OK, DUers- I need advice, and this is not a political post [View all]

[essme]

If this belongs in the Lounge, please let me know- and I will post there.

My sister in law and her husband have had terrible problems with addictions for years. They are in their 40's--- right now, they are in a treatment program.

Their folks- my inlaws- have always tried to "help" them, but it feels like they have always set them up for failure: "If you jump through THIS hoop, then we will do this..." type of help.

We are in a position (thank goddess) to help- but, we are looking at permanent solutions to help them get on their feet and get healthy.

Neither of us have ever had a drug addiction (and this IS drugs- not alcohol) and don't know where to begin. I am somewhat scared to move them in with us as they are constantly having "accidents." They are always in trouble with the law for driving without a license, etc. Their trailer burned down, and the only explanation we got had something to do with a space heater.

I need something other than "rock bottom." Homelessness is not "rock bottom" for them. I literally cannot face them dying while we have the means to help.

Any advice? I have heard of "Al anon" for family members. Is that a good start?

Maybe it's me, but I just feel like if they had a stable home, and learned to do things like get their oil changed in their car, learned that paying their phone on time would mean it wouldn't be cut off....Maybe they could get it together?

I really do not know where to turn at this point-