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In reply to the discussion: I'm a GRANDMA!! My son and his husband have adopted a beautiful baby boy! [View all]StevieM
(10,500 posts)As I understand her post, the mother's parental rights were not terminated with regards to her four other children. They are currently being raised by her mother because she has had problems in the past and most likely has financial issues in the present that make it hard to raise those children. But she is still their mom, regardless of the fact that they are being raised by their grandma.
And what happened in the past does not relate to how she is doing now, including her financial ability to provide for a new baby. If she gets pregnant again, for example, I don't believe it would be legitimate to automatically terminate her parental rights again.
I believe that we should always try to preserve the bond between mother and child. And we should not completely discount the importance of biological connections. Those 4 children you mentioned just lost their brother.
I am not disrespecting Jackie, I am rejecting the moral legitimacy of our society's attitude towards adoption, and the lack of empathy we show towards first mothers (more commonly referred to as birth mothers).
I don't regret showing the child's mother some love and respect in a thread where nobody else has. This is most likely the most painful time of her entire life. She is a human being. And my heart is with her.