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In reply to the discussion: Meaningless off-screen queering has got to stop [View all]Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)19. You are kind of all over the place.
Sexual orientation is the "hard wiring". It isn't limited to who one fucks, it is inclusive of other forms of attraction. Sexual preference, however, is more the "programming". It deals more with how one expresses their sexual desires. Yes, there can be "crossover" in some respects, but when talking about GLBT people, "orientation" is usually a better way to express it because it signifies what you said at the end, it isn't a choice to be gay.
I've always thought one's 'orientation' is 'who they fall in love with' which typically jibes with 'preference', but not necessarily always.
It is, but you do realize as a gay man, I am not attracted to all men? That isn't a "preference", it just is. My sexual preference(s) would get my post deleted!
As for what you are describing with your friend, it sounds like he could possibly be bisexual; it happens. As for your BJ, that is a sexual preference, you just didn't care that it came from a man. That is usually called "situational homosexuality". It was more likely an "opportunity" and not something you were seeking, but I don't all the components of the situation.
Sexual orientation is made of many components, and yes, sexual preferences are a part, but they are generally limited to the acts and the types of people involved (i.e. short, tall, black, white, redheaded, thin, hung, heavy, small-waisted, "straight acting", and so on).
I am sorry I don't have more time to explain, but I hope it was enough.
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isn't one of the reasons Sacha Baron Cohen ended up not playing FM because they didn't
JI7
Jun 2018
#7
It is actually good story-telling. Is he/she or isn't he/she? Or characters revealed as being
Doodley
Jun 2018
#5
I have a question ... is it possible for orientation to differ from preference?
mr_lebowski
Jun 2018
#17