I wish I could "unfriend' the "friend" of one of my dearest FB friends, but I can't...

[CTyankee]

He and my friend get in arguments on guns and reproductive rights. My friend is totally progressive while his friend is getting worse and worse. He is a turncoat former Dem, now repub, who was a colleague of my friend from way back.

I know. I should avoid any FB interaction where he is present. But those are two subjects that I feel so strongly about I find myself drawn in.

The grilling of PP CEO Cecile Richards brought out the nasty baby-killer stuff from this guy. I couldn't stand it and had to rebut. He promotes LIES.

At least on DU I can Ignore individuals like him.

[hlthe2b]

1. Yet another reason I'm not on Facebook...

The whole "friending/unfriending" concept takes me back to some very unpleasant high school clique memories.

But, I surely empathize with you.

[CTyankee]

2. I would shitcan the guy in a second if I could, but I very much enjoy the posts from my friend.

It's not like a high school clique to me at all. Or at least my situation isn't, but I can appreciate that you have another unpleasant connection with it.

[Skittles]

32. it all sounds so unbelievably juvenile

[TexasProgresive]

3. Don't you just love "IGNORE"?

I don't use it often and when I check on those I have put on ignore, wonder of wonders, some have eating the pizza. I think a new feature of DU could be a Boot Hill page listing all those who have bought the DU farm. That a message to a member when he/she has been put on ignore complete with the ignorer's screen name. I did like DU2's ignore feature where you could ignore OPs by someone but not their replies. There are some who post the same kind of OPs over and over again that just clutter up the site but often are more sensible when replying to anothers OP.

As to Facebook, so far I have resisted my children and grandchildren's insistence that I get a page. I may have to bite the bullet on that. I was trying to contact my internet provider and it wanted me to log in to Facebook or Google to do it. I went on a bike ride to spin off my frustration and figured it out myself, thank you very much. OK enough ranting. I'm all dressed and off the church.

[CTyankee]

7. FB is how I keep up with my son, dtr in law and adorable grandson...

it would break my heart not to keep up with them and FB is our vehicle.

[TexasProgresive]

21. We have them convinced that we are too stupid to facebook

so they send us all the good stuff, pictures and stories in emails. One daughter-in-law has even snail mailed us prints.

[Skittles]

33. honestly, it shocks me

that close family members need that shit site to "keep up"

it is very sad

[avebury]

4. Unfriending your dear friend's friend won't

unfriend your dear friend so why not go ahead and unfriend the one who is really not your friend?

[CTyankee]

5. I don't know how to do that. I tried going to his Facebook page but I didn't see anywhere

to Unfriend him (since he isn't a "Friend" of mine anyway).

I'll do another meditation (almost wrote "medication" oops, too early for that...)...

[underahedgerow]

20. When you see a post from him, click on the chevron on the top right of the post. You can then click

to 'stop seeing posts like this' and 'stop seeing posts from this person'. You're still 'friends' but you don't see the nonsense.

And the meditation can't hurt either!!!!!

Cheers!

[CTyankee]

24. OK. That makes sense. I'll try it...

[yellowdogintexas]

29. if he isn't your friend, you can't unfriend him

but you can block him, or hide all his posts.

I enjoy that actually

[frogmarch]

6. You can "unfollow" them without

unfriending them. Unfollowing someone just means that their posts won't show up in your newsfeed. They can still see your posts.

I unfollow people who play a lot of games on Fb like Candy Crush. I don't want to see their game moves, because if I let them, game move posts will fill up my Newsfeed to the point I won't be able to see what anyone else has posted.

I can go to their status page on my own and see their posts and respond to them if and when I want to, but by unfollowing the person, their posts stay off my newsfeed.

To Unfollow someone on Fb, go to their status page. At the top, on their profile picture, you should see a white bar with the word Following checked. Click it to uncheck it.

I hope this helps.

EDIT: You can follow them again any time you want to, and then turn around an unfollow them. On my setup, when someone I'm unfollowing posts something, I'll get a notification. A bell will go "klong" and I'll see a red square with a white number in it at the top of my page by the white round icon. By clicking it I can see who posted and what the post was about. If I want to read the post, I click the notification.

[CTyankee]

8. oh, thank you. will do...

[frogmarch]

12. You're welcome. :-) You'll still see

their reply posts in yours and your common friends' posts, just not the posts that they themselves start. I think the only way to not see any posts of theirs without unfriending them would be to unfollow the friends you have in common.

[CTyankee]

10. I didn't see where I could click on his page to "unfollow." What am I missing?

[frogmarch]

13. I'll take a screenshot to show you

where I find it. I'll have to put it on Photobucket, so it'll take a few minutes.

[frogmarch]

14. Here's a screenshot to show you

where I find it:



If that's where you see it too, hold your cursor over the white icon for the drop-down list. At the very bottom of the list, you can click Unfollow.

[CTyankee]

15. thanks, but his page doesn't have the "following" option...I do get the opportunity to

follow him but I'd prolly have to send him a friend request, then if said OK, just unfriend him. But that seems a bit over the top...

[frogmarch]

19. Oh, I thought you were already

Fb friends with him. You won't be able to Unfollow him unless you're his Fb friend.

Maybe you'll need to Unfollow the person he's replying to. That person is your Fb friend, right? I don't know why else you'd be seeing the annoying guy's posts.

[bettyellen]

31. you can click on his post, saying you don't want to see it anymore.... this is the same way you

would start to report something, but you can say you don;t want to see his posts anymore.
You do know he won't get a notice if you unfriend him, right?

[nirvana555]

28. I was just going to say you can unfollow. I've had to do it a significant number of times

and how frogmarch said to do it is absolutely correct. Good luck.

[Chan790]

9. I can help you with one of those two issues.

You know what pro-lifers hate? Completely lose their shit over because it shuts down debate?

Any time pro-lifers want to start an abortion debate with me (and being a former seminary student of a pontifical university, I know a lot of rabid pro-lifers), I respond:

It's a dead issue. You lost and you're never going to turn back the clock on reproductive rights. Get over it. Go work for something productive.

They just go apoplectic and sputter. They know this...they know it's true. They just don't know how to let go, but they don't know how to rebut something so patently obviously true either. So, they say nothing. They seethe. They know they've lost and they know that their ability to even argue their position with you or in the current company is at an end. Their resignation and defeatism is fulfilling.

[CTyankee]

11. I've thought of just saying "it's none of your fucking business" and that's probably to come.

I have repeatedly said this: "I say to any MEN who are against abortion: PLEASE DON'T HAVE ONE! Also, MYOB"

Sometimes I get a little sneaky and say to my friend "Funny how repubs yammer on about a subject they know nothing about."

Maybe just a simple "STFU, Steve."

It got a little hot on FB right after Cecile Richards was grilled by the assholes in the House. I crowed about how she handed the committee members their asses.

This guy has had the unmitigated nerve to compare the repub. House members "warm tools" instead of "scrapers, suction, etc..." It was gross and totally off the wall...

[Chan790]

16. He sounds pretty vile.

I'd probably swear at him too.

[CTyankee]

17. I see on his page where he refers to his lord and savior changing him...so my guess is

that the guy has been "born again."

[CTyankee]

18. he's even talked about "vaginas" as in his reference to "warm tools" in them.

I may contact my friend and ask him if he thinks his friend is losing his shit...

[LWolf]

22. I wish I could get a casual friend

to stop putting stuff on MY timeline.

I keep my FB "friend" list small, and while I do subscribe to some groups, my wall is about my personal life. She keeps putting things on there trying to draw me into some kind of political discussion, and I keep ignoring them, as do the rest of my "friends." You'd think she'd get the message. I'm off now to find something new to put on my wall, so that hers will sink.

As for YOUR facebook thing...

I almost always ignore that kind of provocation. A few months back, though, I stepped in to reply to one of my son's "friends." One I'd always detested in real life, who had stepped into my son's post with his typical rw bully attitude.

My son called me and said, "Mom, don't try to reply to him seriously. I engaged him just to see how much of an ass he'd make of himself, and he's doing just fine. Don't worry about me...I'm a big boy now." Yes, he is, at 37, lol. He was worried that the bully would come after me. He knows I can hold my own, but he can't hold back when it's his mom.

Other than that "mom" impulse, I generally do a pretty good job ignoring FB friends of friends.

[Sherman A1]

23. You can delete anything

someone else puts on your timeline. I have a friend that sometimes posts a thing or two, but it's usually something very mundane and I just leave it alone. If it were not, it would be deleted in an instant. Just use the chevron in the upper right corner to get to that option.

[orleans]

30. yep. what post 23 just said. i've deleted crap off my timeline that other people post.

it's a piece of cake. and in the fb shuffle--no one will miss it

[frogmarch]

25. Use the "Hide" feature, and then

click "Block."

float your cursor to the upper right-hand side of a post of the annoying guy's until you see the word "Hide" pop up. Click "Hide," and then select and click "Block this person."

I think that should keep you from seeing any more of his posts.

[CTyankee]

26. that was easy to do! Done! Gone!

And I still have my friend's other posts. Thanks!

[frogmarch]

27. Yay! Glad it worked.

I've never used the Block feature, so I didn't think of it right away.

You're welcome, and thank you for prompting me on what I can use it for too.