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liberal_at_heart

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95. you had a bad day

Mon Aug 27, 2012, 12:52 AM

Aug 2012

We all have those. As a buddhist, I do believe we can control our emotions and our actions, but we are not perfect and we do make mistakes. The only advise I would give is maybe try to be aware and recognize when you are feeling frustrated or angry. When someone provokes you, take a deep breath and wait a few seconds before responding that way you say exactly what you mean to say. but don't beat yourself up over it. You can't go back in time and change what happened in this particular instance, but you can do something about how you react in future circumstances.

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I was a jerk today. [View all] mysuzuki2 Aug 2012 OP

Under the circumstances your response was entirely appropriate. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2012 #1

I don't think you're a jerk. Jack Sprat Aug 2012 #2

No, you're a total jerk. Jackpine Radical Aug 2012 #3

Quite honestly, I feel your pain. Cleita Aug 2012 #4

I think you were entirely justified, my dear mysuzuki2! CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2012 #5

Nothing wrong to standing up to the gop jerks. kimbutgar Aug 2012 #6

One thing you can count on at DU Shankapotomus Aug 2012 #7

Your reaction was appropriate in my opinion. Cali_Democrat Aug 2012 #8

my response brutus smith Aug 2012 #9

I know that guy. He can be found lurking in the produce section at the Woodman's, leering ... Scuba Aug 2012 #10

go easy handmade34 Aug 2012 #11

That doesn't make you a jerk. limpyhobbler Aug 2012 #12

I don't think you were a jerk. Brigid Aug 2012 #13

Thanks for the support! I feel better. mysuzuki2 Aug 2012 #14

We are about the same age. Did someone really flip you off because of your bumper sticker? former-republican Aug 2012 #20

I understand your feelings and support you, but not your action. You can do better. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #34

I'm still trying to figure out why you are feeling ashamed former-republican Aug 2012 #15

You weren't a jerk. Terra Alta Aug 2012 #16

OP is not a jerk, but the response makes him look like one. It's understandable but unhelpful. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #36

I would have made him explain what he meant. grasswire Aug 2012 #17

+1. Make them spell their shit out and they get poo on their faces trying to. nt. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #31

That's OK treestar Aug 2012 #18

i don't think you were wrong, the guy was being an asshole, you should have JI7 Aug 2012 #19

He doesn't have to point anything out . former-republican Aug 2012 #22

Aw, no harm no foul Warpy Aug 2012 #21

Yeah, "you taught him an important lesson today": the other side can be assholes too. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #29

No, that exercising your free speech to insult other people Warpy Aug 2012 #71

He got it back & the sum is less than zero. Shouting profanity is a symptom, not a solution. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #74

READ THIS AND REPEAT IT TO YOURSELF...THIS IS YOUR REPLY... Drew Richards Aug 2012 #23

Nope. That's just as bad and works just as not at all. nt. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #25

You can get beyond that kind of reaction. It didn't help you much now or in the long run. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #24

"Learn a little about zen and meditation to get beyond the dualities of the world?" Chorophyll Aug 2012 #60

Christian forgiveness might be effective, but I don't recommend it. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #64

I'm not sure that a "Senior Consultant in Health Promotion at Stanford University" Chorophyll Aug 2012 #73

Of course. But it is based on scientific studies. He and I are not saying ... Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #76

I think you gave the best response no matter what your mood. nt valerief Aug 2012 #26

You weren't being a jerk. nt msanthrope Aug 2012 #27

Your lucky he didn't stand his ground and shoot you. nt CK_John Aug 2012 #28

SAY IT, "I'M MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!" Heather MC Aug 2012 #30

I think eventually there's going to be a mass revolt against republicans in this RKP5637 Aug 2012 #38

Give em' a lil bit of this, next time someone says something in a parkinglot Heather MC Aug 2012 #78

Now that felt great!!! RKP5637 Aug 2012 #84

You should have said that you know of people who hunted squirrel to eat during the Depression LaydeeBug Aug 2012 #32

Yeah, you were a jerk. REP Aug 2012 #33

I have a short temper with republican assholes. I would have done the same. Frankly, sometimes RKP5637 Aug 2012 #35

Smirk, chortle and point to your crotch... panader0 Aug 2012 #37

and then tell 'em to "eat this" lunasun Aug 2012 #41

It's Very Simple chuckstevens Aug 2012 #39

out of all the good responses, so far, yours is by far the best, and most effective. Gabi Hayes Aug 2012 #42

And chuckstevens in for the win! Brigid Aug 2012 #90

I know how you feel! appal_jack Aug 2012 #40

You were not a jerk Hells Liberal Aug 2012 #43

it's the unfortunate truth NJCher Aug 2012 #65

Ask yourself.... JohnnyRingo Aug 2012 #44

Amen, Johnny Ringo Hells Liberal Aug 2012 #46

you merely showed him how sick 'n' fuckin' tiring that horseshit is... stlsaxman Aug 2012 #45

"Oh, I understand what you are saying, and I can't imagine what dog tasted like... nenagh Aug 2012 #47

That reply of yours deserves its own OP: Amonester Aug 2012 #77

You did right. The only way to communicate B Calm Aug 2012 #48

Fried Alligator tail and turtle soup ain't my thing.. HipChick Aug 2012 #49

It's a Sunday. A day of rest. Our brains shouldn't have to work so hard. SleeplessinSoCal Aug 2012 #50

Oh, He was being a jerk first. I usually settle for "oh, bite me" when I want something simple progressivebydesign Aug 2012 #51

He brought it to you- last thing they expect is us giving back. stlsaxman Aug 2012 #52

No, they expect and want it back, because that validates it in the first place. Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #70

I'm sick and tired of the morons too dinger130 Aug 2012 #53

Not what I would have done Canuckistanian Aug 2012 #54

wrong response to said asshole(i know menomonee falls!) pansypoo53219 Aug 2012 #55

+1. However, in the OP's defense, it is often very hard to think of these lines on the spot. . nt Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #68

Let me buy you a beer ! jaysunb Aug 2012 #56

So you were a jerk? TomClash Aug 2012 #57

What the guy said to you was beyond stupid and offensive. Chorophyll Aug 2012 #58

Perfect Storm... he mouthed off Cha Aug 2012 #59

No, he won't think twice next time. He's more likely to mouth off to provoke such reactions. nt Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2012 #66

Yeah, you're right..what was I thinking?! Cha Aug 2012 #89

Why didn't you punch him? reflection Aug 2012 #61

The PROPER response would be to say you are going in to buy charcoal for a dog bbq. Spitfire of ATJ Aug 2012 #62

Well, you should have known some right winger would respond that way Catherine Vincent Aug 2012 #63

I would have probably done the same thing. Kalidurga Aug 2012 #67

I was a jerk macacawitz Aug 2012 #69

No, mysuzuki2, HE was the jerk Iwillnevergiveup Aug 2012 #72

That's what happens when you comment on other people's clothes... johnny156 Aug 2012 #75

We are already at war here in Wisconsin, your response (particularly in Menomonee Falls) bobthedrummer Aug 2012 #79

Sarcasm works best, IMO. Mockery, etc. PBass Aug 2012 #80

Haven't you heard? This is the jerk year... MrMickeysMom Aug 2012 #81

Romney would eat Seamus alive.... AlbertCat Aug 2012 #82

Oh that's disgusting! snappyturtle Aug 2012 #88

Not a jerk-- a hero!! ailsagirl Aug 2012 #83

No shame in standing up for what you believe. FLyellowdog Aug 2012 #85

Here's my response - MotherPetrie Aug 2012 #86

I would have said vlyons Aug 2012 #87

I don't buy it, for starters; but for seconders, this guy was "in his 60s"? apocalypsehow Aug 2012 #91

I do feel ashamed of myself and I do not intend to repeat it. mysuzuki2 Aug 2012 #100

No you are not an idiot! These people can get the best of you anytime. Plan for next time. Maraya1969 Aug 2012 #92

I know how you feel, I used to be like that but rl6214 Aug 2012 #93

Yeah, so? lumberjack_jeff Aug 2012 #94

you had a bad day liberal_at_heart Aug 2012 #95

I did something very similar recently. Grown2Hate Aug 2012 #96

You did fine. Gemini Cat Aug 2012 #97

I like your response. No way will I offer an excuse for dog eating, no one is going to be swayed Raine Aug 2012 #98

EVERYONE has bad days; don't beat yourself up about it. closeupready Aug 2012 #99

I went around with the "Somewhere In Texas, A Village Is Missing It's Idiot" bumper brewens Aug 2012 #101

Not a Jerk brush Aug 2012 #102

My response would have been PD Turk Aug 2012 #103

Bumper stickers are basically an invitation to bicker in public. Seems like you got what you wanted. Romulox Aug 2012 #104

This message was self-deleted by its author Evasporque Aug 2012 #105

Ah come on libodem Aug 2012 #106