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In reply to the discussion: I was born in '56 [View all]A HERETIC I AM
(24,368 posts)whatever I might say would be little more than an irrelevant platitude.
But this strikes home with me.
I must say it doesn't strike home because I had anything CLOSE to the experience you relate in this very short missive, but it does because I am the last of 4, and though I was planned, my mom told me she expected a baby girl, not a fat, old, truck driver like me!
Sorry....can't resist. Humor is a defense mechanism for me.
I had several friends that were from very large Catholic families, and the idea that the woman can and therefore MUST bear as many children as she is presented with is something I have always found absurd. As I have grown older and more resolute in my Atheism, it becomes more and more clear to me that religion does far more harm to humanity than good, and your experience is a perfect example of that harm.
I want you to know that I am sorry that you had to go through the abuse you did. NO CHILD DESERVES SUCH A THING.
I can not imagine the deep sorrow and hurt it must have brought you to read those words you found on the "list of things". The fact that your mom wrote it down says to me that she was an enormously tortured woman herself.
Here's hoping you have learned to overcome these issues and have prospered in spite of them.
Stay well, be good to yourself and others.