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JI7

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15. People will not always act the same with everyone

Mon Jan 15, 2018, 07:08 PM

Jan 2018

There will be people one finds they have a better connection with and some they don't.

Just be honest about what you want or feel.

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The Aziz Ansari thing made me realize how I had no clue how to act on a date [View all] nadine_mn Jan 2018 OP

Best wishes to you both you crazy kids. n/t PoliticAverse Jan 2018 #1

It's a changing world mythology Jan 2018 #2

This part.... nails the whole thing: nini Jan 2018 #3

IMO, problems arise as soon as sex is used for anything other than mutual enjoyment*... Moostache Jan 2018 #4

"It also SHOULD rule out romance as well." Huh? pnwmom Jan 2018 #25

True...but they are also not mutually inclusive... Moostache Jan 2018 #31

So is it best for both parties to have their lawyers agree to terms and contracts before dinner? misanthrope Jan 2018 #37

Normal, human sexuality is buried beneath cultural mores, family customs, procon Jan 2018 #5

I'm 15+ years older than you... regnaD kciN Jan 2018 #6

Totally not true. I've had a few guys I dated ask if they could kiss me. SunSeeker Jan 2018 #10

I agree TexasBushwhacker Jan 2018 #27

I don't know. I've asked about a first kiss many times, and MineralMan Jan 2018 #47

I'm 65, kid, fucked like a rabbit when I was young. Been married for close to 40 years tirebiter Jan 2018 #7

Wow. I was a complete introvert when I was young. Blue_true Jan 2018 #9

My rule all my life. Blue_true Jan 2018 #8

like if they lost their car keys in their vagina? yurbud Jan 2018 #11

No. I Would not touch there. Blue_true Jan 2018 #12

I'm just kidding. I'm trying to think of when a woman would need a guy's help with her crotch yurbud Jan 2018 #42

I have been in situations where I had to help females put on fall restraint harnesses. Blue_true Jan 2018 #52

I must be getting old because I've been rock climbing too and totally forgot about that. yurbud Jan 2018 #62

Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2018 #66

I agree 100%. christx30 Jan 2018 #54

I love this post malaise Jan 2018 #13

I think I am only now beginning to realize how lucky I was. smirkymonkey Jan 2018 #14

I'm surprised at how many sketchy and scary situations nadine_mn Jan 2018 #17

You are very lucky to have found someone like him! smirkymonkey Jan 2018 #18

People will not always act the same with everyone JI7 Jan 2018 #15

DURec leftstreet Jan 2018 #16

I take solace in that most people are rather normal IluvPitties Jan 2018 #19

I have no clue what "normal" is nadine_mn Jan 2018 #21

Thanks for your honesty and open heart. IluvPitties Jan 2018 #22

I read about love KG Jan 2018 #20

Well....I guess that makes me the floozy on the block. Honeycombe8 Jan 2018 #23

Basically.. sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #33

I see. I agree, if that's the way it happened. Honeycombe8 Jan 2018 #35

Here is the long version sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #41

Yeah..she consented. She never made it clear, IMO, that she didn't want sex. Honeycombe8 Jan 2018 #51

I think we've all been there sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #55

There is something I will never understand.. whathehell Jan 2018 #38

There was more to it but that is the short version sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #40

I see.. whathehell Jan 2018 #46

Thank you for this! druidity33 Jan 2018 #24

reading what Aziz did LittleGirl Jan 2018 #26

My parents taught me that a marriage was an equal partnership unblock Jan 2018 #28

Um... GaYellowDawg Jan 2018 #32

TMI hunter Jan 2018 #57

But don't the "blue balls" go away TexasBushwhacker Jan 2018 #61

It goes away on its own, too. GaYellowDawg Jan 2018 #63

Great post!! KT2000 Jan 2018 #29

I instantly thought of that Cat Person story nadine_mn Jan 2018 #30

How about don't do what he did Lokilooney Jan 2018 #34

Ewwwww. That's just gross. And on a 1st date? That guy Loser. nt Honeycombe8 Jan 2018 #36

Agreed oberliner Jan 2018 #39

What about her? sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #44

Actually she says that he took her clothes off oberliner Jan 2018 #48

I was grossed out reading that and read it too fast but sarah FAILIN Jan 2018 #56

Agreed on that. Ken Burch Jan 2018 #45

Exactly. Eww... MineralMan Jan 2018 #49

I can relate. Ken Burch Jan 2018 #43

It's easy, Ken. Date nice people and be a nice person. MineralMan Jan 2018 #50

It never hurts to take things slow TexasBushwhacker Jan 2018 #60

I agree completely. MineralMan Jan 2018 #65

Thanks. That's what I've always thought I was. Ken Burch Jan 2018 #67

I've been mostly single the past 4 years Blue_Tires Jan 2018 #53

Prior to meeting my wife, I'm way out in the fringes of awkward relationships. hunter Jan 2018 #58

Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2018 #59

And she must have taken her pants off TexasBushwhacker Jan 2018 #64

it wasn't the sex she was upset about . it was the stuff before that JI7 Jan 2018 #68