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Fri Feb 15, 2019, 10:26 AM

What's the toughest day of the week? And why?

I find Sunday evenings the hardest. Our usual routine was to have a roaring fire going in the living room. And I'd be in the kitchen making dinner, sipping on a glass (several) of wine, getting buzzed. Then we'd eat dinner in front of the fire. Well, that's all changed.

How about you?

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Reply What's the toughest day of the week? And why? (Original post)
bif Feb 2019 OP
marble falls Feb 2019 #1
femmedem Feb 2019 #2
irisblue Feb 2019 #5
Iggo Feb 2019 #20
safeinOhio Feb 2019 #3
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #4
bif Feb 2019 #7
irisblue Feb 2019 #8
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #10
bif Feb 2019 #11
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #12
bif Feb 2019 #13
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #14
irisblue Feb 2019 #15
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #16
progree Feb 2019 #17
irisblue Feb 2019 #6
JayhawkSD Feb 2019 #9
bif Feb 2019 #18
irisblue Feb 2019 #19

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Response to marble falls (Reply #1)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 11:21 AM

2. Please note this is in the addiction/recovery group. n/t

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Response to marble falls (Reply #1)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 01:37 PM

5. Really Marble Falls?

You post in a group about addictions and say that. You are better then that.

" Change it back."

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Response to marble falls (Reply #1)

Sun Feb 24, 2019, 09:00 PM

20. Telling someone in the addiction/recovery room to start drinking again is kinda low.

Too low for me, actually.

I believe that'll be all.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 12:28 PM

3. Sunday nights...

Was a long time ago. My friends and I all worked nights and Sunday night there was little to do but party with friends.

They have all died, a long time ago.

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Response to bif (Original post)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 12:44 PM

4. Give it time.

 

After 37 years there is no "toughest day," of the week, or of the year. Alcohol, and the consumption thereof, is simply not part of my life, and has not been for quite some time. I do not think about it, and I do not miss it.

My first sponsor said something to me that actually is the whole fundamental principle put forth in the Big Book. "I do not want you to learn how to handle your drinking problem," he told me. "I want you to become a person who does not have a drinking problem."

Alcohol is simply a non-issue. My wife drinks wine from time to time, and I simply do not notice it. She also used tampons for many years. That didn't affect me either. I didn't regret not being able to use tampons.

Hang in there. Rigorously endeavor to make the twelve steps a daily discipline and use them as the guiding principle of your life, and you will find one day that you are not having any "toughest days."

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Response to JayhawkSD (Reply #4)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 03:26 PM

7. It's been 5 months, and it's a lot better

I mix up "cocktails" like sour cherry juice and soda water. And i encourage others to have a glass of wine, so I don't feel as singled out.

I'm not an AA person--I do Smart Recovery and have found a fantastic group. Very supportive and interesting bunch of folks.

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Response to bif (Reply #7)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 03:46 PM

8. I do like the Smart Recovery groups that I've been too.

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Response to bif (Reply #7)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 05:50 PM

10. This is not without some hazard.

 

See below under "changing old routines." You are preserving old routines, which is a very dangerous practice. It is only a matter of time that others around you drinking wine results in your cherry juice and soda water changing to wine. I would urge you to ditch this routine forthwith.

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Response to JayhawkSD (Reply #10)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 10:30 PM

11. Not gonna happen.

I usually drink water. And my cherry juice isn't going to change to wine anytime soon. So with all due respect, I didn't ask for your advice.

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Response to bif (Reply #11)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 02:16 AM

12. Good luck to you.

 

I'm sure that you do not need advice from someone who has only been sober for 37 years.

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Response to JayhawkSD (Reply #12)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 08:20 AM

13. I don't believe I asked for advice.

Wow. Pompous much?

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Response to bif (Reply #13)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 11:14 AM

14. You are on a discussion board.

 

It is not a board that is for the sole purpose of you making pronouncements. Other people are allowed to make comments aw well.

You are continuing the habits and practices which you engaged in while drinking. You are arrogant and rude. You reject advice from those who have been successful. And you insist on having the last word. Those are not qualities which lead to long term sobriety. You might want to think about that.

I will not respond to your next comment so that you may have the satisfaction of having the last word.

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Response to JayhawkSD (Reply #14)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 11:45 AM

15. Pg 417, Big Book

“When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.” p.417

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Sat Feb 16, 2019, 04:14 PM

17. . . .

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Response to bif (Original post)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 02:41 PM

6. There is an AA book 'Living Sober' that I find very useful.

It is online, you can download the book, ch 8- Changing Old Routines might be helpful to read. Actually I really like the whole book. Ypu can google to find it. Hope this helps.

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Response to irisblue (Reply #6)

Fri Feb 15, 2019, 05:47 PM

9. Yes, pretty good book. nt

 

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Response to bif (Original post)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 04:39 PM

18. My original question was...

What's the toughest day of the week? And why?

I wasn't asking for advice. I was merely curious about what other people's experiences were. Didn't mean to open up a whole can of worms. Sorry if anyone took it the wrong way.

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Response to bif (Reply #18)

Sat Feb 16, 2019, 05:02 PM

19. Just for me....

My not drinking days usually were Tuesday& Wednesday. I shopped on Thursdays and often would reload. Being a sipper, that was my pattern. I could & did nurse a glass during daytime. Being retired made day drinking easier for me.

One of my oddest thought abour drinking, I was in my 1st 100 days, a random Sunday night , brushing my dog & half watching TV, I saw the time on the cable box 10:15 ish, and a helpful piece of my addiction whispered.".the liquor stores close at 11, you got time." I was stunned at the unbidden thought, I was brushing my dog for peter sake! I didn't go out that night.

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