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MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:18 PM Nov 2016

The first woman EVER was running, and Trump got 42% of the female vote; abortion issue to blame?

I'm not saying that the Democratic Party needs to change its stance on abortion, but I think we do need to recognize that it's as divisive an issue as ever and that we're losing millions of votes over it, and think about new communication strategies.

Over the last few years I've noticed a trend where so many progressives, especially here on DU, have seemed to bubble themselves off from reality and assume that the only opposition to abortion is coming from old, white men and that ALL women are pro-choice because, well, why wouldn't they be? They're women, it's their bodies, etc.

The reality is that there are still TENS OF MILLIONS of women in this country that, whether for religious, moral or whatever reasons (I tend to think mostly religious), are against abortion. They consider it the murder of a child, and it's especially potent for them if they are mothers themselves (or at least women who have tried to have a child). And even though abortion rights are the law and it's a settled matter, and there are tons of other issues on the ballot, including the incredible misogyny of Donald Trump and the opportunity to vote for the first female candidate, a candidate being for or against that "murder of a child" is a dealbreaker for them.

I suspect there are hundreds of thousands of female voters, maybe MILLIONS, who disagreed with Trump on nearly every single issue, were incredibly offended by his rhetoric, and agreed with Clinton on nearly every single issue. But the fact that he could claim he was against abortion, while she proudly supported it, was the dealbreaker (especially late-term abortions).

The question is, is there anything at all that we can do to stop people from making their voting decision on this single (already settled) issue? Think about it. Wouldn't your vote be affected if, in your mind, you were choosing between someone who is pro-murder and someone who is anti-murder? What can we do differently on this issue? What framing needs to occur?



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The first woman EVER was running, and Trump got 42% of the female vote; abortion issue to blame? (Original Post) MadDAsHell Nov 2016 OP
Yes, women voted in large for Clinton. Not even close. nt. NCTraveler Nov 2016 #1
Evangelicals and orthodox women consistently vote 45% conservative, even against the E.R.A. TheBlackAdder Nov 2016 #45
They didn't "vote against" the ERA. State legislatures dominated by white males, duffyduff Nov 2016 #57
Maybe some but not all to blame.... vi5 Nov 2016 #2
What is your suggestion? dhol82 Nov 2016 #3
I want to hear other's ideas (if they agree it's an issue for us). But personal opinion... MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #5
Yet so many of them who think abortion is murder have no problem with the death penalty or war uppityperson Nov 2016 #10
Wasn't abortion. I knew a lot of independant women who were for Trump. hollowdweller Nov 2016 #41
Abortion rarely came up during this campaign, don't see it as an issue over the others. But what uppityperson Nov 2016 #4
You are correct, it barely came up. But how many immediately had their minds made up because of it? MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #7
Too fucking bad. elehhhhna Nov 2016 #38
But these women also voted for PBO so why turn their back on HRC? katsy Nov 2016 #78
It had zero to do with abortion, pro or con. BlueStreak Nov 2016 #68
Trump worked his ass off while Clinton did little campaigning? He saw people and was "decisive"? uppityperson Nov 2016 #72
I said his campaigning was decisive. BlueStreak Nov 2016 #73
Sinking to insults means the discussion is over. uppityperson Nov 2016 #75
Agreed. If anything, everyone seems intent on losing even more in the future. WTF. nt MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #79
Lots of group think here BlueStreak Nov 2016 #88
The 30 year slander of hillary Cosmocat Nov 2016 #6
Romney got 44% of the female vote NewJeffCT Nov 2016 #8
That's exactly what I'm saying; yet I bet a pro-choice stance would have cost him millions of votes. MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #13
Trump never would have won the primaries NewJeffCT Nov 2016 #15
Good question. I think the other stumbling block is guns. mtnsnake Nov 2016 #9
What the fuck? nt LexVegas Nov 2016 #11
Good fucking grief, do I miss unrec! CrispyQ Nov 2016 #12
So apparently you think we should write those millions of potential votes off? MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #14
Yes. If it means capitulating on choice, then absolutely, yes. Write them off. CrispyQ Nov 2016 #16
There are 17 posts in this thread; show me the one that says we should capitulate on choice. MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #18
The most important decision a woman can make, isn't yours. CrispyQ Nov 2016 #19
Sounds like a winning argument. Worked well this year. And 2014. And 2012. And 2010. MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #20
Lots of racists voted for Trump...maybe we should try something else on the civil rights thing. nt LexVegas Nov 2016 #21
4 brutal elections in a row, & another poster that suspiciously wants to change nothing; interesting MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #22
Lots of homophobes voted for Trump...we should rethink the gay marriage thing. nt LexVegas Nov 2016 #23
Let me know your preferred candidates in the future, so I can place some opposite bets in Vegas :) MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #24
Lots of xenophobes voted for Trump...may we should jettison the Muslims, huh? nt LexVegas Nov 2016 #25
You ever seen the Tin Cup scene where Kevin Costner's character keeps hitting it in the water? MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #37
How many recs you got on this dogshit OP? LexVegas Nov 2016 #40
And trying to reach out to zealots who equate abortion with murder is a winning strategy? CrispyQ Nov 2016 #30
What's interesting is that you had a reasonable point, and it got completely lost in your approach. MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #33
Well, I don't think your point is reasonable in the least & your approach got lost in stating that CrispyQ Nov 2016 #39
Reframe it? You mean tell the truth? B/c there is an awful lot of misinformation out there about ab AgadorSparticus Nov 2016 #54
No one said to anything close to backing off the abortion or gun issues. Good grief. mtnsnake Nov 2016 #26
Trump received a majority of votes from WHITE women. Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2016 #17
Yep, and Trump only lost by 6 points among white women with college degrees, according to exit polls Garrett78 Nov 2016 #85
Not the issue zipplewrath Nov 2016 #27
We disagree, but you make good points; thanks for the thoughtful response. nt MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #28
why has the Equal Rights Amendment KT2000 Nov 2016 #29
Exactly! And beautifully stated! athena Nov 2016 #35
thanks - I expected KT2000 Nov 2016 #42
great post djsunyc Nov 2016 #60
I thought for sure we'd finally get it in 2009 but it wasn't even brought up. yeoman6987 Nov 2016 #51
How old are you? The ERA has been a nonstarter for nearly 35 YEARS. duffyduff Nov 2016 #59
Old enough to have seen KT2000 Nov 2016 #66
hmm Budee Nov 2016 #65
No one said it is not KT2000 Nov 2016 #69
Some women just didn't like Hillary virgogal Nov 2016 #31
Both my MIL and FIL in PA voted for Trump due to their pro-life beliefs. I agree that we don't kelly1mm Nov 2016 #32
Well, Every Position RobinA Nov 2016 #50
The Democratic position is that it is between a woman and her doctor, and no one elses business still_one Nov 2016 #34
Nope Spider Jerusalem Nov 2016 #36
That's not uncommon. davidn3600 Nov 2016 #43
Feminists are not surprised. athena Nov 2016 #44
Oh please don't send him there, lol. JTFrog Nov 2016 #62
The answer is pretty obvious to me Spider Jerusalem Nov 2016 #48
I think it had more to do with Islamophobia and securing the border. .99center Nov 2016 #46
Seriously... SammyWinstonJack Nov 2016 #47
Yes, I agree with you that we need to better frame the subject OhioBlue Nov 2016 #49
Framing has nothing to do with it. You cannot change their mindset. duffyduff Nov 2016 #56
I know some who are mad because some people say "Happy Holidays." raging moderate Nov 2016 #58
Framing has everything to do with the issue OhioBlue Nov 2016 #63
The "middle" is not the issue. It is the right-wing mindset. It cannot change. n/t duffyduff Nov 2016 #64
this is truth, they will NEVER change Grey Lemercier Nov 2016 #86
it's mostly white women and it's more about race . JI7 Nov 2016 #52
Abortion or the Comey letter? emulatorloo Nov 2016 #53
Abortion and the USSC duffyduff Nov 2016 #55
It's more than this; it's deep-rooted conflict regarding the role of women... Barack_America Nov 2016 #61
My son in law told me that his mother initially told him that she planned to vote ... spin Nov 2016 #67
I am against in anyway backing down from a Pro-Choice position LostOne4Ever Nov 2016 #70
Too Fucking Bad Megahurtz Nov 2016 #71
Yes, 4 brutal election losses in a row are "too bad." nt MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #80
Women can be gun-humping, xenophobic, high school dropout, racist assholes too, ya know NickB79 Nov 2016 #74
Deeper? Most of DU is telling me race is the ONLY thing that mattered in this election. MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #81
This post liquid diamond Nov 2016 #76
I respect that you are trying to build a bridge RelativelyJones Nov 2016 #77
My, you're awfully anxious to get rid of women's rights BainsBane Nov 2016 #82
"The way you casually suggest doing away with the rights of the majority of Democratic voters" MadDAsHell Nov 2016 #83
Is your OP not about winning over the pro-life voter? BainsBane Nov 2016 #84
There is absolutely no evidence to indicate that abortion was a major issue. Statistical Nov 2016 #87
This message was self-deleted by its author Midwestern Democrat Nov 2016 #89

TheBlackAdder

(28,194 posts)
45. Evangelicals and orthodox women consistently vote 45% conservative, even against the E.R.A.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 08:35 PM
Nov 2016

.


I took a Woman and Politics course that was taught by a doctor at Rutgers Eagleton's CAWP.

CAWP is the only college institute that is dedicated to woman and politics: http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/


The high GOP vote count by women, does not deviate from norms of the past 40 years, abortion was not the factor.

There are a lot of women who are indoctrinated into a paternalistic society.


.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
57. They didn't "vote against" the ERA. State legislatures dominated by white males,
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:27 AM
Nov 2016

especially Mormons, did that. So did state legislatures with powerful insurance industry interests.

Let's quit trying to rewrite history. I was around then.

 

vi5

(13,305 posts)
2. Maybe some but not all to blame....
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:24 PM
Nov 2016

I know more than a few white woman who are not even religious let alone pro-life, and they loathed Hillary. I could honestly never figure it out. Again, while I disagree with the abortion and religious issues of conservative white women, at least I can understand why they would vote the way they did especially with Pence on the ticket. But not being pro-life or religious and still voting against Hillary? I could never put my finger on it. Especially since these are the type of women who post annoying memes and sayings on their facebook pages about being strong women, or being bitchy or the whole "If you can't handle me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best" BS. How they rationalized voting for a sexual predator is beyond me. The only thing I can point to is the fact that Trump told them it was o.k. to be racist.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
5. I want to hear other's ideas (if they agree it's an issue for us). But personal opinion...
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:41 PM
Nov 2016

Stop coming at it from a "They're trying to take away our rights" standpoint. Or a "War on Women" standpoint. Stop trotting out the Sandra Flukes of the world to accuse everyone who votes Republican of hating women.

Instead, acknowledge (as President Obama has done but very few other Democratic politicians or leaders have) that those who oppose abortion are completely justified in their beliefs if they truly believe it's murder. That while we disagree with their opinion, we respect why it's such an important issue for them.

Then bring their attention to the fact that while we respect their passionate opinion on this issue, basing their vote solely on the candidate's personal opinion on abortion is a wasted vote, because it's settled law at this point and is highly unlikely to ever be completely overturned.

Bring their attention to the anti-choice candidate's stances that don't encourage women to carry their unborn children to term: cutting food, housing, and healthcare support for poorer women, cutting support for schools, etc. Show them how the anti-choice candidate is helping to create an environment which is not very appealing for a woman who is choosing whether or not to abort her pregnancy.

I think these are effective strategies; simply saying "He hates women" (or absurdly, "She hates women&quot is not.

Just a few thoughts.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
10. Yet so many of them who think abortion is murder have no problem with the death penalty or war
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:50 PM
Nov 2016

We do use those strategies you write, and they are not effective for too many. THAT is the problem. Not that we don't use those strategies because we do. But they chose to not care.

 

hollowdweller

(4,229 posts)
41. Wasn't abortion. I knew a lot of independant women who were for Trump.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 07:53 PM
Nov 2016

They just didn't like Clinton as a person.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
4. Abortion rarely came up during this campaign, don't see it as an issue over the others. But what
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:36 PM
Nov 2016

would you suggest?

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
7. You are correct, it barely came up. But how many immediately had their minds made up because of it?
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:46 PM
Nov 2016

I think way more voters than we think immediately know who they're going to vote for, purely based on the (R) & (D) and their assumption of the candidate's stance on abortion based on that party affiliation.

All of those people could not be swayed by a single negative thing Drumpf did, simply because they had made their minds up from the beginning that they couldn't vote for someone who was "pro-murder."

My guess is there are millions of straight-Republican ticket voters based solely on that single (settled) issue.

katsy

(4,246 posts)
78. But these women also voted for PBO so why turn their back on HRC?
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 06:37 PM
Nov 2016

I don't think HRC could've done anything more to win them over & I don't think abortion had anything to do with their exodus from the dems.

Bigotry, racism & self loathing women was what i saw. These weren't women concerned about their well being & economy as much as angry low info fangirls.

 

BlueStreak

(8,377 posts)
68. It had zero to do with abortion, pro or con.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:15 AM
Nov 2016

The issue is that this was one of the least trusted women on the planet before the general election started and Trump hammered "Crooked Hillary" nonstop for 75 days. Clinton did practically nothing to counter that. If anything she made matters worse by never giving a clear answer on the email thing. There were far better answers available to her.

The whole thing was a monumental miscalculation, on the part of the campaign team, and by the Party bosses. If this point hasn't yet sunk into to the good folks of DU then we probably aren't going to make much progress.

While I believe we are looking at 4 years of hell including the most corrupt administration ever and a heavy economic recession, we should at least be honest that Trump worked his ass off campaigning. While the Clinton campaign did little more than fundraisers from Aug 1 to well after Labor Day, Trump was out there almost every single day. He probably saw 20 times as many people in person as Clinton saw and that was decisive. You couldn't turn on any channel for 2 months without seeing that Kellyanne Conway riffing about nonsense. How many times did you see Clinton's campaign manager on the air? Try zero. Does anybody here even know who her campaign manager was?

These things add up.

 

BlueStreak

(8,377 posts)
73. I said his campaigning was decisive.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 12:00 PM
Nov 2016

If you think Hillary campaigned at the same level Trump did, you are delusional. He was out there every day with LARGE rallies. She went 40 days after the convention doing numerous fund raisers and a few small greetings, but almost no large rallies. It was as if her campaign manager told her "Don't worry. We are way ahead in the polls. And nothing important happens until the debates.

And where was that campaign manager? Do you even know who her campaign manager was? We saw Kellyanne Conway 50 times a day. I find that woman loathsome, but she worked her ass off too.

When Obama ran, we saw Axelrod all the time, and we saw Plouffe a lot. That is an important part of making the case, ESPECIALLY when you have a candidate with such high negatives and so much baggage.

Democrats had better learn some lessons here. So far it doesn't seem that is happening.

 

BlueStreak

(8,377 posts)
88. Lots of group think here
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:58 AM
Nov 2016

Einstein said "The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting the same result"

Cosmocat

(14,564 posts)
6. The 30 year slander of hillary
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:45 PM
Nov 2016

They just so relentlessly tore her down even non conservative assholes just came to think of her as evil.

I know exceptionally liberal 40 year old women who didnt vote for her.

My wife is mildly left leaning and hated her, I had to give her space all year on it, and it took a brief talk the morning of to get her to vote for hillary, and she knows trump is a pos scumbag.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
13. That's exactly what I'm saying; yet I bet a pro-choice stance would have cost him millions of votes.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:55 PM
Nov 2016

We have to find a way to reframe this debate.

NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
15. Trump never would have won the primaries
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:59 PM
Nov 2016

if he was pro choice.

And, despite his lack of awareness on almost every issue of importance, Trump did choose wisely with Pence. Pence helped give him credibility with the evangelical voters/conservative Christians. Chris Christie would not have done that for Trump (wasn't Christie the original first choice?)

mtnsnake

(22,236 posts)
9. Good question. I think the other stumbling block is guns.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:48 PM
Nov 2016

No matter how much more it would be in their best interests to vote for a Democrat, there are way too many voters who will never vote for a Democrat because of abortion and the false perception they have about gun control.

CrispyQ

(36,464 posts)
12. Good fucking grief, do I miss unrec!
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:54 PM
Nov 2016

For several years now, republican (mostly) men have made horrendous comments about women & women's reproductive choices. State legislators have implemented restrictive laws in many states to limit access to abortion. Fuck your arrogant (already settled) issue bullshit.

It is not already settled & our rights are even more at risk than ever before!

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
14. So apparently you think we should write those millions of potential votes off?
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 03:58 PM
Nov 2016

That millions of potential votes aren't worth the minimal effort it would take to examine how we could reframe the issue?

I see. Interesting. And noted.

CrispyQ

(36,464 posts)
16. Yes. If it means capitulating on choice, then absolutely, yes. Write them off.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:02 PM
Nov 2016

I can't believe I'm reading this on a democratic board! And above, the poster who thinks we need to back off the gun issue. Why don't we just turn into pre-Trump republicans? Think of all the votes we can get if we do that.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
18. There are 17 posts in this thread; show me the one that says we should capitulate on choice.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:04 PM
Nov 2016

I think you might be getting confused; take a break for a little bit.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
20. Sounds like a winning argument. Worked well this year. And 2014. And 2012. And 2010.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:14 PM
Nov 2016

Can I hire you as our permanent National Campaign Strategist?

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
22. 4 brutal elections in a row, & another poster that suspiciously wants to change nothing; interesting
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:23 PM
Nov 2016

Nevermind that in the last 6-7 years we've lost 900+ state legislature seats, 12 governors, 69 House seats, and 13 Senate seats.

We're not going to change a thing!!! Because, gosh darn it, we're right!!!!

I'm not sure who is more ignorant, the racists who voted for Trump, or the folks in our Party who think "being right" is a winning strategy.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
24. Let me know your preferred candidates in the future, so I can place some opposite bets in Vegas :)
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:29 PM
Nov 2016

I have a feeling you're going to make me a lot of money.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
37. You ever seen the Tin Cup scene where Kevin Costner's character keeps hitting it in the water?
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 06:02 PM
Nov 2016

Check it out, the strategy might look familiar to you, although I doubt you'll have as happy an ending with your personal approach to politics as he did in golf.

CrispyQ

(36,464 posts)
30. And trying to reach out to zealots who equate abortion with murder is a winning strategy?
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:46 PM
Nov 2016

That will only weaken the resolve of dems to support a woman's right to choose. They will frame the debate to get the votes of unreasonable zealots & next thing you know they are backing off legislation, too, for fear it might offend the goddamned zealots. Fine. Go with that. This is only one of the reasons I'm no longer a dem. They don't know how to draw a line in the sand & say, "We're not crossing that."

But thank you for your concern, since you think it's already a settle issue.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
33. What's interesting is that you had a reasonable point, and it got completely lost in your approach.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 05:03 PM
Nov 2016

You could have simply responded to my question with a rational, reasoned, intelligent response around your fears of opening a can of worms.. Instead, it was:

-Good fucking grief
-do I miss unrec!
-Fuck your arrogant (already settled) issue bullshit.

CrispyQ

(36,464 posts)
39. Well, I don't think your point is reasonable in the least & your approach got lost in stating that
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 06:29 PM
Nov 2016

these are (already settled) issues and implying that we should reach out to zealots, who will never see beyond their ideology, to find common ground on this issue. There is no common ground to "the most important decision a woman can make, isn't yours."

That said, I could have counted to 10 before posting.

AgadorSparticus

(7,963 posts)
54. Reframe it? You mean tell the truth? B/c there is an awful lot of misinformation out there about ab
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:08 AM
Nov 2016

And it goes back to the media and their agenda. Supporting women's choice is not a losing endeavor. Lack of real information is a losing endeavor for us.

Buckeye_Democrat

(14,853 posts)
17. Trump received a majority of votes from WHITE women.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:03 PM
Nov 2016

That shocked me.

It was mostly African American women who swung women, overall, in Hillary's favor.

Garrett78

(10,721 posts)
85. Yep, and Trump only lost by 6 points among white women with college degrees, according to exit polls
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:29 AM
Nov 2016

But I don't find it shocking. It's par for the course. Women of color, college degree or not, voted overwhelmingly for Clinton.

zipplewrath

(16,646 posts)
27. Not the issue
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:36 PM
Nov 2016

I don't think that the data supports a position that the abortion issue is the deciding factor in women supporting, or not, a candidate, much less finding a female candidate preferable. My perception, heavily influenced in my spouses work with domestic violence victims, is that women tend to make political choices heavily influenced by spouses. Not all women by any stretch, probably on the order of 20-30%. But I often find that women of a certain class/condition tend to be the "diplomats" in relationships and they tend towards a "get along to go along" strategy. The extreme example are the women that are drawn towards these close, polygamist societies, but also the Christian women that accept a male/husband dominated authority within the relationship. Again, a minority by far, but they exist none the less. Mix in another 10% or so that truly are some sort of social/economic conservatives and you're well on your way to 42%. That glass ceiling is in part because of an unconscious bias of women.

KT2000

(20,577 posts)
29. why has the Equal Rights Amendment
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:41 PM
Nov 2016

not been ratified? Many women do not want it - such as many conservatives. They are happy with their position in life and feel threatened by women who succeed in traditionally male positions. They believe they may have to do the same but they prefer being "taken care of."
Someone knew that many women hold an animosity toward Clinton - how dare she!! Then they played on that to give reasons to not support her. Many women absolutely hate Hillary but cannot tell you why - or more likely they will not tell you why.

Anyone who thought Clinton would win most of the women vote does not understand women and it is not the abortion issue.

athena

(4,187 posts)
35. Exactly! And beautifully stated!
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 05:25 PM
Nov 2016

The reason most white women voted against Hillary is the same reason most white men voted against Hillary: misogyny. Women are just as misogynistic as men are. Those who think that women can't be misogynists do not understand what misogyny is.

They are happy with their position in life and feel threatened by women who succeed in traditionally male positions. They believe they may have to do the same but they prefer being "taken care of."


This is exactly right. This is why one doesn't see the same sort of solidarity among women as one does among members of other minority groups. Many women are very conflicted about feminism and equality. They accept what patriarchy has taught them about their own inferiority because it gives them a feeling of security.

Many women absolutely hate Hillary but cannot tell you why - or more likely they will not tell you why.


The idea of being lead by a woman makes many women extremely uncomfortable because it challenges their notions of men's and women's roles in society. Rather than admit that they have been held back by society's sexism, they would prefer to think that women are naturally inferior. A woman who is the equal of men in ambition, intelligence, capability, and courage seems completely wrong to them: there must be something unnatural and evil about the woman that she is hiding from them.

djsunyc

(169 posts)
60. great post
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:34 AM
Nov 2016

i agree.

ann marie cox also presented this POV on bill maher's show. she felt women never competed with men b/c of their status in society as 2nd class citizens. therefore women's only real competition was with other women and minorities. in the case of this election, race trumped gender.

 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
51. I thought for sure we'd finally get it in 2009 but it wasn't even brought up.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 12:57 AM
Nov 2016

Not sure when we'll get it.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
59. How old are you? The ERA has been a nonstarter for nearly 35 YEARS.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:33 AM
Nov 2016

That was thanks to the idiot time limit that was put on the amendment. It wasn't "women" who fought against it, Schlafly's Eagle Forum stunt notwithstanding. It was state legislatures that were white male Mormon-dominated that voted against it and legislatures heavily influenced by the insurance industry which would have lost billions of dollars in profits if they treated men and women the same. Insurance companies are regulated by the states and have a lot of influence on legislation in those states. Schlafly was a useful idiot for those business interests.

Still, the vast majority of states ratified the ERA, just not the 3/4ths needed.

KT2000

(20,577 posts)
66. Old enough to have seen
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:09 AM
Nov 2016

the term "Women's lib" and "feminist" turned into words used against women. Old enough to have seen women distance themselves from the concept as well, for fear of being called those names.
In Washington state insurance can not charge differently for men and women, which was one successful thing that came out of that but there are many women who found the issue unfeminine.
Yes - I lived through that time and had many discussions with women who rejected equality.

 

Budee

(12 posts)
65. hmm
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:04 AM
Nov 2016
Many women do not want it - such as many conservatives. They are happy with their position in life and feel threatened by women who succeed in traditionally male positions. They believe they may have to do the same but they prefer being "taken care of."


Different strokes for different folks. If some women prefer getting married, having babies and relying on their husband that is just as valid of choice as being a career woman.

KT2000

(20,577 posts)
69. No one said it is not
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:18 AM
Nov 2016

a valid choice. The discussion was about why many women did not vote for Clinton and why there was this hatred of her from women. I offered an explanation that I think is true. Some women have issues with women who seek male dominated positions. I suggest they feel threatened.

 

virgogal

(10,178 posts)
31. Some women just didn't like Hillary
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:53 PM
Nov 2016

and wouldn't vote for her even if she was the first woman candidate.

Men vote against certain men all of the time and I'm sure that many men voted for Hillary.

The sex of the candidate shouldn't matter.

kelly1mm

(4,733 posts)
32. Both my MIL and FIL in PA voted for Trump due to their pro-life beliefs. I agree that we don't
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 04:53 PM
Nov 2016

need to change our position but it would be foolish to believe we don't lose some votes on abortion and gun issues.

RobinA

(9,893 posts)
50. Well, Every Position
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 12:42 AM
Nov 2016

"Loses" votes if you want to look at it that way. Apparently the only thing these days that doesn't lose votes is mocking a handicapped person on the podium with TV cameras rolling.

still_one

(92,190 posts)
34. The Democratic position is that it is between a woman and her doctor, and no one elses business
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 05:25 PM
Nov 2016

and her position was choice, not pro abortion.

And how many of those so-called voters are out their adopting unwanted children?

How many of those supported invading Iraq, not once but twice, and fostering an 8 year war between Iraq and Iran where millions of lives were lost

I promise I won't force them to have an abortion

 

Spider Jerusalem

(21,786 posts)
36. Nope
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 05:51 PM
Nov 2016

"44% of the female vote", but more notably, over 50% of the WHITE female vote. Trump wouldn't have done that well among women without white women. Every other demographic of female voter went for Clinton.

 

davidn3600

(6,342 posts)
43. That's not uncommon.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 08:18 PM
Nov 2016

Minority women typically vote Democratic pretty strongly and reliably. White women tend to be a far more complex. White women vote in all sorts of different ways depending on their geographic location, age, education, marital status, etc.

But no matter how you look at it...the fact 53% of white women voted for Trump has to absolutely be a total disappointment not just for Hillary but feminism as a whole. Trump may be the most misogynistic candidate in the modern political era. Yet women voted for him over the first potential female president? This wasn't John McCain or Marco Rubio or half-way decent person. This was Donald Trump!
That's bad....no matter how you twist it. It's bad. And it's something feminists will be trying to figure out and explain for years to come. There's some type type of disconnect there between Democrats and white women. And that needs more attention.

athena

(4,187 posts)
44. Feminists are not surprised.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 08:23 PM
Nov 2016

This is nothing new. Go over to the History of Feminism forum, and you'll see that feminists have always known that female gender does not make one a feminist.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/125559733

 

JTFrog

(14,274 posts)
62. Oh please don't send him there, lol.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:37 AM
Nov 2016

I don't think he could adhere to the SOP of that group.



 

Spider Jerusalem

(21,786 posts)
48. The answer is pretty obvious to me
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 11:00 PM
Nov 2016

over half of white women voted for the candidate running on a platform of xenophobia and banning Muslims and deporting Mexicans. That's not "far more complex", that's "far more racist". I'm simultaneously both bemused and disappointed by the evident reluctance of so many (white) people to admit the role of bigotry in Trump winning a majority of white voters.

.99center

(1,237 posts)
46. I think it had more to do with Islamophobia and securing the border.
Wed Nov 23, 2016, 08:40 PM
Nov 2016

There were some stunning polls after the primaries that showed the majority of 45+ white woman supported Muslim bans and building a wall, even democrats in the demographic showed close to 25% support for the wall and even higher for a Muslim ban.

I don't want to rehash anything, but my god was it frustrating watching the attacks on the youth at DU as her support among older white women was plunging.

OhioBlue

(5,126 posts)
49. Yes, I agree with you that we need to better frame the subject
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 12:40 AM
Nov 2016

I think it should be a woman's health issue. Abortions have always happened regardless of the legality. My great-grandmother died from an illegal and unsafe abortion which essentially orphaned her 3 children as their father was an alcoholic that abdicated his parental duties. This left my grandma at age 5, to be raised by her aunt for whom she always talked about with love and gratitude. He life was greatly affected tho. I remember near the end of her life, battling bouts of senility, she once asked my mom as we entered her room, "Are you my mother?"

Besides that, we are talking about a medical procedure. When I had a tubal pregnancy, the medical code for the D&C to determine if I miscarried or if it was tubal was "abortion". I remember the nurse told me not to be upset over the paperwork. I was surprised. The word on the paper was the least of my concerns. I very much wanted a baby. I was glad tho that through medical care, my tubes didn't rupture and harm my chances for another pregnancy.

We shouldn't ban medical procedures. Nobody is pro-abortion. The Dem's have campaigned before that we need to make them "legal, safe and rare". We do this by empowering women, education, and providing safety nets for those that feel there is no hope.

We need to make the focus on people and not a medical procedure. There are thousands of different reasons why a woman seeks an abortion, some elective, some circumstantial and some medically necessary. For the elective, we focus on policies such as education to reduce unwanted pregnancies, for the circumstantial, we focus on support for mothers that don't know how to support another baby or work through a pregnancy, for medically necessary, there should be no governmental interference. Trust women.

I don't know how to message it, I know it needs to be short and repeated. But what the so called "pro-life" movement has done to threaten women's health is reprehensible and I don't think many of them even realize the effects if they got what they wished. Their movement plays on emotions and ours on logic. We need to move it to an emotional appeal.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
56. Framing has nothing to do with it. You cannot change their mindset.
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:22 AM
Nov 2016

If you are a woman who has been raised all her life to think her only value in life is to be a wife and a mother to some guy, beliefs reinforced by institutions like conservative churches, you are not ever going to change.

People around here just do not get it with the right-wing mindset. These women--and the white dudes some are saying the Dems should court--are impossible to reach. They live in a bubble, and they refuse to listen to anybody outside of that bubble.

They are unreachable.

raging moderate

(4,305 posts)
58. I know some who are mad because some people say "Happy Holidays."
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:31 AM
Nov 2016

Quick, everybody, start saying " Merry Christmas" to right wing people as often as you can!

OhioBlue

(5,126 posts)
63. Framing has everything to do with the issue
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:38 AM
Nov 2016

There may be some that are unreachable, but that isn't our target audience. There are many in the middle. The overall message on abortion from the anti-choice groups has been winning. George HW Bush was pro-choice before he was anit-choice, even Trump was in the pro-choice camp before he ran.

This isn't an issue that can be changed by one candidate or in one election cycle. The right has been working for decades to frame their message, target their electorate and hone their messages. We need to do better and not give up on our messages.

 

Grey Lemercier

(1,429 posts)
86. this is truth, they will NEVER change
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:49 AM
Nov 2016

Last edited Sun Nov 27, 2016, 06:30 PM - Edit history (1)

Its all so terribly depressing and so hard to explain to non Americans. I find the best comparison is to use the religiously insane anti human Muslim countries.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
55. Abortion and the USSC
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:17 AM
Nov 2016

The issue is a bunch of shit, but you have to understand their mindset. While women who support legal abortion feel it is important to have that option for self-determination, there are millions of women who see legal abortion as a way to undercut their power of pregnancy, intended or not, as a way to control men.

Having abortion illegal (and birth control) ties these men to them who they feel would otherwise walk away from them, leaving them destitute (these women KNOW how poorly women fare in the job market, blather about glamorous careers notwithstanding). These women believe there is no real option other than marriage--they see how poorly single women fare economically--so men are a constant presence in their lives, whether or not these men are good husbands.

It is all about power with these women, and forced pregnancy is a form of power for them.

Barack_America

(28,876 posts)
61. It's more than this; it's deep-rooted conflict regarding the role of women...
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 01:34 AM
Nov 2016

...and the diminishing role of men in a globalized economy.

spin

(17,493 posts)
67. My son in law told me that his mother initially told him that she planned to vote ...
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:13 AM
Nov 2016

for Hillary just to cancel out her husband's vote for Trump. However when she found out Hillary's position on abortion she decided to vote for Trump.

I do remember her saying once while she was visiting that she thought Trump was obnoxious. However she was very enthusiastic about his win on the day after the election.



LostOne4Ever

(9,288 posts)
70. I am against in anyway backing down from a Pro-Choice position
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:23 AM
Nov 2016

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]We should support the right of every woman to their own body and oppose any attempt to restrict that or shame them for their decisions. If this drives away some voters then that is better than supporting a party that doesn't even believe that people have a right to autonomy.

If we are going to make any change on this issue it should be greater promotion of contraception and the promotion of our policy on social safety nets that help provide for the families of poor women who CHOSE to give birth but need assistance in taking care of them.[/font]

Megahurtz

(7,046 posts)
71. Too Fucking Bad
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 02:30 AM
Nov 2016

Sorry. If you are not a woman then you have fuck all to say about it. Everyone else needs to CAN IT. Not your body, not your business etc.

NickB79

(19,243 posts)
74. Women can be gun-humping, xenophobic, high school dropout, racist assholes too, ya know
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 12:18 PM
Nov 2016

This goes deeper than just the abortion issue.

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
81. Deeper? Most of DU is telling me race is the ONLY thing that mattered in this election.
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 02:52 AM
Nov 2016

Go figure, I thought both candidates were white.

 

liquid diamond

(1,917 posts)
76. This post
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 04:54 PM
Nov 2016

reminds me of all those fucking "We need to convince racist whites to vote for us" threads. What the hell is going on at DU?

Face it. Some issues aren't negotiable.

As of now your thread has zero recs and rightfully so.

RelativelyJones

(898 posts)
77. I respect that you are trying to build a bridge
Thu Nov 24, 2016, 05:04 PM
Nov 2016

But there is none. A woman's right to choose is non-negotiable and ensuring that lower income women have access to quality healthcare for family planning is non-negotiable. Growing up a strict Catholic I know you must be firm on this.

BainsBane

(53,032 posts)
82. My, you're awfully anxious to get rid of women's rights
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:07 AM
Nov 2016

to compete for the Republican voter.

Hell, no. Not going to happen. You obviously haven't bothered to look at polling on the issue because it's clearly on the Democratic side. But even if it weren't, equal rights are not negotiable.

Note: I am restraining the anger I feel at reading your post. The way you casually suggest doing away with the rights of the majority of Democratic voters is disgusting.

I find it interesting that the same people who have insisted that the Democratic Party is the GOP lite are anxious to throw away the rights and concerns of the Democratic base--women and people of color--in order to make it GOP/Trump lite,

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
83. "The way you casually suggest doing away with the rights of the majority of Democratic voters"
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:20 AM
Nov 2016

Kindly find and quote where I or anyone else in this thread suggested that and I will be happy to delete it.

BainsBane

(53,032 posts)
84. Is your OP not about winning over the pro-life voter?
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:22 AM
Nov 2016

and how abortion rights are too divisive?

It was hardly discussed in the campaign at all, so absent an about change of position, I don't know what you could imagine they should do differently.

Statistical

(19,264 posts)
87. There is absolutely no evidence to indicate that abortion was a major issue.
Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:10 AM
Nov 2016

Yes some portion of (mostly evengelical mostly married mostly non-college educated) women against Clinton. They also voted against Obama twice, and Kerry, and Gore.

To quote a smart Democrat:
"It is the economy stupid"

Trump gave people in the rust belt platitudes and false hope but we has talking to them about what mattered. The Democrats failed to convince working class voters that they were the better choice of the economy.

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