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Tue Jul 10, 2018, 01:13 PM

Pub Owner's Response To A Dad Asking If His Disabled Son Can Enter Is Incredibly Heartwarming

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Pub Owner’s Response To A Dad Asking If His Disabled Son Can Enter Is Incredibly Heartwarming

A pub landlord has proven that good people do exist when she took to Facebook to send a truly heartwarming message to the family of a disabled customer.

When a father looking to go out with his family felt the need to ask permission to bring his son with disabilities to the pub, the pub’s owner was incredulous. Steph Tate, who owns The Barrel Chapeltown pub in Sheffield, England, reached out to the man saying: “Everyone is welcome in my pub”. What she wrote in response is going viral for its heartwarming message:

“Yesterday a parent came in and asked me if his wheelchair bound child was ok to be in the pub, I was confused why he felt he needed to ask. This man went on to explain that his child sometimes makes loud noises and waves his arms about, people have made comments in the past when he has taken him out. “It broke my heart that a parent felt they needed to ask if it was ok for his child to be here just like anyone else.”

“My intention is not to embarrass the parent who I spoke to yesterday, it has played on my mind all night about how this man must have felt asking me if his child would be accepted in here. It then got me thinking about how many other people must be in the same position. Whether you need us to get you extension leads to plug specialist equipment in, help moving tables/chairs for wheelchairs or any other help you may need, everyone is welcome in my pub and help will always be offered by all of my staff. If you’re sat at home with a disabled child, partner or friend and feel on edge about taking them anywhere due to fear of someone making comments please feel free to bring them here. If I find anyone making negative comments or being disrespectful they will be asked to leave not you.

“Steph”


This is the kind of place I want to live!

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Reply Pub Owner's Response To A Dad Asking If His Disabled Son Can Enter Is Incredibly Heartwarming (Original post)
Stonepounder Jul 2018 OP
sheshe2 Jul 2018 #1
redstatebluegirl Jul 2018 #2
Pacifist Patriot Jul 2018 #4
Crutchez_CuiBono Jul 2018 #26
Pacifist Patriot Jul 2018 #3
Dustlawyer Jul 2018 #5
geardaddy Jul 2018 #6
RandomAccess Jul 2018 #10
Maraya1969 Jul 2018 #23
d_r Jul 2018 #30
Girard442 Jul 2018 #7
Scarsdale Jul 2018 #8
demigoddess Jul 2018 #9
Maraya1969 Jul 2018 #24
haele Jul 2018 #33
demigoddess Jul 2018 #35
MyOwnPeace Jul 2018 #11
world wide wally Jul 2018 #22
MyOwnPeace Jul 2018 #25
kchamberlin25 Jul 2018 #12
CloudWatcher Jul 2018 #13
flibbitygiblets Jul 2018 #18
rurallib Jul 2018 #28
AllaN01Bear Jul 2018 #14
FailureToCommunicate Jul 2018 #15
WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2018 #16
lagomorph777 Jul 2018 #17
HockeyMom Jul 2018 #19
iluvtennis Jul 2018 #20
Pacifist Patriot Jul 2018 #32
appalachiablue Jul 2018 #21
Eko Jul 2018 #27
apkhgp Jul 2018 #29
Demovictory9 Jul 2018 #31
dembotoz Jul 2018 #34

Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 01:22 PM

1. Beautiful

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Response to redstatebluegirl (Reply #2)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 01:36 PM

4. Except it's in Sheffield, England

But we do have good people like this here too.

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Response to Pacifist Patriot (Reply #4)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 08:27 PM

26. Right-o

We forget that wayyy too often these days. Cheerio.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 01:35 PM

3. If I'm ever in Sheffield, I know where I'm popping in for a drink!

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 01:58 PM

5. My daughter has a service dog and it is about 50/50 on whether we are told we cannot bring a dog

inside public places. We have been subjected to harassment over store PA systems (twice by 2 different Family Dollar stores). Had cops called, been screamed at, as well as harassed by patrons too many times to count. We carry a copy of the law with us and it helps sometimes, but not all. My daughter hates to go in public for this reason.

This story is wonderful and chokes me up! Thank you!

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Response to Dustlawyer (Reply #5)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 02:04 PM

6. That's horrible!

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Response to Dustlawyer (Reply #5)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 02:54 PM

10. I'm so sorry

 

Here's hoping things improve for her, you and your family.

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Response to Dustlawyer (Reply #5)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 05:11 PM

23. I am so sorry this has happened to you and your daughter. I wish I could make it all better

but I know I can't. The thing that pops in my mind is the people who tell her to leave are Trump supporters, (the ones who laugh when trump makes fun of that reporter) They are just so ignorant.

Here is a hug for you and her.

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Response to Dustlawyer (Reply #5)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 09:30 PM

30. I can't imagine

so sorry that has happened.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 02:27 PM

7. What a mensch!

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 02:30 PM

8. Great to read GOOD news

for a change. I am sure there are many instances like this, but the negative stories always drown out the good ones. My heart goes out to the father, too. In a perfect world, he would not need to ask this question. I would settle for a "near" perfect world.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 02:46 PM

9. My husband and I have a handicapped child on the level of a one year old

she makes noises and sometimes screams and hits herself. Doctors say it is because she cannot say what she wants to. In several states we have not been able to walk down the street with her. Some people have shaken their fingers at me and claimed I made her that way. Now we live in the Seattle area and it is completely different. I can tell you tons of stories about how even small kids have been nice and caring about my daughter. I loved the kids who were friends to my sons and treated her just like she were one of them. The difference? they told the kids the truth about birth defects and mental retardation. I heard that way back when, the schools had a class in such things. Made all the difference. Even now, almost 40 years later, the result is still seen when my husband takes her for a walk.

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Response to demigoddess (Reply #9)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 05:13 PM

24. So it is a matter of being ignorant or being informed. That makes a lot of sense.

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Response to demigoddess (Reply #9)

Wed Jul 11, 2018, 10:42 AM

33. I went to school in Seattle in the 1970's.

Handicapped children, including the mentally disabled, were included in the public school system to the greatest degree possible. They may have had their own section of the school for the most part, but when they were physically or emotionally capable of participating in more mainstream classes - mainly in the art classes and gym - they were integrated into student body and school system taught all students from early on that everyone had abilities to contribute and not to be afraid of differences in the abilities of fellow students - and not to bully.
Though the "not to bully" never really took, the "don't be afraid of differences" tended to.
Though I didn't make many friends in school, I had several deaf acquaintances, one friend in a wheelchair with frightfully debilitating arthritis and probably Parkinson's (she died young - around 25), one with severe epilepsy, and there were several other adolescents with Downs syndrome that took several of the same elective classes I took in Jr. High School and High School.

Haele

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Response to haele (Reply #33)

Wed Jul 11, 2018, 01:03 PM

35. some of these kids were too young to go to school, but they still accepted her.

One guy was thrilled when she played cars with him and my son. Another little girl was told there were a lot of kids like my daughter. Finally one day she asked where were they and I told her 'at home with their mommies and daddies' and she smiled really big and said "oh, good". Love all those kids to this day.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:12 PM

11. Well,

I guess that pub owner didn't see IQ45's treatment of just such a person - a writer for the New York Times.



Boy, I guess that's just another way he's Making America Great Again, huh?

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Response to MyOwnPeace (Reply #11)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 05:00 PM

22. Sheffield has banned Donald Trump from its city limits in case you haven't heard.

Raise one to Shellield!

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Response to world wide wally (Reply #22)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 08:24 PM

25. Maybe.....

THAT could be a movement that could catch on!

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:12 PM

12. My wife's sister and her husband hav a severely disabled daughter, and they are Trump supporters.

I continue to wonder how the f*&k they square that circle.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:12 PM

13. And a followup from the pub owner ...

Class act ... from the pub's facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/pg/BarrelChapeltown/posts

Hi All, I've had a number of people message me asking if they can buy clothing with our logo on or send money due to the post I wrote on 25th June.

The post was not intended for publicity or financial gain, therefore anyone wishing to offer money can I please ask that you donate it to Paces which is a local charity to us.

Paces primary focus is to help a person of any age who has a condition of a neurological origin that affects their physical and learning ability.

To find out more about Paces or to Donate please follow the link below.

Thank you

https://www.pacessheffield.org.uk

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Response to CloudWatcher (Reply #13)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:52 PM

18. OK, now I'm crying.

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Response to CloudWatcher (Reply #13)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 09:07 PM

28. what a class act!

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:31 PM

14. bookmarked for love

le sigh. still good ppl on the planet earth.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:37 PM

15. There is no "ADA" in the British Isles, or Europe, as yet, but this story shows that civil rights,

and common decency, can be found even without legislation.

Good for that Sheffield pub owner.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:37 PM

16. Isn't making loud noises and waving arms pretty common in pubs?

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Response to WhiskeyGrinder (Reply #16)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 03:42 PM

17. Isn't that what pubs are for?

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Response to WhiskeyGrinder (Reply #16)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 04:00 PM

19. Our Dear Leader himself

makes loud noises and waves arms constantly. No comment on his "disabilities".

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Response to HockeyMom (Reply #19)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 04:04 PM

20. LMBO

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Response to WhiskeyGrinder (Reply #16)

Wed Jul 11, 2018, 07:45 AM

32. With England in the Semi-Finals today, I can guarantee...

There will be millions of people in pubs all over the world making loud noises much of which will consist of off-key slurred renditions of "It's Coming Home," jumping up and down with no physical control whatsoever, and spilling food and drink all over oneself and others. Not that I speak from experience or have video evidence from the Quarter-Final game mind.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 04:04 PM

21. Beautiful story, tx for posting this. Sadly, people's atttitudes

towards disability and other matters are sometimes much more hurtful than the condition or illness. But not with many people as the terrific pub owner shows.

Cheers!

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 09:04 PM

27. Thats how it should be everywhere.

You take care of the people who come into your business, all of them.

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Tue Jul 10, 2018, 09:14 PM

29. This post goes deep

In this day and age when you are most likely to hear about some blithering idiot who can not hold their liquor spouting off their opinion on current events and such, I welcome a breath of fresh air here.

This woman shows understanding, care, compassion to a complete stranger. It is high time that OUR LEADERSHIP IN THIS COUNTRY exhibit those qualities.


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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Wed Jul 11, 2018, 01:03 AM

31. great story

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Response to Stonepounder (Original post)

Wed Jul 11, 2018, 10:58 AM

34. maybe a soccer game on the tv....known to produce some rowdy stuff in england

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