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Mr Dixon

(1,185 posts)
Wed Apr 4, 2012, 03:10 PM Apr 2012

How do you feel about interracial relationships?

How do you feel about interracial relationships? If you are in an interracial relationship, do you feel more connected to that other race? Do you feel racially ambiguous by having biracial children?
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How do you feel about interracial relationships? (Original Post) Mr Dixon Apr 2012 OP
I've been in them, they are like any other relationship arcane1 Apr 2012 #1
I am married to a man who is Bohemian Czech and I am primarily African descent with ALOT of Ecumenist Apr 2012 #2
I Am Connected To Goodness...Not Race HelenaHandbasket Jul 2012 #3
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Spam deleted by Paulie (MIR Team) crazymana18 Sep 2012 #4
I'm a Caucasian-American man married to a Chinese national tarheelsunc Oct 2012 #5
I love them - I am in one! Taverner Feb 2013 #6
Depends... Calmador Jul 2013 #7
I am an American married to a Korean national davidpdx Aug 2013 #8
I am in favor of them Ruskigbuss Sep 2013 #9
AGREED Mr Dixon Mar 2014 #11
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Multi-ethic relationships may not always be visible Jovi-Balani Sep 2014 #12
I'm the progeny ronniebutlerjr Oct 2014 #13
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arcane1

(38,613 posts)
1. I've been in them, they are like any other relationship
Wed Apr 4, 2012, 03:20 PM
Apr 2012

There certainly can be opportunities to learn about other cultures, etc, when in an interracial relationship, but that can also apply to dating someone who is from another state or country, too.

I don't want children, but if I did want them their race would be the least of my concerns.

Ecumenist

(6,086 posts)
2. I am married to a man who is Bohemian Czech and I am primarily African descent with ALOT of
Sun Apr 8, 2012, 06:13 AM
Apr 2012

european, native American, (grandmother grew up on a reservation) and Asian. It's just a regular marriage and the only thing that sets it apart from any other is the color of our skins and hair texture. I feel HUMAN, as my race, (that is mine, yours and everyone's race). Why would my children change my outlook? It's a huge mistake to get caught up in the "tragic" mulatto, thing. You do realise that MOST black peole in the US are VERY mixed and in other countries, are not considered to be African descent but that horrible name "Mulatto", Creole, Octaroon, en fact, in many south American Countries, like Brazil, I would be considered white even though my skin is a medium golden caramel brown. So, it doesn't really apply to most people, not genuinely.

Race is a social construct and doesn't really exist.

HelenaHandbasket

(51 posts)
3. I Am Connected To Goodness...Not Race
Wed Jul 25, 2012, 02:51 PM
Jul 2012

I am a black woman who is very happy with a white man. Him being white has nothing to do with it. He is simply a wonderful human being and there was a powerful mutual attraction. I was connected to his grace, support, kindness, intelligence and our commonalities. He could have been orange with purple polka dots for all I cared LOL.

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tarheelsunc

(2,117 posts)
5. I'm a Caucasian-American man married to a Chinese national
Sun Oct 7, 2012, 01:03 AM
Oct 2012

The issue or race or ethnicity has never affected anything about our relationship. We may have some cultural differences due to the different backgrounds we come from, but we expected that all along. I don't feel race should ever be a factor in a relationship. The larger question is about intercultural relationships. I've always thought that love transcends everything, so you can love someone who has nothing culturally in common with you. What's important is how you deal with that and accept the other person in the relationship.

 

Calmador

(28 posts)
7. Depends...
Sat Jul 6, 2013, 04:30 PM
Jul 2013

John 7:24

24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.




It depends.

I honestly think it can be racist to choose someone to date or marry based off race/appearances.

If that doesn't happen then its a lot like any other relationship.

davidpdx

(22,000 posts)
8. I am an American married to a Korean national
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 09:03 AM
Aug 2013

As for children, I didn't want to have any even before I was married so that isn't a concern. I have heard other foreigners married to Koreans talk about their kids and the challenges of having a biracial child in Korea. My Korean family is more a family than the family I grew up with.

Ruskigbuss

(1 post)
9. I am in favor of them
Thu Sep 5, 2013, 04:03 PM
Sep 2013

I am myself a "white" (more accurately light pink) man married to a "black" (west african) woman. Whatever problem we may have has nothing to do with "race". Some may be cultural, but most is due to our different personalities.

We don´t have children together, yet, but I wouldn´t mind. If they come, they come.

Theoretically a child with parents of diverse origin may be stronger, since whatever weaknesses that comes from one parent may be less probable to be found in the other. But that is of course not any factor when you are considering children.

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Jovi-Balani

(14 posts)
12. Multi-ethic relationships may not always be visible
Sun Sep 7, 2014, 10:37 PM
Sep 2014

Im from serbia and ive dated a few New zealanders - where I am from, and I have to say that just because someone is the same 'race' as you (in my case, we were both white/from european descent) didnt mean that the cultural differences werent there. In someways, sometimes ts harder than if it were visible because those differences get ignored and the underlying cultural issues dont get addressed.

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