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groundloop

(12,340 posts)
Mon Mar 4, 2024, 09:08 PM Mar 2024

Wife's online gaming addiction.

I've come to realize that my wife has an addiction to online games, at the moment it's Monopoly Go, and I'm kind of at a loss as to how to deal with it.

She's not very computer savvy, today I was helping her set up an account and had to open her email to do it. While there I noticed nearly a full page of receipts from the apple play store..... she's spent over $1000 on Monopoly Go since the middle of December.

A couple of years ago it was almost the exact same scenario, I was helping her and had to open her email account and right there in front of me were over $1600 in receipts from Candy Crush.

If I say anything I'm going to be the bad guy for "spying on her".

I'm super pissed at her right now for spending that much money on stupid online games, but don't have a clue how to approach the situation other than totally blowing my stack.

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Wife's online gaming addiction. (Original Post) groundloop Mar 2024 OP
On my sobriety Duncanpup Mar 2024 #1
take a look at DPup above stopdiggin Mar 2024 #2
I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #3
I'm long-time AA, but I do know that there's also Gamblers' Anonymous since I have a friend who does phone meetings Rhiannon12866 Mar 2024 #4
Thank You for posting the Gamblers Anonymous address....and Hang in There Stuart G Mar 2024 #6
It doesn't apply to me, but like I said, I have a friend who does GA phone meetings. Rhiannon12866 Mar 2024 #7
Never could understand on-line gambling bif Mar 2024 #5
Any update? XanaDUer2 Apr 2024 #8
groundloop......... Upthevibe May 2024 #9

Duncanpup

(13,738 posts)
1. On my sobriety
Mon Mar 4, 2024, 09:34 PM
Mar 2024

It was my wife who started to point out yea I’m an alcoholic I was grateful for her to do this it was out of love.

stopdiggin

(12,942 posts)
2. take a look at DPup above
Mon Mar 4, 2024, 09:49 PM
Mar 2024

do NOT approach this from the "look how much money you've wasted!" vein.
Something more like, "Honey, love you to bits .. and I've gotten just slightly concerned .. " "Any chance that maybe you're not feeling a little concerned about this too?" "Think we should talk?"

Rhiannon12866

(223,410 posts)
4. I'm long-time AA, but I do know that there's also Gamblers' Anonymous since I have a friend who does phone meetings
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 03:49 AM
Mar 2024

I found the link for GA - and I realize that you can't just come out and suggest this for your wife, but this link may answer some of your questions. Please let us know how it goes - and hang in there!

Gamblers Anonymous
https://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/locations

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
6. Thank You for posting the Gamblers Anonymous address....and Hang in There
Sun Mar 24, 2024, 12:04 AM
Mar 2024



Overeaters Anonymous...43 years[ ..........OA saved my life............

Rhiannon12866

(223,410 posts)
7. It doesn't apply to me, but like I said, I have a friend who does GA phone meetings.
Sun Mar 24, 2024, 12:13 AM
Mar 2024

And I used to go to OA meetings with my sponsor, great group! She was regular OA and when I drank, I didn't eat.

bif

(24,141 posts)
5. Never could understand on-line gambling
Sun Mar 10, 2024, 11:14 AM
Mar 2024

To me it's like playing cards over the phone. You have a pair of nines and I tell you I have a royal flush. You lose and you owe me $100.

Upthevibe

(9,211 posts)
9. groundloop.........
Thu May 9, 2024, 11:56 AM
May 2024

Last edited Fri May 10, 2024, 08:18 AM - Edit history (1)

Firstly, I'm sorry this is happening.

I'm in recovery myself from Drugs & Alcohol. AA was great for me.

I used to work with a woman (quite a bit younger than I at the time- probably late 30's) and she said she had gambling issues.
Unfortunately, she said she went to a GA meeting and people were talking about the things they did to get money (not illegally) to support their gambling habits. She said it ended up just giving her ideas.

Hers wasn't online gambling. She went to casinos so maybe that's completely different. Thank God I find gambling so boring (with my addictive personality - I'm lucky).

I hope your wife can get some help.

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