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In reply to the discussion: I'm a GRANDMA!! My son and his husband have adopted a beautiful baby boy! [View all]StevieM
(10,500 posts)terminated. She obviously loves her child very much. I hope your son and son-in-law will respect the legitimacy of that love and commit themselves to an open adoption.
If the mother at one point "agreed" to give up her child it might have happened in the aftermath of intense pressure and coercion. The fact that she ultimately refused to sign adoption papers does not reflect a lack of ethics on her part and nobody can fault her for not doing so. No mother should ever be faulted for loving their child and wanting to parent them.
We don't yet know whether the baby in question will have a better life, only that he will have a different life. I don't begrudge you your happiness over becoming a grandparent. But we should not forget about the woman who has just suffered a terrible loss.
Kudos to the mom for fighting for her child. And kudos to your son and son-in-law if they do the right thing and recognize that their adopted child has a mother who loves him and try their hardest to keep her in his life.