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Sun May 2, 2021, 09:30 AM

Counting down to fmla. Scared

on June 1st, I'm going to request, with my doctor's help, FMLA. My job is making me miserable and stressed. I'm a supervisor and I'm worried ( I tend to take too much on myself and my SO tells me to worry about myself. I'm worried about my supervisee. However, my SO says that if I had serious non-mental health condition like cancer, I'd have. To take time off, too. And mental health is as serious as physical).

In no way am I saying I consider myself irreplaceable. I just worry about everything and have a very hard time having normal mentation about things. I have moments of fugue my doctor calls disassociation from time to time from anxiety.

So, this will be my third fmla. I'm scared to ask for third time. But I just have to gird my loins and do it. I hope to have some income with STD insurance, then employer-paid LTD insurance.

Taking this dive scares me sometimes. I'm conflicted, I'm worried. I feel like a loser sometimes. I get angry that I suffer from these illnesses. I'm mad at my employer for causing me ptsd That's another post. I'm scared of the unknown. Loss of income. Going to work.

Scared of everything.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Reply Counting down to fmla. Scared (Original post)
XanaDUer2 May 2021 OP
pwb May 2021 #1
XanaDUer2 May 2021 #2
MLAA May 2021 #3
XanaDUer2 May 2021 #5
MLAA May 2021 #7
XanaDUer2 May 2021 #8
niyad May 2021 #4
XanaDUer2 May 2021 #6
DarthDem May 2021 #9
XanaDUer2 May 2021 #10
DarthDem May 2021 #11

Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun May 2, 2021, 09:42 AM

1. Fear only exasperates illness.

I would work on your fear of everything. Fear takes from your life. Maybe give up the supervisor job?

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Response to pwb (Reply #1)

Sun May 2, 2021, 09:53 AM

2. thank you for responding

yes that would help, I've addressed it and no. It was foisted on me; I didn't seek it out. I'm having psychotherapy. I felt 100 percent better after the first 2 fmla absences.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun May 2, 2021, 10:11 AM

3. Best wishes!

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Response to MLAA (Reply #3)

Sun May 2, 2021, 10:14 AM

5. Thank you? Nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #5)

Sun May 2, 2021, 10:18 AM

7. Oh I meant it as I hope things go really well for you and the steps you are taking

help you feel better. I sure didnít mean to be flip. 💖

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Response to MLAA (Reply #7)

Sun May 2, 2021, 12:02 PM

8. No worries. I didn't take it that way

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun May 2, 2021, 10:12 AM

4. All I can offer is hugs, and vibes for your well-being. Hope the fmla helps.

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Response to niyad (Reply #4)

Sun May 2, 2021, 10:15 AM

6. thanks it's going to take all my courage to go in and ask 3rd time nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sun May 2, 2021, 01:35 PM

9. I'm So Sorry

I bet you're stronger than you think. Confronting this head on by taking time for yourself proves it. Good luck to you!

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Response to DarthDem (Reply #9)

Sun May 2, 2021, 02:23 PM

10. thank you

I just feel so broken sometimes.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #10)

Tue May 4, 2021, 09:40 AM

11. I think everyone does.


You're not alone.

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