PORK ALERT...

[yuiyoshida]

My up stair neighbor is doing the COOK THE WHOLE PIG thing party again this year for Memorial Day. They first did it last year. The PIG is so big they start cooking it today and let it cook all night so they can all eat it tomorrow. There were 20 plus people in the tiny yard last year. The music is presently loud, there is Beer and people are starting to get drunk early.

And no.. I am not invited, as I barely know my neighbor upstairs. The people they invite are from where my neighbor works, so they all talk business, very loudly... its amazing that last year, as late as it went, the other neighbors didn't call the cops.

It seems this is the only day out of the year they shred the back yard, and you can smell bacon for miles. The company must be international, cause I can hear two very loud Aussies laughing at the Americans for electing Donald Trump.

[CentralMass]

1. They are swine for not inviting you ;-)

[yuiyoshida]

4. I don't eat pork really

or beef. I eat chicken and Seafood, so I even if asked I would politely decline. But I don't work for their company, so why would they even bother. Its a company thing.

[CentralMass]

9. Ok. Undetstood.

[still_one]

22. LOL

[luvMIdog]

2. my vegetarian daughter would probably hurl when she smelled it she's very sensitive to that

[yuiyoshida]

6. You can not avoid it...

I live in a downstairs, garage apartment while the neighbors upstairs live in the actual house. The Backyard is considered theirs and I was told by the Landlord I am not to go into the back yard, because she doesn't want the people upstairs to freak.

[luvMIdog]

7. I had a living situation like that once. It wasn't a lot of fun.

[yuiyoshida]

8. Its not fun for me because

I have been living there for 10 plus years, and the neighbor upstairs are fairly new. He got the idea that the backyard would be perfect for his company's staff to come and enjoy a whole cooked pig and beer.

The fact that my landlady told me I am NEVER to venture out in the backyard seems a bit harsh but she said they pay rent for it and I don't and its considered theirs. I can only walk though the garage because Its the only way to reach the sidewalk and leave my place.

They also pay more rent than I so I have obviously less benefits.

[luvMIdog]

12. I imagine she is avoiding arguments over who gets to use it when and is catering to the renter that

pays more. I hope you have a nice park close by. It's depressing to never get any sun.

[underpants]

3. Smoking a pig over night is pretty common

Sorry about not getting invited.

[yuiyoshida]

5. Its a company thing...

I would never be asked, I am sure.

[NCjack]

10. Try to spend the weekend in a Jewish or Muslim B&B. You aren't getting help

from the cops unless your neighbor's party becomes a brawl. Shabby of them not invite you, which would have reduced your suffering.

[yuiyoshida]

14. As mentioned above...

Its a company thing. The part that sucks the most is that my only ground floor window faces the back yard and is right next to the picnic table outside, so there are now, probably about 10 people outside laughing really loud and drinking beer, eating snacks. This will last till 10 pm tonight when they comeback in full force tomorrow to eat for the BBQ pig.

Last year someone got so drunk they were banging on my door asking to use the restroom, and I just never answered the door.

[pangaia]

27. Wow.. I hope you get through the weekend ok.. I mean.. in your head.... sane..

Can you get out of your apartment for a lot of the time.. A park, museum, club, movie, ball game, food,.. take the ferry to.. Tiburon, is it?

[yuiyoshida]

28. well now there are 40 PEOPLE in my back yard and I am not going anywhere

They are so full in the back yard people are hanging out in the garage, and next to my door, leaning on it and talking. I JUST don't fucking exist in my own home I guess. :/

[pangaia]

31. Stay safe, girl.

[Ilsa]

11. Sounds like Memorial day weekend is a good time

To find some friends to stay with, if possible, if you don't mind leaving your home with them around.

[yuiyoshida]

15. NAW no place to go.

Its only two days to put up with a year.

[Iggo]

13. I got once-a-year-blowout-party neighbors.

I roll my eyes and let it slide.

A couple times a year my guitar amp "accidentally" slips past 2, and they grin and bear it.

[yuiyoshida]

17. I wouldn't dare get revenge

My landlady would toss me out on my ass, and I would have no where to go. Money talks and they pay more rent than I do, this makes them ALWAYS RIGHT.

[Iggo]

18. Oh, it ain't revenge.

They do what they do, and I do what I do, and as long as neither of us overdoes it, we got neighborhood peace.

[safeinOhio]

24. A great man once said.

Before you begin a journey of revenge, first dig two graves.

[Iggo]

30. Great man is right.

[safeinOhio]

32. Confucius

[Hassin Bin Sober]

21. We have a building behind us that has several parties a year.

It's a rental near Wrigley Field. To be expected. 20 somethings.

No big deal, close the windows and/or turn on a box fan or a/c for noise.

My downstairs neighbor, on the other hand, makes herself crazy pacing about, twirling her hair and calling the cops.

Some people enjoy the drama.

[Motley13]

16. I would call the cops, since I wasn't invited

How about crashing it? Take booze

[yuiyoshida]

19. Don't need the booze

I have my own weed and not sharing it with anyone.

[JuJuYoshida]

20. Except me. I'm sorry my love, parties happen but they shouldn't disturbs residents

[politicat]

23. Guardians of the Galaxy 2 is very fun.

Pretty sure there are other movies worth spending a couple hours at this weekend.

I'd lock my doors, lock the windows, take a book and be elsewhere.

On the bathroom -- no, that was not at all okay. That was extremely bad manners and a good landlord would have heard that and intervened. That yours didn't says yours is a problem (or you perceive her as enough of a problem that you're afraid to be your own advocate.). And if your landlord is that crappy... it might be time to start looking for something else. Moving sucks, but favoritism because one tenant pays more is a bad business practice. You have a contract, too.

Sure, it's only two days a year, but there are a lot of places where your rights brush up against the other tenants' rights. If they flood something or break something that damages your right to peaceful enjoyment, you're going to be in the same place.

[safeinOhio]

25. You now have one year to

plan for next year. An overnight somewhere else.

[Rollo]

26. I was going to say invite yourself till I read your post about your landlady...

That absolutely sucks.

And I think it's illegal. In my state, at least, a property owner who rents it out as residential has a legal requirement that the property be habitable. The noise of your upstairs neighbors and their overnight backyard event is making your place uninhabitable. At the very least, it's disturbing the peace.

You could call the landlady and explain this to her. Maybe look up the state law on such matters and cite those to her. It's called a warrant of habitability. You could tell her you're going to rent a hotel room for the night and deduct the cost from your rent. However, be prepared to find someplace else to live. It's not right on a human level that you live on the ground floor but are not allowed in the back yard.

[yuiyoshida]

29. First of all moving is not an option for me...

San Francisco is so expensive that rent starts at around 3,000 a month. I got a deal because my place is in a rent control building which is far less than that. My neighbors upstairs are probably paying 5,000 a month.

There are no real cheap places to live in California. People are on waiting lists just to live in the city. Which is why many landlords try and take control of the situation by jacking up their rent prices. Only Rent Control buildings have the lower rent, and only if you have lived there for a long time do you benefit.

If I were to move it would have to be out of the state. No place is really affordable unless I went to Oregon, Washington State or Nevada. I happen to love living in San Francisco but if I moved out, I would never be able to afford to ever move back. Moving to a place in the city means expecting to pay the starting 3,000 a month rent. That's more than I would ever make. So I am stuck here with a slum Land lady who doesn't even live on the property. I can not afford a hotel for one night in this city! Its for the tourists who expect to be paying a very high price.

[Rollo]

33. I think you should contact a renter's rights organization - I'm sure they must exist in SF...

Learn your rights. If you have a lease, you might have better protection, but if you establish a paper trail now and get some legal advice, you might be able to convince your landlady to modify the disruption to your living space by the neighbor.

And again, if it's so bad you have to rent a hotel room for a night or two, you probably have a right to be reimbursed for that by the landlady who has refused to address the situation properly.

Or we could just commisserate with you here and the annual pig roast will go on indefinitely.

[JuJuYoshida]

34. Party's over, glad you survived my love ;-)