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In reply to the discussion: The Aziz Ansari thing made me realize how I had no clue how to act on a date [View all]Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)Been there myself. Even though I was in some scary situations, and not a particularly assertive young woman (when I was young, obviously), I figured out how to stop advances. A time or two the guy almost didn't accept the clear no while pushing him away...I was concerned a couple of times. But ultimately, I was taken home without incident. I had made it clear with words and actions.
It wouldn't have occurred to me to claim assault or harassment or abuse, if I had consented, even if the guy had been pushy. When I was young, so many of the young men were pushy.
Seems like she sort of gave an indication she WOULD be interested, but just not at that moment, or something along those lines. Not a clear "no" and definitely no "take me home."
Maybe she was inexperienced, though. But even tho Ansari was pushy...too pushy...he can't be blamed for misreading her, seems to me.
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