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In reply to the discussion: OK, DUers- I need advice, and this is not a political post [View all]janterry
(4,429 posts)4. What do they want in terms of help
You can tell them that you'd like to connect with the counselor at the treatment program and have a discussion (it could be three way, with them there in the room - speaker phone.
What kinds of drugs? Would they do well with a clinic (methadone? This works - but MOST treatment programs don't support that - which is a shame, especially if someone has had many attempts to get clean and just sort of can't manage it - for whatever reason).
Do they steal (practical question. If they are in your home and when they are desperate - they steal. Well, that would be really hard).
Finally, are there good halfway houses that the treatment program could recommend? LONG term treatment with support works.
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Start with al anon for you they need to finish treatment. I personally would not let them move in
lunasun
Jan 2021
#13
Good advice! I also replied downthread and included the Alanon website link in my post:
Rhiannon12866
Jan 2021
#67
Do NOT allow them to move in with you. You are not qualified to take on this very complex mental
ARPad95
Jan 2021
#6
I think learning about the Karpman Drama Triangle may be very beneficial for you & your husband.
ARPad95
Jan 2021
#58
I strongly second this. Much as you want to help them. this will just make your life unlivable.
Squinch
Jan 2021
#35
Do they have resources to go to a sober living program? If they don't perhaps Salvation Army or some
tulipsandroses
Jan 2021
#24
There are many short books you might read to help orient yourselves before you act.
BComplex
Jan 2021
#31
First, establish boundaries. Addiction affects the family, and addicts care first for their fix
ismnotwasm
Jan 2021
#32
Just the fact that you are wondering if they should move in tells me you should DEFINITELY go to
Squinch
Jan 2021
#36
"Keeping your self healthy and safe allows you to do a better job helping others"
lostnfound
Jan 2021
#41
DO NOT Move Them In! Things will come up missing, fighting, possible robberies, eviction issues.
TheBlackAdder
Jan 2021
#60