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In reply to the discussion: The Aziz Ansari thing made me realize how I had no clue how to act on a date [View all]whathehell
(29,135 posts)38. There is something I will never understand..
Last edited Tue Jan 16, 2018, 08:11 AM - Edit history (1)
Why, if you don't want to "have sex" with someone, would you would "offer to give them a bj", on a first date, no less?
First of all, that IS sex, just another type, secondly, I never thought of sex as a "favor" to be granted or "negotiated". For me, you either want to be intimate or you don't..."Accommodation" sex strikes me as demeaning and tacky as hell. ...Just my take.
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The Aziz Ansari thing made me realize how I had no clue how to act on a date [View all]
nadine_mn
Jan 2018
OP
IMO, problems arise as soon as sex is used for anything other than mutual enjoyment*...
Moostache
Jan 2018
#4
So is it best for both parties to have their lawyers agree to terms and contracts before dinner?
misanthrope
Jan 2018
#37
I'm 65, kid, fucked like a rabbit when I was young. Been married for close to 40 years
tirebiter
Jan 2018
#7
I'm just kidding. I'm trying to think of when a woman would need a guy's help with her crotch
yurbud
Jan 2018
#42
I have been in situations where I had to help females put on fall restraint harnesses.
Blue_true
Jan 2018
#52
I must be getting old because I've been rock climbing too and totally forgot about that.
yurbud
Jan 2018
#62
Yeah..she consented. She never made it clear, IMO, that she didn't want sex.
Honeycombe8
Jan 2018
#51