Systematic Chaos died this morning.

[GliderGuider]

His last DU post was just yesterday: http://www.democraticunderground.com/112786380#post1

From his wife's FB notificaton:

This is Jeanette Tuminaro, letting Kirks friends and family know that Kirk died this morning. He apparently died in his sleep, with little to no pain, and no struggle or any discomfort. I know he took pain medication last night, the remainder of a hoarded batch, since he had finally received a bottle full of new pain medication. He had been recently dealing with more breathing problems while sleeping, due to his severe sleep apnea. He had been in a lot of total body pain, especially in his hip, and I didn't begrudge him the extra pain medication he took. I was dozing in a nearby chair, playing a game and watching tv. I didn't realize he was very quiet, until around 7 or 8am, but when I did, I went and attempted to revive him. He was pronounced dead upon the arrival of emergency personnel. He didn't have his oxygen tube on, but it's unlikely that the oxygen would have helped.

We would have celebrated our 12th anniversary on Monday, June 8, 2015. We would have also celebrated our 13th year of knowing each other on July 8, 2015. We had also made plans to go to a buffet or something tomorrow. I will note that he was in a good mood when he went to bed, we had spent some time stretching and just spending a few minutes together before he went to sleep. He went to sleep peacefully, and wasn't in any major pain because of the additional pain pills.

I'm hoping to be able to somehow get him cremated, so that I can retain his ashes and keep him with me. Unfortunately, I don't currently work, since I was dedicating my full time and energy to caring for him. I have been offered living space with a friend of ours, and my lease is being dissolved due to the death in the family. So, my cats and I will have a place to live when this month ends, until I can get stabilized. Margaret Lee Blue has told me that I should look into indigent cremation, if that's an option available here. If not, I will have to try getting the money together, because that's what I really want for him.

RIP you wonderful bastard. I will miss you.

[daleanime]

1. ........

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear GliderGuider...

[Joe Shlabotnik]

3. So sad, I liked him a lot.

[Trajan]

4. So sorry to hear this ...

RIP good Sir ...

[Kali]

5. oh no

I will never forget how he came around about the way he felt about my friend MFM. I was so impressed with his adult abilities.

this is very sad news.

can you please let me know if she needs help with the cremation? I can do a little.

[GliderGuider]

7. I'll keep an eye on it and let you know. Thank you. nt

[Kali]

11. thank you

please do - I am not always around every day so I don't see a lot of threads (especially in GD as I am usually mostly a Lounger).

[840high]

30. I'll try to help, too.

[Renew Deal]

6. I'm sorry to hear this.

[progressoid]

8. Oh no.

So sorry for your loss and sympathies to his wife and family.

[shenmue]

9. ...

[A Little Weird]

10. RIP

[AwakeAtLast]

12. RIP Systematic Chaos

[TuxedoKat]

13. What a sad loss

I didn't really know him that well, but probably read plenty of his posts. Wish I had known him better. So sorry for your loss.

[OnyxCollie]

14. RIP, Systematic Chaos.

[Suich]

15. My condolences to family and friends.

RIP Kirk T.

[Change has come]

16. So sorry for our loss

[Mnemosyne]

17. ...

[joshcryer]

18. OMG, no! :(

A good friend and smart man. This is terrible. :'(

[Unknown Beatle]

19. Another DUer has crossed over.

RIP, Systematic Chaos.

[Heidi]

20. Kick!

[phantom power]

21. I didn't even know he was ill

[hatrack]

22. Oh, no . . .

GG, let us know if there's some way we can help Jeanette out.

[OKIsItJustMe]

23. Sigh…

[BrotherIvan]

24. I didn't know him

But is there a way we can start a DU collection for his cremation stat? No one should be suffering such great grief and not know where to turn. If there is a way to kick in some bucks, please let me know. My heart goes out to her.

[GliderGuider]

25. I've asked her what she needs, but she's still in shock. I'll report back. nt

[BrotherIvan]

28. Thanks, let me know

DU could probably help in some way. In California in 2013, it was about $700. We could get that together.

[lavenderdiva]

33. Please let us know if there is a gofund me started

or something else that we can help Jeanette. She shouldn't have to have these thoughts at this time. He was a dear friend of mine here on DU and I would be more than happy to help.

[GliderGuider]

34. I've just reminded her that there are a bunch of us here who would like to help.

Sometimes the grief can be so overwhelming that one loses track of things like that.
For Kirk

[longship]

26. Yet another good DUer gone forever.

RIP, good DUer.

[onecaliberal]

27. :

I am willing to help financially. Keep us updated.

[cascadiance]

29. RIP... Just read this describing his condition...

It has me more determined to deal with things I need to deal with in life as well, as this Monday I was told I should go in for a checkup for sleep apnea as well. I don't think I have it nearly as severe as he did, but it has me taking that diagnosis that much more seriously now and wanting to go in to deal with it.

[Jamastiene]

31. RIP

[Dems to Win]

32. RIP Systematic Chaos

Please let us know how we can contribute to his widow for the cremation expenses. Maybe even do a new OP if there's a GoFundMe or something like that.

[sue4e3]

35. So Sorry

[dbackjon]

36. Rest in Peace, Kirk

You will be missed.

[yardwork]

37. I am so sorry.

[Rhiannon12866]

38. I am so sorry, too! I thought I had replied to this, but I must have just recommended it...

He really will be missed, such an interesting poster, and certainly a recognizable and familiar presence on DU. Sounds like he had a good last day and was at peace, don't see how we can ask for more...

If there's a fund to help his wife pay for cremation, please post it here, or let me know if I missed something. DUers always come through for one of their own like this.