When you're discussing beauty standards and men 'helpfully' share what they personally like

[redqueen]

http://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=2571#comic

http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2012/04/09/why-i-prefer-small-boobs-isnt-helping/

[BainsBane]

1. Remember the thread about the so-called study

that showed sexist men prefer large breasts, and DU men were falling all over themselves to tell everyone how much they preferred small breasts? We needed that comic strip then.

This from your second link explains it well:

It’s about casting directors who automatically cast large-breasted actresses to play The Slut or The Airhead, and who automatically cast fat actresses as The Desperate Single Friend Who Eats All the Time. It’s about women who get kicked off of planes for outfits that would be deemed perfectly inoffensive on a less-blonde, less-busty woman. It’s about women who aren’t traditionally attractive getting not getting hired, and women who are traditionally attractive not getting taken seriously in the workplace. It’s about elementary school teachers who favor pretty girls over the less-pretty ones. It’s about dismissing rape accusations because you’re either not sexy enough to get raped or so sexy you must have been asking for it. It’s about men at work and out in the world who automatically assume you’re flirting just because you have breasts in their presence. It’s about the women you fuck vs. the women you marry. It’s about having your eating habits criticized regardless, whether it’s Ew, push away from the buffet or Ew, eat a sandwich. It’s about character actors who can cover the full spectrum of physical appearance and character actresses who get cut off at “quirky-looking.” It’s about teen movies where first you get the makeover, then you get the guy. It’s about never seeing yourself represented on TV or in movies because 90 percent of the world doesn’t look like 90 percent of Hollywood.

[hlthe2b]

2. I had to LOL at your post...

I think I do remember that....

[redqueen]

3. No, I either missed that thread or forgot about it.

I enjoy sharing this comic. It's a nice, succinct way to get the point across.

[BainsBane]

4. Here it is

So you can bang your head some more.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022511124

[MadrasT]

5. Oh God. That was one of the "benevolent sexism" threads.

[BainsBane]

6. OMG

If I hear about another fucking door, I'll lose my mind.

[seabeyond]

10. THIS... nt

[LanternWaste]

8. Holy crap!

Holy crap! One poster: I like small boobs, therefore I'm not sexist, therefore anything sexist I say is not really sexist!

Logic to beat with a baseball bat right there...

[seabeyond]

9. take note. i gave the fuckin definition of BS. (giggle, bs). all people say, HOLD OPEN DOORS?????

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that is bad. du feminists say... still getting shit from that and i put the fuckin DEFINITION in the first fuckin post about it. lol. thank you so much for bring that back to us. funny


Glick and Fiske have shown the negative consequences of attitudes that idealize women as pure, moral, pedestal-worthy objects of men's adoration, protection, and provision. People who endorse benevolent sexism feel positively toward women, but only when women conform to highly traditional ideals about "how women should be."

Benevolent sexism motivates chivalrous acts that many women may welcome, such as a man's offer to lift heavy boxes or install the new computer. While the path to benevolent sexism may be paved with good intentions, it reinforces the assumption that men possess greater competence than women, whom benevolent sexists view as wonderful, but weak and fragile.

Cross-national comparisons show that hostile and benevolent sexism go hand-in-hand (that is, nations that endorse hostile sexism also endorse benevolent sexism). The beliefs work together because benevolent sexism "rewards" women when they fulfill traditional roles whereas hostile sexism punishes women who do not toe the line, thereby working together to maintain traditional relations. In other words, act sweet and they'll pat you on the head; assert yourself and they'll put you in your place.

Numerous studies by various researchers document benevolent sexism's insidious effects. For example, when led to expect benevolently sexist help in a masculine workplace, women became unsure of themselves, got distracted, and consequently performed poorly.

[BainsBane]

11. Your mistake was thinking they might actually care

enough to understand. Instead, they were looking for just another opportunity to belittle feminists.

[seabeyond]

12. it is all about the stupid. nt

[MadrasT]

7. I saw that article a while back and really appreciated it.

It was right after I had finished ranting to someone about the same topic.

Cartoon is spot on.