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Madam45for2923

(7,178 posts)
Fri Sep 30, 2016, 05:45 PM Sep 2016

Donald Trump Is a Textbook Abuser, and Women Everywhere Know It

The media may not see through Trump, but women, particularly those who have experienced abuse, do.

Still, the 2016 version of that gap is a doozy, wider than it’s ever been and growing. Add in another factor: Huge numbers of women with “negative” opinions of Donald Trump don’t simply dislike him but loathe him in visceral ways. In other words, something unusual is going on here beyond party or policy or even politics—something so obvious that most pundits, busy fielding Trump’s calls and reporting his bluster on a daily basis, haven’t stepped back and taken it in.

Even Hillary Clinton, when she comes out swinging, politely refrains from spelling it out. In her recent speech on foreign policy, she declared Trump temperamentally unfit to be president: too thin-skinned, too angry, too quick to employ such “tools” as “bragging, mocking, and sending nasty tweets.” Admittedly, she did conjure up a scary, futuristic image of an erratic bully with a thumb on the nuclear button, describing as well his apparent fascination with and attraction to autocrats like Vladimir Putin and Kim Jong-un. But she stopped short of connecting the Trumpian dots when she concluded, “I will leave it to the psychiatrists to explain his affection for tyrants.”

In truth, most women don’t need psychiatrists to explain the peculiar admiration of an aspiring autocrat for his role models. Every woman who has ever had to deal with a Trump-style tyrant in her own home or at her job already has Trump’s number. We recognize him as a bloated specimen of the common garden variety Controlling Man, a familiar type of Household Hitler.

In fact, Donald J. Trump perfectly fits the profile of an ordinary wife abuser—with one additional twist. Expansive fellow that he is, Trump has not confined his controlling tactics to his own home(s). For seven years, he practiced them openly for all the world to see on The Apprentice, his very own reality-TV show, and now applies them on a national stage, commanding constant attention while alternately insulting, cajoling, demeaning, embracing, patronizing, and verbally beating up anyone (including a “Mexican” judge) who stands in the way of his coronation.


https://www.thenation.com/article/donald-trump-is-a-textbook-abuser-and-women-everywhere-know-it/
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Donald Trump Is a Textbook Abuser, and Women Everywhere Know It (Original Post) Madam45for2923 Sep 2016 OP
Making his supporters..... guillaumeb Sep 2016 #1
No, it's a dominance waterfall Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2016 #4
NIce points. guillaumeb Oct 2016 #6
Yup... Blue Idaho Oct 2016 #9
The sad thing is Rocknrule Sep 2016 #2
Yeah shenmue Sep 2016 #3
Actually, if people took misogyny seriously, because it does destroy women's lives... BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2016 #5
"Every woman adores a fascist" rumdude Oct 2016 #7
I hope Melania has an exit plan mnhtnbb Oct 2016 #8
Read about the extreme physical abuse and marital rape that Ivana detailed in a deposition-- tblue37 Oct 2016 #12
I have missed this information--just read about it-- mnhtnbb Oct 2016 #13
I just read somewhere that his threat of bringing up President Clinton's affairs... displacedtexan Oct 2016 #10
Dont forget what he said about Carly. BTW where is she? Can't stand her Laura PourMeADrink Oct 2016 #11

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
1. Making his supporters.....
Fri Sep 30, 2016, 05:49 PM
Sep 2016

masochistic, or so desperate for solutions that they will overlook his obvious pathologies?

Bernardo de La Paz

(48,930 posts)
4. No, it's a dominance waterfall
Fri Sep 30, 2016, 08:17 PM
Sep 2016

Abused children sometimes abuse younger siblings or weaker classmates.

Trump is a Right Wing Authoritarian. His supporters are RWA Followers. They compartmentalize their thinking.

That's why they love Melania Trump's porn pictures printed in the New York Post but completely dump on Alicia. The former is almost owned by Trump as a trophy, and the latter was publicly verbally beaten up by Trump.

I would not want to be a Trump supporter's wife or child.

Rocknrule

(5,697 posts)
2. The sad thing is
Fri Sep 30, 2016, 05:55 PM
Sep 2016

he's such a loathsome person all around, misogyny is only like the 5th worst thing about him

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
5. Actually, if people took misogyny seriously, because it does destroy women's lives...
Fri Sep 30, 2016, 08:50 PM
Sep 2016

If people thought women mattered, the sign would have been seen for what they are much sooner.

Like a canary in a coal mine, you can tell who a man is by how he treats women. A society that allows it is a sick society.

Demagogic abusers are at the extreme, and even so they always do it publicly to women early on, BECAUSE they can get away with it.

That's always how it's always been.

mnhtnbb

(31,366 posts)
8. I hope Melania has an exit plan
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 02:32 PM
Oct 2016

because I am concerned for her. Although there aren't any reports of the Donald physically abusing women in his life--I'd categorize the rape allegations separately--
it's clear he's coming unhinged. And Melania could be an easily available target for his rage.

tblue37

(65,211 posts)
12. Read about the extreme physical abuse and marital rape that Ivana detailed in a deposition--
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 04:13 PM
Oct 2016

i.e., under oath--during their divorce.

She denies it now, of course, because his wives and employees (but I repeat myself) all must sign an ironclad nondisclosure agreement that exposes them to financial ruin if they say anything negative about him. But under oath, she provide some truly horrifying details!

mnhtnbb

(31,366 posts)
13. I have missed this information--just read about it--
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 05:15 PM
Oct 2016

but it doesn't surprise me that he would be violent.

I say again, Melania needs to have an exit plan because this guy could be extremely dangerous
when he snaps.

displacedtexan

(15,696 posts)
10. I just read somewhere that his threat of bringing up President Clinton's affairs...
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 02:50 PM
Oct 2016

...was the same way an abuser says, "Don't make me hurt you again, Bitch!"

So true. I once worked for a man, who said to me during my evaluation, "You're just not tolerant enough of incompetence. You don't want me to include that in your file, do you?" I replied, "Thanks for the compliment. And please add that to my file. It'll be interesting if or when future bosses ask me about that."

I don't suffer bullies ligtly, and I'm glad more and more women are standing up to them, too.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
11. Dont forget what he said about Carly. BTW where is she? Can't stand her
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 02:54 PM
Oct 2016

but, might be wise for her to call him out again.

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