A woman's purity certificate went viral. Time to talk about that whole 'virginity' thing
.http://www.upworthy.com/a-womans-purity-certificate-went-viral-time-to-talk-about-that-whole-virginity-thing
Now, I'm not here to knock the fact that Brelyn Bowman had a goal that was important to her that she achieved. But there is something messed up about the, um, measurement of that goal.
Here's the thing: It's impossible to "prove" someone is a virgin using a hymen test.
The basis for Bowman's test was whether her hymen — a membrane in the vaginal canal — was still intact. While the test worked for her, it has long been debunked as a useful tool to determine whether someone has engaged in sex.
There are two big issues here: First, not all hymens are created equal. Some people are born with hymens that are not intact. And, second, even if someone is born with it intact, the hymen can tear due to a variety of nonsexual activities, like horseback riding or gymnastics.
There's no set definition for virginity. People commonly say that a virgin is someone who has never had sex. But what counts as sex?
Does oral sex count? Anal intercourse? Conventionally, people have tended to believe that only penis-in-vagina intercourse counts. But then ... are gay people always virgins? What about people who engage in other sexual contact?
I wouldn't blame you if you're scratching your head right now because it all seems pretty complicated and confusing.
It's hard to parse it all because virginity isn't a biological state. It's a social construct.
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'I did not have sexual relations with that woman.'
