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In reply to the discussion: OK, DUers- I need advice, and this is not a political post [View all]Horse with no Name
(33,956 posts)39. "Make sure that there isn't anything to steal"
From personal experience, I will tell you. There is ALWAYS something to steal.
I was trying to help someone close, I allowed them to borrow my Jeep.
They took my Jeep to a used tire place and stole my tires.
They put some skin thread tires in their place and I didnt notice it right away because I wasnt driving it much.
But there is always something they can steal.
Good luck to you. My hard advice is that you try everything but moving in.
Once that is their residence, if they dont want to leave, you will have to go through the eviction process.
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Start with al anon for you they need to finish treatment. I personally would not let them move in
lunasun
Jan 2021
#13
Good advice! I also replied downthread and included the Alanon website link in my post:
Rhiannon12866
Jan 2021
#67
Do NOT allow them to move in with you. You are not qualified to take on this very complex mental
ARPad95
Jan 2021
#6
I think learning about the Karpman Drama Triangle may be very beneficial for you & your husband.
ARPad95
Jan 2021
#58
I strongly second this. Much as you want to help them. this will just make your life unlivable.
Squinch
Jan 2021
#35
Do they have resources to go to a sober living program? If they don't perhaps Salvation Army or some
tulipsandroses
Jan 2021
#24
There are many short books you might read to help orient yourselves before you act.
BComplex
Jan 2021
#31
First, establish boundaries. Addiction affects the family, and addicts care first for their fix
ismnotwasm
Jan 2021
#32
Just the fact that you are wondering if they should move in tells me you should DEFINITELY go to
Squinch
Jan 2021
#36
"Keeping your self healthy and safe allows you to do a better job helping others"
lostnfound
Jan 2021
#41
DO NOT Move Them In! Things will come up missing, fighting, possible robberies, eviction issues.
TheBlackAdder
Jan 2021
#60