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Jack Sprat

(2,500 posts)
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 02:35 PM Dec 2012

Simply incredible

It's a Men's Group, but you are not allowed to relate to fellow men about the pangs of aging. I thought reminiscing about youth could not possibly be offensive to anyone, especially fellow men. Look at my recent post that was hidden by the jury.

I will not dare post anything again on any forum of DU. I have nothing to offer if I have to tread this lightly with my comments. This is beyond absurd. You would not believe the demeaning comments of a couple of the jury members. They were far more hurtful than anything I said. I am most thankful that even a female juror was more judicious in my behalf.

So long friends. I'm signing off forever from DU.

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Simply incredible (Original Post) Jack Sprat Dec 2012 OP
No link but I found your post. CurtEastPoint Dec 2012 #1
I found the post you are referring to and see nothing Arkansas Granny Dec 2012 #2
Don't let them chase you off. Behind the Aegis Dec 2012 #3
It's ridiculous that that was locked. DavidDvorkin Dec 2012 #4
Hidden, not locked. Locking is a host decision. Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #8
Yes, but that locks it. DavidDvorkin Dec 2012 #11
I just want to make it clear that the group hosts werent responsible. Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #15
Oh, okay. Right. DavidDvorkin Dec 2012 #16
Board nannies suck.. Upton Dec 2012 #5
I've participated in a lot of different ones and this one is by far the worst for it Major Nikon Dec 2012 #7
Seriously, I agree, nothing offensive in your post. Denninmi Dec 2012 #6
Apparently not. TreasonousBastard Dec 2012 #13
Nope Macoy51 Jan 2013 #30
I agree, Im astounded that got hidden. Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #9
Rather than getting antagonized over it, there's another way to look at it Major Nikon Dec 2012 #10
I thought about leaving after getting swarmed over an innocent remark, and then... TreasonousBastard Dec 2012 #12
I agree. Get knocked out of the saddle, get right back up on the horse. Denninmi Dec 2012 #14
Stupid fucking hide, plain and simple ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #17
I see no reason to hide it. LeftofObama Dec 2012 #18
Please don't leave libodem Dec 2012 #19
Don't leave Gore1FL Dec 2012 #20
Thanks for all the support...everyone. Jack Sprat Dec 2012 #21
Good. Denninmi Dec 2012 #22
Welcome again discntnt_irny_srcsm Dec 2012 #23
It's not all bad when sung with an Irish accent, either: Denninmi Dec 2012 #24
Well then... discntnt_irny_srcsm Dec 2012 #25
The problem with the jury system is that people only seem to read the alert... lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #27
Sure wish a poster name was included with the alert. Old and In the Way Dec 2012 #26
I have a different idea along those lines Major Nikon Dec 2012 #28
Agreed! Old and In the Way Dec 2012 #29
Keep Posting Macoy51 Jan 2013 #31

CurtEastPoint

(18,664 posts)
1. No link but I found your post.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 02:40 PM
Dec 2012

What exactly was the issue with what you wrote that someone alerted on it? I am puzzled.

Arkansas Granny

(31,531 posts)
2. I found the post you are referring to and see nothing
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 02:50 PM
Dec 2012

offensive. I don't know what motivates people sometimes.

I don't usually post to the Men's Group, but saw this under "Latest Threads".

ETA: Maybe someone was offended by your use of the word "chicks".

Behind the Aegis

(53,988 posts)
3. Don't let them chase you off.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 03:07 PM
Dec 2012

I was going to respond, but saw it was locked. Can you share the results please.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
8. Hidden, not locked. Locking is a host decision.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:13 PM
Dec 2012

This was 6 random DU members, 4 of whom voted to hide. For the life of me I cant figure out why, but Ive got too much going on right now to raise the issue in meta, myself.

Bad hide IMHO.

Upton

(9,709 posts)
5. Board nannies suck..
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 04:23 PM
Dec 2012

and for whatever reason the Mens Group has become one of their main targets. Sure the hide is unfair, but don't let it drive you away.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
7. I've participated in a lot of different ones and this one is by far the worst for it
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:34 PM
Dec 2012

All I can say is there must be either a lot of people with too much time on their hands or a few with way too much time on their hands.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
6. Seriously, I agree, nothing offensive in your post.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:05 PM
Dec 2012

Just the way guys talk at times.

We're still allowed to be men, aren't we?

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
9. I agree, Im astounded that got hidden.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:15 PM
Dec 2012

Id be interested to see the jury results incl. the rationale for the alert.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
10. Rather than getting antagonized over it, there's another way to look at it
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:22 PM
Dec 2012

Think for a minute about the mindset of someone who would alert on it. Either they are so easily offended that they may even have trouble functioning normally in society, or they get their jollies from the action stage of misandry.

Either way I feel pity for them, not anger.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
12. I thought about leaving after getting swarmed over an innocent remark, and then...
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:45 PM
Dec 2012

after a stupid hide or two.

But, we leave, they win. I'm not here to cowtow to the various intolerant wings and make them happy. The more of us who leave the more their tiny voices are heard and whatever usefulness this board has is diminished.

Let's wait to leave until the board becomes useless, unbearable, or both.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
14. I agree. Get knocked out of the saddle, get right back up on the horse.
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:18 PM
Dec 2012

I've learned a few things in life lately, one is to never give up or give in in the face of adversity, or it wins.

LeftofObama

(4,243 posts)
18. I see no reason to hide it.
Tue Dec 25, 2012, 08:28 AM
Dec 2012

Honest discussion, honest responses. I thought that's what a "discussion board" was all about.

libodem

(19,288 posts)
19. Please don't leave
Tue Dec 25, 2012, 10:55 AM
Dec 2012

I'd be upset too, but don't let them win. I think some go in search of something to be mad about. It is like having Nelly Olsen, tattle to the teacher. I never hung out with the snootie girls, even though I'm female. I don't like it.

I recently read of a truce between the groups. The hosts worked stuff out. This seems like someone is playing unfair, games You guys be good, but we get to keep being offended and alerting your business.

Oh, well. It is a shitty deal.


Don't leave!!!

 

Jack Sprat

(2,500 posts)
21. Thanks for all the support...everyone.
Wed Dec 26, 2012, 11:19 PM
Dec 2012

Sometimes it seems as if we have members who just lie in wait to assail anything possible. I thought the Jury system was all right for awhile, but I think there just might be people who enjoy sitting in the Judgment seat and handing out judgments without much deliberation or consideration.

When people respond as you all have, then I can't help but reciprocate in gratitude for support. I will stay, shake it off, and get back up to the plate again. Thanks.

discntnt_irny_srcsm

(18,482 posts)
23. Welcome again
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:31 AM
Dec 2012

Do not let the bastards get you down sounds much better in Latin so nill illigitimi carborundum.
Have a nice day.

discntnt_irny_srcsm

(18,482 posts)
25. Well then...
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:04 PM
Dec 2012

Here's to the land of the shamrock so green,
Here's to each lad and his darlin' Colleen,
Here's to the ones we love dearest and most.
May God bless old Ireland, that's this Irishman's toast!

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
27. The problem with the jury system is that people only seem to read the alert...
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 03:56 PM
Dec 2012

... and accept it as authoritative.

Old and In the Way

(37,540 posts)
26. Sure wish a poster name was included with the alert.
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:36 PM
Dec 2012

That would tell you a lot about the alert motivation, IMHO. I can think of a few people on DU that would do such a frivolous alert. Adding a name might also cut back on a lot of bogus alerts that are designed to make this board suck.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
28. I have a different idea along those lines
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 09:19 PM
Dec 2012

The feature I'd like to see is that if someone has a certain number of alerts over a certain period of time, the ratio of hides vs no-hides would show up on their transparency page.

For instance, let's say the trigger number was 30 alerts over 90 days. A person who had more than that would have their ratio displayed on their transparency page. When people start showing up with <25%, it won't be too hard to figure out who the disrupters are.

Old and In the Way

(37,540 posts)
29. Agreed!
Thu Dec 27, 2012, 11:47 PM
Dec 2012

I think it is relevant info for the DU community to know each posters-
(1) total # OF Alerts (what does the total time cost DUers in "jury duty"?)
(2) Won/Loss record and ave jury decision.

Seems to me we could use this data to rid trolls/disrupters, completely and automatically.

 

Macoy51

(239 posts)
31. Keep Posting
Thu Jan 3, 2013, 08:22 AM
Jan 2013

I agree that leaving just lets them win. Stand and fight for what you believe in. I have only received one “hide” decision, but I just shrugged it off and continued to post the next day.


macoy

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