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Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:19 AM

Why am I sexually attracted to powerful or intelligent women? I have never acted on my impulses.

This is nothing new, but it seems to be on my mind more often. Is this just a crush that I am experiencing? I really don't think it is. I find that I am attracted to men who are intelligent more than their physical appearance. It's basically the same thing with women, but the feelings are more intense. (Maybe because I have never acted on them?)

This is really tough for me to explain and I am hoping that someone out there can at least sympathize. I am sure I am not the only one to have felt these desires. Even early in my teen years, I felt sexually stirred by girls that were bold, intelligent, or in one case very athletic. Now it seems to be more of a "crush" on powerful women like Rachel Maddow for example. (There are many more, but I'm not listing them unless someone feels it's necessary to help figure out what is going on.)

Has anyone out there experienced this? I honestly feel like I am fucked up in the head, but I know that's just not true.

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Reply Why am I sexually attracted to powerful or intelligent women? I have never acted on my impulses. (Original post)
LOL Lib Jun 2017 OP
eShirl Jun 2017 #1
LOL Lib Jun 2017 #4
irisblue Jun 2017 #2
LOL Lib Jun 2017 #5
DetlefK Jun 2017 #3
Lotusflower70 Jun 2017 #6
lambchopp59 Jun 2017 #7
LOL Lib Jun 2017 #8

Response to LOL Lib (Original post)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:22 AM

1. sounds normal to me

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Response to eShirl (Reply #1)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:31 AM

4. Thank You!!!


It may not seem like much, but just hearing anyone say it's normal does make me feel better. I really don't have anyone in my current group of confidants that I feel comfortable discussing this with. All of my close friends are consumed with family and relationships and we have drifted apart. My group from work just isn't close enough for these kind of discussions...and it's work you know?

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Response to LOL Lib (Original post)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:28 AM

2. Seems normal to me as well &

Your head is not fucked up. Intelligence should be & is a turn on, the biggest sex organ is the brain.
Sexuality, I think is a continuum, and it seems that for you, the intelligence and boldness is a turn on for you, not the organs.

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Response to irisblue (Reply #2)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:39 AM

5. That makes perfect sense.

Thank you!

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Response to LOL Lib (Original post)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:29 AM

3. There comes a point where one demands more than physical attractiveness.

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Response to LOL Lib (Original post)

Tue Jun 6, 2017, 10:48 AM

6. Hmmm

Nothing wrong with that. Not at all fucked up in the head. I
For me, ntelligence is one of the biggest turn ons of all. Especially if you are looking for something deeper or long term. I met a good looking guy but he was dumb as a post. It was a turn off. I mean you can only stare at someone for so long if that's all there is. As for your attractions, you might be coming to terms with your preferences.We all have them.

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Response to LOL Lib (Original post)

Wed Jun 7, 2017, 03:38 PM

7. Sounds like all part of being an evolved, enlightened human being to me.

The only true soul mate I had, Eldon, could spar with me intellectually. Other men may be easier on the eyes, so to speak, more hormonally attractive, but honey, when they don't have a thought in that handsome head, we're done.

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Response to lambchopp59 (Reply #7)

Wed Jun 7, 2017, 04:09 PM

8. Thanks for the encouraging reply.

I wrestle with the "being evolved" part all the time. I don't think I am doing so great some days, but at least I'm trying.

I have though a lot about my original post since the other day. I think it is probably normal to question ones desires. I hope it's part of growing and being in tune with my body.

Also, I recently became engaged (no looming date thankfully). I think that is part of the reason for examining my feelings. Like I mentioned in the OP, I have never pursued a same sex relationship. The right opportunity never presented itself. I can't deny the feelings and I'm certainly not ashamed of them. I think I'm just obsessing about it because I am not the kind of person to act on a whim. Every major life decision has been carefully measured. I graduated high school early, undergrad in slightly under 4 years, and then on to grad school. Still contemplating further education...so I never spent much time exploring my sexuality. It was usually just an after thought. Does this all seem to be a product of my ambitious career goals? I think that is where I've cheated myself.

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