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Comatose Sphagetti

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Sun Nov 3, 2019, 10:42 AM Nov 2019

My technique when debating a trumper [View all]

is to dive deeper into their premise.

Example:

Guy at work two weeks ago tells me he's voting for trump. I ask him why. "Economy," he say's. "What else?" I ask. Crickets. He has no idea (Cognitive dissonance breakthrough #1.)
I ask if he's seen trumps bullying/name calling. He has. I ask if it's appropriate for an adult to behave that way. His response; "Well, Obama..." "Stop;" I say, "You're shifting the focus." I ask again; "Well, Hillary..." "Stop;" I say, "You're shifting the focus again" (whataboutism). Finally after pinning him down and forcing him to answer the question, he admits name calling/bullying is wrong and it is inappropriate for an adult to behave that way (Cognitive dissonance breakthrough #2.)
Does he still support him? Absolutely. He (and millions of others) suffer from a fear-induced psychosocial disorder.
I calmly use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques with these folks and my desire is that upon refection (if reflection comes at all) my friend will admit to himself his support is based primarily on fear and his thinking is irrational, illogical and absurd.
I don't expect immediate results. It's like working with addicts - it is either a growing realization that changes minds or a catastrophe (think "hitting bottom" for alcoholics.) His journey out of fear is his own. My yelling at him would do nothing. All I can do is hopefully help him break through his cognitive dissonance.

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My technique when debating a trumper [View all] Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 OP
It's not the economy. It's the racism and hatred and anger which they support. LonePirate Nov 2019 #1
Bingo!! k&r SummerSnow Nov 2019 #6
Yes! 👍 Duppers Nov 2019 #14
+3 hibbing Nov 2019 #17
The "economy" is now a code word for racism bitterross Nov 2019 #21
Many need cult deprogramming The Wizard Nov 2019 #2
Forget CBT, go with Skinnerian Radical Behaviorism. safeinOhio Nov 2019 #3
The problem with operant conditioning Redleg Nov 2019 #20
Very good. PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2019 #4
It's the Obama economy gulliver Nov 2019 #5
Pace & Lead RichardRay Nov 2019 #7
Yes... Newest Reality Nov 2019 #23
More, please? intrepidity Nov 2019 #29
See RichardRay Nov 2019 #39
True story!! evilhime Nov 2019 #8
So he disagrees with facts? Duppers Nov 2019 #15
I've gotten that response before samplegirl Nov 2019 #32
More than anything... bmpbmp Nov 2019 #9
It's a very useful technique. You may not change that person's mind right then Farmer-Rick Nov 2019 #10
Yep, "...have them thinking ..." Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #25
These people are looking for validation MrScorpio Nov 2019 #11
Another true encounter with a RW'er, 6 years ago. Delmette2.0 Nov 2019 #12
They have plenty of talking points but zero listening or learning points. KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2019 #36
It's always difficult for them to discuss specifics. Delmette2.0 Nov 2019 #38
Most I encounter are superficial and arrogant. KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2019 #40
One thing about living in the North Rocky Mtns Delmette2.0 Nov 2019 #42
Folks programmed by Fox, talk radio and targeted Facebook ads need deprogramming andym Nov 2019 #13
As long as Fox continues to reinforce the Republican lies they will never change. We have to force Pepsidog Nov 2019 #16
SO so so true! Everyone keeps looking around like they don't understand how we got here. Scotch-Irish Nov 2019 #22
All I will say is that rump is going to screw up (besides the numerous times already), and he's... SWBTATTReg Nov 2019 #18
Are you trained in the profession or just giving out free advice? Arthur_Frain Nov 2019 #19
Trained Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #27
Don't think the OP implies that you can fix a trumper Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2019 #34
Here's what works for me. KentuckyWoman Nov 2019 #24
Got that far with two people and they both said Tulsi Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2019 #35
I suspect there isn't much difference between addicts and cult followers, Cary Nov 2019 #26
This. nt Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #28
Good luck deprogramming Cult45 Republiclowns 🤡 live love laugh Nov 2019 #30
You're... you're the bravest man in the world. NCLefty Nov 2019 #31
Like where you are going but what would be Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2019 #33
My friend uses rationalization, minimization, Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #46
This seems so rational. Why is it that you don't hear of politicians or advisors dont Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2019 #47
Most humans will grasp at anything they perceive to alleviate fear, even when.... KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2019 #37
This. nt Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #44
Thanks for sharing Proud Liberal Dem Nov 2019 #41
Yep. Comatose Sphagetti Nov 2019 #45
The extra taxes they paid definitely contributed to the economy lunatica Nov 2019 #43
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