.

TlcJobCoach

(16 posts)
45. This is awful
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:45 AM
Jan 2014

I had my share of losses. Every time it hurts tremendously, even if you realize they lived a good life and it was their time to go.
So sad. Sorry for your loss.

 

sandpan

(34 posts)
48. I'm so sorry.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 02:02 AM
Jan 2014

I know how you feel. My little Fiona died one month ago and I cry everyday because I miss her so much. She was my best friend the past 4 years. I miss her big blue eyes and her beautiful face that looked up at me when I said her name. Again, I find myself crying and I can't see page without rubbing the tears away. Thank you for writing this post. I don't feel so alone in my sadness and grief. My house is so silent; I need to fill the emptiness. I am trying to adopt another little ragdoll girl kitty; however, the rescue process seems so difficult and slow. Again, thank you and you're not alone.

azurnoir

(45,850 posts)
51. may Stewie RIP it's so hard to lose them, they do become family
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 02:36 AM
Jan 2014

and may you find comfort in his memory

catbyte

(34,382 posts)
52. I'm so very sorry to read that you lost your beloved Stewie. I am in tears reading your
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 02:39 AM
Jan 2014

beautiful tribute. He sounds like he was an awesome little guy. Again, I am so very, very sorry.

bearssoapbox

(1,408 posts)
53. Sounds like Stewie and your family were lucky to have found each other.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 04:16 AM
Jan 2014

A touching story and tribute.

They wrap themselves around our hearts and lives and we are both better for it.

This is on the wall of the pet cemetery where we have our fur babies cremated.

THE GENESIS CAT
The Lord looked down upon His world, created fresh and new,
With soaring, shining mountain tops and gleaming seas of blue.
The lordly lions roaming free with tigers golden bright,
All very grand, magnificent, but somehow, not quite right.
He stroked His beard and mused awhile and thought of this and that,
'All these are far too big,' he said, 'I'll make a smaller cat;
To edge towards the fire at night, out of the chilly wind,
An independent animal, but needing human kind;
With fur so soft and warm to touch, but brimming full of guile,
With pansy-faced wee kittens to make the children smile.'
All that was very long ago, but still the cat's with us,
Aloof and condescending, but loving all the fuss.
You'll never, ever own a cat, as all cat lovers know,
He'll curl himself around your heart and never let you go.

Author unknown

My condolences.

Sanity Claws

(21,847 posts)
56. My condolences
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 07:27 AM
Jan 2014

My condolences on the loss of your dear cat Stewie. You gave him a wonderful life. May he rest in peace.

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
59. I'm sorry -
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 08:32 AM
Jan 2014

this is a very hard thing to go through. I've been there. Stewie was lucky to have you. And you were lucky to have him.

samplegirl

(11,477 posts)
63. Sounds so much like my cat
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 11:06 AM
Jan 2014

I hate to read these stories........it is just heartbreaking. I am so sorry for the loss in your life.

Crewleader

(17,005 posts)
64. I feel for you and know what it is like to lose beloved pets like your Stewie
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 11:19 AM
Jan 2014

You have my deepest sympathy and a big hug.

benld74

(9,904 posts)
68. RIP Stewie. Condolenses to you.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 12:20 PM
Jan 2014

Please check out http://rainbowsbridge.com/

One can place a memorial to their pet, all funds going to shelters across the country. I used this for my daughters cat Tigger this past year. She didn't visit, but I SURE did.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
72. Ahh
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 03:16 PM
Jan 2014

so sort for the loss of your beloved Stewie. What a great cat he must have been to live with from the way you describe him. (((HUGS)))

Fla Dem

(23,663 posts)
79. Feel so sad for you, my cat is nowhere as social as yours, but I will be bereft when that day comes.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 07:29 PM
Jan 2014

I never had a pet because of allergies until I found my baby girl collapsed on my driveway from dehydration. She was only about 6 weeks old and now she is 8. I endure my allergies and asthma because I cannot imagine my house without her. She is my Pal and my little girl. You gave Stewie love and happiness all the days of his life. He was a lucky boy, and he knew he was loved. That is all we can do for our furry children and then remember them forever.

Boomerproud

(7,952 posts)
80. Your loving tribute brought tears to my eyes.
Mon Jan 6, 2014, 07:42 PM
Jan 2014

He obviously loved and trusted you, and you gave him a great life. That is all you can do. (((Hugs))) to you and your family and I know Stewie is up in kitty heaven playing with my Spencer and Madison.

gopiscrap

(23,760 posts)
84. I have been meaning to write since last week
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 02:25 PM
Feb 2014

It's been a month and I wanted to thank all of you for your kind words on the day of and day after his death. It meant a lot to me! Addition question: my teenage daughter has been lobbying for a new kitty and I am not sure the family is ready for one. How long does one wait after the death of a very beloved pet to get a new one? I know it's a dumb question, but just curious and could use a bit of advise...I have never had a pet like this one before and one that I grieved so hard for! Thanks again...Mike

orleans

(34,051 posts)
91. everyone is different
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 05:00 PM
Feb 2014

my furbaby (dog) passed over 7 months ago and i don't foresee getting another (but there are several other factors at play in my personal situation).

it sounds like your daughter is ready to pick up the pieces and begin moving on.

several years ago i lost a beloved dog and six weeks later, without asking me, a friend brought over a ten year old dog from a shelter. i was in no state of mind to make a decision about keeping her (my mom had passed just three months prior) and this ten year old resembled a dog my mom and i had years ago so...i let her stay). i was still grieving over the loss of my other dog, and my mom, and it took a number of months before i warmed up emotionally to this new ten year old. but i did.

my other friends questioned the practically of me keeping the ten year old, knowing she wouldn't be with me that long. but she stayed and i loved her so. she became a comfort, a joy, a companion. i was devastated over losing her. i haven't moved on and am still heartbroken by her absence. she was only with me for three and a half years. yet i am so grateful to have had her that long. i still love her so.

it might take time to warm up to a new addition but eventually you will.

in answer to your question of "how long" -- it sounds like your daughter is answering it for you; it's been long enough and now is the right time for her.

best wishes for whatever you decide.

"weep if you must
parting is hell
but life goes on
so sing as well."
--joyce grenfell

(i just recently found this poem--this is the last part of it -- and i could do well remembering these words myself.)

orleans

(34,051 posts)
92. also, just to let you know
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 05:07 PM
Feb 2014

du has a bereavement group
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

which i first discovered after i lost my mom. it has been a real comfort for me to be able to go there, read, and post. i've posted there about my dog as well as my mom.

chrisa

(4,524 posts)
86. The Rainbow Bridge
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 04:09 PM
Feb 2014

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...



Source:RainbowsBridge.com


May peace find you.

Joe Shlabotnik

(5,604 posts)
93. So sorry
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 05:12 PM
Feb 2014

I've had a few of those cats that are so sociable and human-like. It only makes their loss harder.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
96. Ah so sorry
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 06:31 PM
Feb 2014

for the loss of your beloved Stewie. Sounds like he had a great life with you though. (((HUGS)))

tavernier

(12,388 posts)
97. Scottie jumped on our bed
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 07:06 PM
Feb 2014

several months after he passed, and even hissed at Coco who snuggled up in his spot. No one else will believe it, but they weren't there.

Cats have strong spirits.

I may be a nutty old lady, but even my too sane hubby felt him there.

Sorry for your loss... Been there.

R. P. McMurphy

(834 posts)
99. Stewie sounds like a wonderful friend
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 08:46 PM
Feb 2014

I know that you will miss him terribly. I'm so sorry he had to leave you. I don't know what happens to us when we die but I hope you will be reunited with him.

IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
101. In your time of need, no forum is really the 'wrong' one.
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 09:45 PM
Feb 2014

And I think this is the best. So sorry about your loss. I'm glad you were such a good pet parent and hope you'll give a good home to another needy animal ASAP. Stewie would want that.

btrflykng9

(287 posts)
103. Very sorry to hear
Wed Feb 12, 2014, 12:29 AM
Feb 2014

that you lost your cat, Stewie. It's rough when you find those furry kindred spirits and then have to part ways...

Here's to Stewie.

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