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10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know


1. Adoptees want their adoptive parents to prepare emotionally and psychologically
before they bring them home to become a family.
It's helpful when parents have done their own psychological work before adopting and continue to be aware of their on-going experience as it relates to adoption. It's important for adoptive parents to grieve their inability to conceive a biological child if this is why they chose to adopt. Adoption is not a substitute for having a biological child nor is it a way of "replacing" a child who dies. Adoption IS one of many ways to make a family.

Adoptive families benefit when parents continue to educate themselves on relevant issues related to adoption and access support when necessary. Many communities now have various support groups for all members of the adoption constellation. If your community doesn't, why not start one?

2. The adoptee's experience is REAL.
Adoptees want you to know their experience is real and that no one can "fix" it. It's difficult for parents to see their children struggle with the complexities of adoption. They want to make things better and alleviate suffering. Parents cannot eliminate the pain of their child's past experience. However, they can provide a safe place for their child to explore current feelings about adoption at various stages of life in order to help their child integrate the experience more fully. The adoptee wants and needs validation of their feelings, and a compassionate presence. They want to know it's always okay to talk about adoption and ask questions.

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Adoption Induced Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in Mothers of the Baby Scoop Era

Between 1945 and 1973, a period often referred to in adoption literature as the "Baby Scoop Era" (BSE), many hundreds of thousands of unmarried mothers in the United States, Canada, New Zealand, Australia, Ireland, and the United Kingdom were separated from their infants against their will. They were targeted by a system whose purpose was to obtain healthy newborn infants for adoption (United Nations, 1971, pp. 101-103).
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is defined in the DSM-IV-TR (468) as being a disorder linked to having experienced a traumatic event, and characterized by symptoms such as hyper vigilance, flashbacks, emotional numbness, avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma, difficulty sleeping, concentrating, persistent anxiety, etc. (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, /Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders/, pp. 467-468).


Unwed Motherhood as Neurosis

The theory and goal of the BSE was curative, as if these girls had a disease, as if they were mentally unfit, or as identified in historical literature, "deviant." Babb cites Solinger:

"The Caucasian single mother was expected to pay for violating norms against premarital sex and conception. Her pregnancy, according to experts, was a neurotic symptom. Experts also agreed that only the most seriously disturbed mothers kept their babies rather than giving them up to middle-class Caucasian couples for adoption" (Babb, 1999, p. 44).

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Babies for Sale

Babies for Sale

Think adoption is a non-profit service for children? Think again. If it was so charitable, it would be provided as a public service with no money changing hands.

Instead, adoption is a multi-billion-dollar industry. Each transaction, each time money is given to an agency in exchange for an infant, a profit has been made, a human being has been bought. And, usually by people who would recoil at the concept of human trafficking. But if you can dress it up in euphemisms of “adoption services” and “adoption situations,” you can get away with treating babies as commodities.

Here are examples of price-lists for babies. These are screen-captures of actual pages from business websites. I am leaving out the business names to avoid legal hassles. But just google “adoption situations” to find these and many more.




A pox on those involved in the baby trade

Adopted children are used as medical ‘guinea pigs’ in U.S for pharmaceutical companies to test new d

Adopted children are used as medical ‘guinea pigs’ in U.S for pharmaceutical companies to test new drugs


Adopted children in American families sometimes become “guinea pigs” for pharmaceutical companies to test new drugs. Such children are prescribed five potent psychotropic medications at a time. This is beneficial both for the adoptive parents and health care professionals.

Russian diplomats found that the adoptive mother of Maxim Kuzmin who died in late January in the U.S. gave him a drug called Risperdal. It is a powerful anti-psychotic and anti-hallucination drug prescribed for acute manic attacks in patients with schizophrenia. Why a three-year-old boy not diagnosed with mental illness at the time of adoption would take such a strong drug? American TV journalists of KMID channel while preparing a story about the death of the Russian child talked to a child psychologist and found that Risperdal is also often prescribed for common disorders of psychological development and ASD.

Adepts of the so-called Attachment Therapy recommend wrapping children in a carpet, and then sitting on them. Children are also kept under a cold shower for a long time, locked in a toilet and left without food for several days. Many “advanced” parents on the advice of psychologists come up with even more sophisticated methods, making, for example, children dig their own graves. All these savage practices are implemented by proponents of the attachment therapy as the best way to get children to be obedient and break their will.

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