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ROBROX

(392 posts)
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 05:16 PM Dec 2011

REHAB HELP

DOES ANYONE KNOW OF A CHEAP PLACE WHERE A PERSON CAN DETOX OR REHAB. MY WIFE'S DETOXED A FEW YEARS AGO, BUT SHE REALLY REQUIRES REHAB FOR ALCOHOL. SHE LOST A LUNG FROM AN ACCIDENT BECAUSE OF DRUNK DRIVING. HER HEALTH ISN'T THAT GREAT. WE TRIED AA BUT SHE DOES NOT LIKE THE GROUP FUNCTION. SHE SPENDS HER MONEY ON HER BEER (five 30 packs isn't bad?) AND IT DOES AFFECT HER HEALTH AND OUR RELATIONSHIP. CHEERS

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yardwork

(61,712 posts)
1. I'm sorry that you are going through this. I have no info about rehab programs, but
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 05:26 PM
Dec 2011

I'll pass on something that somebody once said to me that helped save my life. You need to take care of yourself. You can't make a drinker stop drinking. They have to do that themselves.

I stopped drinking more than eleven years ago. After I got sober - in early sobriety - I started worrying about a close friend who had not stopped. I tried various things - interventions, calling rehab programs, sending him the times/places of AA meetings, begging and pleading with him, talking to his family members, trying to get him to stop. Nothing worked and as far as I know he's still drinking. Eventually I cut ties with him because his late-night drunken dialing was wreaking havoc on my life too.

Other people in recovery counseled me to take care of myself.

I have family members with drinking problems and I'm having to make some tough decisions right now. I keep remembering what others shared with me. You have to take care of yourself because really there isn't much that you can do to help an alcoholic. They have to make up their minds to do it themselves.

TygrBright

(20,771 posts)
3. Where to look for lists of providers
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 05:28 PM
Dec 2011
"Here are some common points of reference that you can check out to see which represents the best fit for your needs. It's best to consult more than one, so you're less likely to miss an available resource.

Free or low cost programs

Your local health department
This'll be in the phone book. If you're in an urban area, they'll have an informational website about addiction treatment services, both residential and outpatient. If you're not, phone them and ask. Two advantages families find with public programs: first, they tend to be free or at least sliding scale. Second, they're usually more familiar with the local court system, which is important if your alcoholic or addict is involved with the criminal justice system. In some instances, there's also a downside: certain services aren't available, or there's a waitlist. The local health departments can also direct you to private low-cost options that might be available in your area, too.

The National Facility Locator
This is operated by SAMHSA, the principal federal authority. Here's a link: http://dasis3.samhsa.gov/
On the map, just click your state. Up to you to contact the various facilities that interest you, and do some investigating.

Your State alcohol and drug administration
Locate this via the State Government listings in the phone book or the State website. In many cases there will be a separate phone for treatment inquiries. Some states offer services that can be accessed by anybody within the state. Other services will be restricted to certain local areas. All the listed programs and providers will have been certified by the State as meeting the required standards.

Twelve Step meetings for families
Many families get info about available treatment resources from visiting these meetings. The ratings and evaluations are highly subjective, of course. Same goes for recovering people of your acquaintance. How do you find the 12-Step family groups? Look here: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

And for a more varied list of programs:

National Association of Treatment Providers
This will include low, medium, and high-priced programs. They offer a representative list of member providers, near and distant, by name and by state. You can check surrounding states as well. Here's the link: http://www.naatp.org/members/index.php. Be sure and visit the websites for each before you call. "


From Do It Yourself Intervention by C. Scott McMillin, copyright 2011 Recovery Systems Institute (www.recoverysi.com)

reprinted by permission

helpfully,
Bright

MrsBrady

(4,187 posts)
4. I am sorry your wive is having trouble.
Mon Dec 12, 2011, 12:05 PM
Dec 2011

I'm sure that you are worried and upset.

If she is looking for a rehab for herself, it will probably be helpful.
If she doesn't want to go, you can't make her change.

You might want to think about Al-anon for yourself.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/index.php
You can get help for yourself weather she is drinking or not.

BeHereNow

(17,162 posts)
5. Do you have a doctor you can talk to?
Sat Dec 24, 2011, 07:48 PM
Dec 2011

Detox can be fatal in some patients.
Your wife sounds like a candidate for medical
supervision if you guys decide to go through a detox together.
She is lucky to have you help her through it- but
going to AA is not the same as seeing a doctor which is
the safest thing to do.
Many doctors know of resources that are next to free to get her over the hump.
If her body is used to a certain amount of alcohol everyday, she should
be medically supervised or she could die. Seriously.

BHN

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