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Sun Dec 25, 2016, 06:51 PM

Shoot...christmas is just a nice time off work. But it's kinda lonely.

Thanksgiving was the same. New Years will be too.
I set myself up with nice munchies and movies, but the aloneness is getting to be a bummer.

Anyone else been googling "how to be alone and happy at Christmas"?

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Reply Shoot...christmas is just a nice time off work. But it's kinda lonely. (Original post)
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 OP
liberal N proud Dec 2016 #1
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #3
HeartachesNhangovers Dec 2016 #2
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #4
HeartachesNhangovers Dec 2016 #5
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #6
Yavin4 Dec 2016 #7
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #8
JudyM Dec 2016 #10
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #13
True Dough Dec 2016 #15
doc03 Dec 2016 #9
sl8 Dec 2016 #11
Paula Sims Dec 2016 #12
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #14
cwydro Dec 2016 #16

Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:04 PM

1. If you were anywhere close you would have been welcome at our house

Heck, you could have flown cross country, we don't like to see anyone alone on holidays.

We are staying with our children while we relocate but Christmas dinner today included a young family who is not able to travel this season.

There is always too much food and the more the merrier.

Sorry you are alone.

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Response to liberal N proud (Reply #1)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:17 PM

3. Tanks! It's kinda funny...not humorous...that my friends never invite me to join themm

They're all busy with their families and such.

This one guy I'd been friends with for awhile has stopped talking to me...we tried a romance a few years ago but in the end I had to friend zone him. Just no attraction for me, ya know? But we'd been close friends for 5 or so years anyway.

Well, when I lost my beloved doggie, who was all the family I had, in the summer he was a support for a short time. (I have new babies now). But he's limited emotionally, and supporting a friend who's not a sex partner was too much I guess. He stopped responding after that.

It's funny how people you don't know will reach out but friends, not so much.

Thanks for listening!

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:08 PM

2. Just my wife and I today. We saw a matinee

of La La Land (good!), my wife made all the family phone calls. I'm making the roasted beet-avocado salad and the marinara sauce for her lasagna for tonight. We have a bottle of red wine and a gingerbread woman for dessert.

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Response to HeartachesNhangovers (Reply #2)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:18 PM

4. That must be nice, to be with someone you love. :). n/t

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Reply #4)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:51 PM

5. Definitely less stressful! My parents have

both passed away and my out-of-state siblings have their own holiday traditions. My wife's parents are still around, but they are divorced and also are in the habit of visiting specific friends/relatives on Christmas. We see them all over the course of the year, just not during the holidays.

I pity the folks who only get a limited amount of time off, and have to use it travelling around the big summer holidays or Thanksgiving or Christmas.

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Response to HeartachesNhangovers (Reply #5)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:02 PM

6. I don't have any family.

I do this alone at the holidays thing each year with varying amounts of poise. Today the needle on my keep-up-a-cheery-exterior meter is hitting E.

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:43 PM

7. Go out. Be around people. Help out at a shelter or a hospital.

Don't be alone when you don't have to be.

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Response to Yavin4 (Reply #7)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:12 PM

8. It's about bedtime here, but that's a good idea.

Geee, thinking about going and doing it gives me phobia attacks, though. Hmmm. Better work on that.

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Reply #8)

Mon Dec 26, 2016, 09:40 PM

10. Waste some time watching funny cat or dog videos on YouTube, you'll be laughing

out loud if you're anything like me. Oh, and check out this one that was posted earlier in the Lounge: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1018&pid=911763
And this one: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1018&pid=911627. (The link has even funnier ones)

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Response to JudyM (Reply #10)

Mon Dec 26, 2016, 10:59 PM

13. I always love funny animal vids!!!

Good reminder!

:love ya:

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Response to Yavin4 (Reply #7)

Mon Dec 26, 2016, 11:20 PM

15. This is an excellent suggestion

There are others out there not only alone but struggling, either with physical health or mental health. You can't cure what ails them, but you can be a bright spot in their day.

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:19 PM

9. Well I went for breakfast at Denny's this morning saw 6 other of my

single friends there. I come home and my nieces and boy friends come, it was nice but I couldn't wait
till they left. Went out for dinner at Steak and Shake and now I am watching "We are the Millers" on TV
funny movie. Worst part for me most every place is closed.

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Original post)

Mon Dec 26, 2016, 10:34 PM

12. Same here - just hubby and me

No friends or relatives bother to call. Even direct siblings. It really hurts. We have a few Christmas cards but they never bother to call. The only person that called us was my Mother and she died in May.

I secretly hope to win the lottery to watch them grovel then say - where were you during the holidays and didn't bother to call us?

I cry alone at night so hubby doesn't see but he knows. And I know it upsets him too.

Perhaps next year a DU Christmas meetup??

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Response to Paula Sims (Reply #12)

Mon Dec 26, 2016, 11:01 PM

14. A Meetup would be very cool!

Hugs!!!! I'm sorry that you're lonely too.

I'm kind of introverted so the effort of developing friendships is difficult.


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Response to Paula Sims (Reply #12)

Tue Dec 27, 2016, 11:38 AM

16. Do you call them?

Just curious.

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