should we let go of the traditional role where boys/men pay for a date?

[seabeyond]

yes, i recognize i did not put the option of girl/woman should pay. we have not had that role. so, no reason to put it as an option, imo.

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	boy/man should pay for date
	0 (0%)
	boy/man should pay for first date
	0 (0%)
	whoever asks should pay
	1 (50%)
	this traditional role no longer applies and should be trashed. split cost
	1 (50%)
	men should pay 23% more for the date than women
	0 (0%)
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[liberalmuse]

1. Well, I propose that...

...men should pay 23% more for the date than women since on the average, women only make 77 cents for every dollar men make. I'm joking...sort of.

[seabeyond]

2. wink.... good point. lol. nt

[seabeyond]

3. ok. had to add. people can change there vote, lol. but, had to be said. cute

thanks.

[redqueen]

4. Love this.

But in all seriousness I think its important to keep things very nonchalant for first dates. Meet somewhere, split costs, etc. It's much safer.

[Little Star]

5. +10000. Very good point!

[sufrommich]

7. +1. lol. nt

[sufrommich]

6. I think traditional date rules have already

been ruled obsolete,at least that is what my niece tells me, She thought I was kidding when I told her that when I was her age,it was unheard of for a girl to ask a boy out. One of my friends has 2 teenage boys,she says both boys have been asked out by girls.

[seabeyond]

8. i am not seeing it in my area. and it could be totally my area. thanks. nt

[sufrommich]

10. Aren't you in Texas?

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[seabeyond]

11. i am, lol. i was telling rq in another post

it is very much the boy paying. and the boy asking. my son has adjusted a tad cause of a heartbreak a year ago. he will give the girl the number. she can call or not. i am trying to get it in his mind, they both should pay.

my niece is in el paso. more liberal. i will see her in a week. i am gonna ask her if she is askin guys out. she is very independent and bold. and if they both pay. last i talked about this stuff, a year or two, it was the same role. but they are 17 working on 18

[sufrommich]

12. It may be more prevalent outside the south,

or Texas ,where traditions die hard and the mothers of cheerleaders who didn't make the team plot murder.

[redqueen]

13. I grew up in Dallas,

and back in the 80's it was already changing. It might be more an urban / rural thing. Or maybe class related.

[sufrommich]

14. Could be,I'm in the suburbs of Detroit. nt

[seabeyond]

16. urban / rural thing. Or maybe class related.

and you are right. on both counts. it may be.

[seabeyond]

15. mothers of cheerleaders who didn't make the team plot murder.

true that... lol

hey, btw, i am not from this area. calif. only living here. i wanted to make that real clear.

[pansypoo53219]

9. if she gets equal pay.

or chick prices in lieu of said equal pay. sure

[boston bean]

17. What are chick prices in lieu of equal pay? What does that mean? nt

[TorchTheWitch]

18. other

Should be split between them regardless of who asks for the date. I never liked the idea of men paying for the expenses of a date becaue they ALWAYS expect it "returned" with sex. And the more expensive the cost of the date, the more they expect it "returned" with sex and the more involved they expect the sex to be. I can't stand feeling like when going on a date that it was just a round-about way of getting a hooker who isn't a hooker, doesn't want to be one, shouldn't be expected to act like one and is so disrespected that way - I'm supposed to want to go on the date at all or have a good time if I do if that's what they expect???

That cartoon makes me cringe. Was that from the actual comic strip???

[sufrommich]

19. Very good points and I think we've all been

there before. A split bill for a date is probably a good idea until a date becomes a relationship that includes trust and boundaries.

[seabeyond]

20. that is what i was thinking in my head, with trash tradition.

not clear at all. split costs. absolutely. i agree. that is how i did it. generally i was making more, so that didnt make sense. and exactly what you say. i dont like ever owing someone. and i am not being bought for sex with food. and you inevitably hear men griping about having to pay.

so i had four reasons i would never let a man pay my way.

[seabeyond]

21. i edited and clarified. sorry.

[Texasgal]

22. I think that

regardless of who pays there should be no expectation.

In my dating years, oh so long ago... LONG ago... *snicker* I paid for coffee or dinner sometimes. I would "feel" my date out and decide what the expectation was. Of-course, I went half and half and also had things paid for too.

It's a quandary. Erase the EXPECTATION and we're all good!

[eridani]

23. Payment should be according to who has the most resources

If the people involved don't know each other well and don't want to discuss it, the one who asks pays.