Without going into too much detail... Sometimes "no" doesn't mean "no."

[Ms. Toad]

63. I hope this is sarcasm.

I shudder to think what would happen if he couldn't have tested the situation by attempting to proceed. I could have cleared it up very quickly by not letting him proceed. It sure would have thrown cold water on the situation if he had had to ask "Are you sure you want to?"

In case it's not, I'm sure you and your hubby would have survived just fine if he had had to ask about whether you wanted to proceed, and I seriously doubt it would even put a damper on the mood.

I can't say the same for the emotional and physical health of women who say "No," and whose abusers don't respect it.



And, frankly, no one is going to be hanging out in your bedroom to see you play silly "no" games - and if a woman is upset enough about her "no" being ignored to file a police complaint, that pretty much illustrates why the law may be necessary.