History of Feminism
Related: About this forumHating oral sex as the new misogyny? Toward a more feminist sex life
(Offensive language, NSFW, I'm linking to the last couple paragraphs)
Reading this also called to mind the much discussed Slate piece from Andy Hinds and his woe-is-me-feminism-has-ruined-my-sexual-fantasies screed. Im not sure if its a strictly straight white dude problem, but both of these writers display an inability to reconcile both political and sexual equality among the genders. They seem to think one is ruined by the other and they are lamenting the loss. Thats bullshit. People will continue to have fantasies and there will be sexual acts in which we wont want to participate. But if the only language we have to articulate these desires or non-desires continues to degrade women we havent done enough work.
I say this from personal experience: a feminist sex life can be wildly fulfilling. But it only gets to be that fulfilling if youre constantly engaged in communicating your desires and challenging the misogyny that has informed our sexual identities since birth. Straight men (especially those claiming to be feminist) cant continue clinging to the old dialogue that simultaneously privileges our experience and leaves many of us unsatisfied. Its boring and predictable.
http://feministing.com/2013/06/14/hating-oral-sex-as-the-new-misogyny-toward-a-more-feminist-sex-life/
redqueen
(115,103 posts)They're simply not.
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)Maybe they actually BELIEVE that Ryan Gosling meme.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Created by a woman who used them as flash cards.
These assholes are simply full of shit, and all this "third wave" neofeminist, pro-objectification bullshit has created and enabled them.
"tagged male feminists" - yeah, of course it is.
Then they get all 'conflicted' because they're NICE GUYS
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Unicorns.
Guess why.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)95% sure it's satire/not written in earnest.
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)I think he's an asshole; if he's a satirist he needs to work on it it a bit
For those interested; (NSFW)
http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/im-a-feminist-but-i-dont-eat-pussy/
redqueen
(115,103 posts)If his goal was that he was trying to be funny, he should have tried to actually learn something about comedy first.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Maybe to satirize the self-congratulatory male feminists. That's the best spin for a total fail of an article anyways.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Don't particularly care if the guy likes vaginas/vulvas and oral sex or not... I just find find it perplexing that he thinks the rest of the world wants or needs to know how he feels about it.
Unless you are a person with female sex organs who is considering an intimate relationship with this guy, who cares?
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)Ultimately it shouldn't matter, it's the caveat of claiming to be a feminist then using body shaming.
There's a lot of jokes about women's sex organs, a certain ick factor In certain cultures- including American ones. It shouldn't matter but it has caused hurt and harm.
Reminds me of a Richard Pryor quote, (not this one actually, but this one will do)
"You gotta be cool when you're macho man, cuz you can't be sensitive and care about someone having a good time in bed, cuz that's too scary... When you don't use sensitivity when you're having sex, or share some of your soul, nothing gonna happen, because men really get afraid. Men really get scared in bed."