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Sun Feb 28, 2016, 06:31 PM

GoFundMe for my father

I'm not really sure, how is acceptable to ask for help. My father has Spinal Stenosis, bulging and disintegrated discs in his back, and chronic pain. He is an Air Force Veteran during the 80s. We're in the middle of a whole house remodel, and he is the type that wants to do everything himself. We, his family, decided to try to get help for him, regardless.

Every morning he wakes up, unable to completely stand up straight for 30 minutes because of the pain. Yet he still works 3 jobs and pushes himself to do the remodel.

We just want to help him relax a bit more and perhaps hire someone to help with the house work or pay medical bills. We want to finish for a family christmas party this year, but between his medical bills, and everything else, its gotten almost to a standstill.

I hate asking for anything, much less charity. But I figured DU has been good to me in the past, maybe things can happen.


Thanks guys. Any amount if anything is ok. The total for the GFM is just a number we decided on that would greatly alleviate things around the house.

https://www.gofundme.com/7ja9yk9x

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Reply GoFundMe for my father (Original post)
JesterCS Feb 2016 OP
JesterCS Feb 2016 #1
JesterCS Feb 2016 #2
Flaxbee Feb 2016 #3
JesterCS Mar 2016 #4
JesterCS Mar 2016 #5
kentauros Mar 2016 #6
JesterCS Mar 2016 #7
kentauros Mar 2016 #8
JesterCS Mar 2016 #14
kentauros Mar 2016 #15
JesterCS Mar 2016 #16
JesterCS Mar 2016 #19
renate Mar 2016 #9
JesterCS Mar 2016 #10
shenmue Mar 2016 #11
JesterCS Mar 2016 #12
JesterCS Mar 2016 #13
greymouse Mar 2016 #17
JesterCS Mar 2016 #18
JesterCS Mar 2016 #20
dana_b Mar 2016 #21
JesterCS Mar 2016 #22
dana_b Mar 2016 #23
JesterCS Mar 2016 #24
OneGrassRoot Mar 2016 #25
JesterCS Mar 2016 #26
TuxedoKat Mar 2016 #27
JesterCS Mar 2016 #28
JesterCS Mar 2016 #31
TuxedoKat Mar 2016 #32
JesterCS Mar 2016 #33
roody Mar 2016 #29
JesterCS Mar 2016 #30
tblue37 Mar 2016 #34
JesterCS Mar 2016 #35
Worried senior Mar 2016 #36
JesterCS Mar 2016 #37
Worried senior Mar 2016 #38
JesterCS Mar 2016 #39
JesterCS May 2016 #40

Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon Feb 29, 2016, 02:07 AM

1. Bump n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon Feb 29, 2016, 02:30 PM

2. TY whomever donated 😊 n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon Feb 29, 2016, 05:35 PM

3. will try to keep this kicked for you, JesterCS

May be a while before I can help. Hope the GFM helps your dad and family.

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Response to Flaxbee (Reply #3)

Tue Mar 1, 2016, 12:46 AM

4. Thanks

We hope so too. Much appreciation for the kick

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Tue Mar 1, 2016, 03:03 PM

5. Well so far, 2 days and 10 dollars.

Less than I hoped but more than I expected. I actually expected it to stay at 0

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #5)

Tue Mar 1, 2016, 06:29 PM

6. Have you tried posting this in GD?

The Lounge has a lot less traffic.

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Response to kentauros (Reply #6)

Wed Mar 2, 2016, 01:54 AM

7. I thought perhaps it might not be allowed in GD n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #7)

Wed Mar 2, 2016, 06:34 AM

8. Oh no, this kind of thing is allowed there,

even embraced.

It's good you haven't posted there yet, though, due to the primaries. It may still get lost even today, but keep bumping it. Far more DUers check GD than they do the Lounge (we're often seen as the ill-begotten stepchilds of DU)

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Response to kentauros (Reply #8)

Tue Mar 8, 2016, 02:41 AM

14. Seems to have stalled at 75 dollars.

A bit discouraging, but it's only been a week. Hopefully it will pick up

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #14)

Tue Mar 8, 2016, 10:22 AM

15. You might also contact DUer OneGrassRoot

She's quite good at getting support for people in this way. Plus, her site, Wishadoo, is all about helping people get support, whether monetary or not

OneGrassRoot profile page.

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Response to kentauros (Reply #15)

Wed Mar 9, 2016, 04:12 AM

16. Thanks! I'll give it a try. N/t

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #5)

Fri Mar 11, 2016, 11:42 PM

19. It's disconcerting

That two teenage girls can get 1000 bucks for a car, but I can't get 100 for my dad. It's been depressing, seeing him not being the superman i grew up with. I've tried posting everywhere I can. I just don't have alot of friends or connections.

Also I apologize if I've been insistent with kicking this thread. I don't know what else to do.

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Wed Mar 2, 2016, 01:47 PM

9. have you called your state's Agency on Aging?

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Response to renate (Reply #9)

Thu Mar 3, 2016, 06:43 PM

10. No, i havent

Didnt know they existed. I'll look over them =D

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Fri Mar 4, 2016, 02:26 AM

11. Chipped in

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Response to shenmue (Reply #11)

Fri Mar 4, 2016, 02:27 AM

12. Ty just got the email, lol n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Sat Mar 5, 2016, 02:38 AM

13. Kick n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Wed Mar 9, 2016, 11:36 AM

17. how about talking to your dad again

I finally realized I have to farm various kinds of work out. If your dad wants to be around for the long term, he likely has to do that. It's accepting being older and not physically perfect.

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Response to greymouse (Reply #17)

Wed Mar 9, 2016, 03:51 PM

18. He's very prideful, and exact when it

Comes to the remodel. Plus it has to be finished before halloween. We would have been alot farther along if not for medical bills and the fact he can't move as well.

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 02:05 AM

20. TY Dana Thomsen for the donation

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #20)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 02:08 AM

21. you're welcome

I hope that your dad is feeling better soon!!

Also why not ask Skinner if you can post this in GD? I haven't been to the lounge in quite a while and just decided that tonight was the night.

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Response to dana_b (Reply #21)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 02:10 AM

22. I have a cross post thread in GD

It sinks pretty fast though.

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #22)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 02:17 AM

23. If I see it, I'll kick it. n/t

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Response to dana_b (Reply #23)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 06:39 AM

24. ty much. :) n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 09:35 AM

25. Apologies for not kicking sooner, and...

have you posted in GD? You're allowed to.



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Response to OneGrassRoot (Reply #25)

Sat Mar 12, 2016, 10:09 PM

26. I have a cross post in GD

But it sinks fast

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 10:58 AM

27. Sorry your fundraiser is going so slowly

Many I've seen posted really seem to take off and I've been amazed at the generosity of people here. Your dad sounds like a great guy and very deserving. Will kick in later today.

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Response to TuxedoKat (Reply #27)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 08:51 PM

28. Thanks, ya it's slow, but I guess

That's to be expected. I just don't want to annoy people by kicking alot

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Response to TuxedoKat (Reply #27)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 10:31 PM

31. Was that you who donated around 11pm est?

If so thank you very much.

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #31)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 10:39 PM

32. Yes

I wanted to keep my word since I said I'd do it today. I usually try to stay anonymous but since you asked me... Hugs to you and your dad and you're very welcome.

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Response to TuxedoKat (Reply #32)

Tue Mar 15, 2016, 01:00 AM

33. Ty very much

I understand wanting to be anonymous, but I'd like to thank each person individually if possible.

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 09:57 PM

29. Is he being treated by the Veterans Administration?

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Response to roody (Reply #29)

Mon Mar 14, 2016, 10:30 PM

30. No

It's is all through normal doctors, hospitals. He has insurance, but copay and %s are high and about 150 a week for coverage

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Tue Mar 15, 2016, 09:36 AM

34. KnR for visibility. nt

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 02:42 PM

35. Kick, still need any help that anyone can provide

Ty all that have already donated

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 03:17 PM

36. I just gave

what I could afford.

My husband has spinal stenosis and he's trying to keep going but it's not easy.

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Response to Worried senior (Reply #36)

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 03:20 PM

37. TY so much. Was watching youtube and

Saw the e ail come through. Now I have to go tell dad, lol. Again ty so much.

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Response to JesterCS (Reply #37)

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 03:26 PM

38. Like I said

I wish it could be more but we're in the same boat with lots of bills.

Sure hope it catches on better and you get what you need.

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Response to Worried senior (Reply #38)

Thu Mar 31, 2016, 03:41 PM

39. If I come into any extra money, I'd definitely help out if I can n/t

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Response to JesterCS (Original post)

Mon May 2, 2016, 08:48 PM

40. Kick n/t

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