The dreaded holiday season is fast approaching

[bif]

I've heard it called the Bermuda Triangle for relapse. Thanksgiving. Christmas. And New Years. I don't like this time of year usually. But facing it sober means I look forward to it even less. I'm not worried about drinking, just all the stupid parties I hate going to. This year I have an excuse, and my wife is totally understanding. She'll just have to go alone to some of the events.

[irisblue]

1. For OA members, extend this to Valentines Day

Dang near mandatory eating of sweets and other foods

[Ohiogal]

2. Having to make nice to people or relatives I don't care for

has always been very stressful for me, and it seems to get worse the older I get.

[Laffy Kat]

3. Gee, don't go if it's a trigger.

Your health is way more important than keeping up appearances.

[SWBTATTReg]

4. Smart advice on the wife going to the events by herself. Shows that your relationship is ...

very strong! Smart advice too. I hate this time of year in that people go nuts, get rude and pushy, etc., all for that one particular gift item or whatever that is so important to them to have to have.

Commercialism has gotten way out of control, and I've lost all desire to even participate in such hypocrisy. I'd rather have a nice meal and eggnog, amid conversations with good friends, offline, and do what humans are good at, enjoying each others' companionship one-on-one.

[Polly Hennessey]

5. I love this time of year.

I hate the holidays. It has all become forced and meaningless. Just want to enjoy the cooler weather. Wear sweaters and drink hot chocolate. No way - must do Thanksgiving and endure Christmas. Well, there is pumpkin pie and hot toddies. I do put a splash of peppermint schnapps in my hot chocolate. Yes, I am off to buy Christmas gifts and thinking what I can bring to Thanksgiving dinner — sigh.

[JDC]

6. I started meeting folks in my area who are also in recovery

I hang out with ex drunks all the time. my best friends in the world actually and the parties we go to or have are all sober people. more fun than I ever had drinking to be sure.