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icymist

(15,888 posts)
Thu Jan 12, 2012, 01:40 PM Jan 2012

Pagan Values Blogging Month: Judgment vs. Compassion

Compassion: to feel with. In terms of human interactions, compassion is to allow yourself to not only feel for other people (sympathy) but to feel with other people (empathy). It is becoming an active participant in another person’s suffering. Or, if you want to take this beyond anthropocentrism, it is active participation in another being’s suffering. (It can also be applied to emotions other than those associated with suffering.)

Compassion, comparatively speaking, doesn’t get a lot of time in pagan discussion because it’s a “nice” emotion. Sometimes I feel that many neopagans are so afraid of being perceived as fluffy, frou-frou New Agers, prone to talking about “love and light”, that we create a front of cynicism and worldliness. We separate ourselves from those other people by seeming more serious, and denigrate the sensitivity that may be expressed by others. We think that because we aren’t just talking about The Secret and wrapping the entire planet in soft pink energy that we somehow have a more mature, developed way of approaching the world we live in. True, sometimes complex emotions are unnecessarily compressed down into 140-character sound bites on Twitter, and I could write a ton about how “the law of attraction” is stuffed full to overflowing with primarily white, middle-class privilege.

http://therioshamanism.com/2011/06/22/pagan-values-blogging-month-judgment-vs-compassion/

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Pagan Values Blogging Month: Judgment vs. Compassion (Original Post) icymist Jan 2012 OP
Compassion isn't fluffy. Ruby Reason Jan 2012 #1
This was an excellent read libodem Feb 2012 #2
icymist... OneGrassRoot Feb 2012 #3
Thank you so much. icymist Feb 2012 #4
There is a good chance a solution is near... OneGrassRoot Feb 2012 #5
Oh please! This would be so great! icymist Feb 2012 #6
I had to come back and read this one again libodem Mar 2012 #7

Ruby Reason

(242 posts)
1. Compassion isn't fluffy.
Sat Jan 21, 2012, 02:45 PM
Jan 2012

You're right people perceive it to be so, but it is more of a tough love. When we are so hard on ourselves, to truly be compassionate and understand another, then we are often just as hard on them.

libodem

(19,288 posts)
2. This was an excellent read
Thu Feb 16, 2012, 11:39 PM
Feb 2012

Thanks for the link. Reminds me of, I feel with loving compassion the problems of others without getting too mixed up in the lesson life is trying to teach them. Or something like that.

OneGrassRoot

(22,920 posts)
3. icymist...
Sat Feb 18, 2012, 09:16 PM
Feb 2012

I forgot how you have nearly single-handedly kept this group alive for years.

I would love to have a whole weekend to peruse the gems you share. I'll gradually read as I can.

In the meantime, I want you to know how much I appreciate what you share here, there, and everywhere.



icymist

(15,888 posts)
6. Oh please! This would be so great!
Sun Feb 19, 2012, 04:35 PM
Feb 2012

I currently live with two cats that are brothers and I could not imagine breaking them up. Go for it OGR! I'm with you!

libodem

(19,288 posts)
7. I had to come back and read this one again
Thu Mar 1, 2012, 09:09 PM
Mar 2012

It was just so good. I enjoyed the discussion of moral judgement being different from value judgement. I studied values clarification back the day and even managing peoples perceptions of those is a challenge.

I've tried to be nonjudgemental in my life yet practice discernment. You have to know for safety.

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