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pnwest

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93. Of course you should be offended by an insult directed at you personally.

Sun Oct 10, 2021, 04:58 PM

Oct 2021

Any words they used to directly attack you would be hurtful. Had they said "Fat woman" it would be just as offensive. But, is the word "bitch" what's offensive, or the personal attack? If I used the sentence "Trying to load paper in this copier is a bitch" in your presence, would you be offended then? I used the word, but not in a direct attack on you.

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I'm confused by people who are offended by swear words. [View all] pnwest Oct 2021 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Oct 2021 #1

A good bout of shouted profanity can be pnwest Oct 2021 #5

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You might be feeling good malletgirl02 Oct 2021 #13

Smash your finger with a hammer and see what word comes to mind. world wide wally Oct 2021 #77

This one agrees... pnwest Oct 2021 #131

Intent is important. Profanity can be humorous and entertaining, it can also be cruel and violent. sop Oct 2021 #2

'Zakly! pnwest Oct 2021 #6

Yes, it is the intent PatSeg Oct 2021 #54

Profanity, at times,... DEbluedude Oct 2021 #73

I agree. Javaman Oct 2021 #125

This always surprises us in Europe about Americans. OnDoutside Oct 2021 #3

Faux prudishness is an apt perception. pnwest Oct 2021 #7

Probably just cultural differences - there are a few :) Steelrolled Oct 2021 #15

Faux prudishness mixed in with a sense of moral superiority. GoCubsGo Oct 2021 #31

a yup!!! don't get me started... bluboid Oct 2021 #44

Not really faux prudishness. These are usually people who view it as their entitled deference. plimsoll Oct 2021 #59

This message was self-deleted by its author malletgirl02 Oct 2021 #67

No, they're assholes. plimsoll Oct 2021 #75

Of course you should be offended by an insult directed at you personally. pnwest Oct 2021 #93

well, but.... druidity33 Oct 2021 #103

Also it demonstrates a lack of whistler162 Oct 2021 #99

limited vocabulary does that. Voltaire2 Oct 2021 #116

I don't like it when anyone here tries to make anyone look small for any reason MissMillie Oct 2021 #4

Truth. pnwest Oct 2021 #9

It seems we all have our own set of bad words that we don't like to hear. Steelrolled Oct 2021 #10

I am offended far more by people telling others what they can and can't post... MissMillie Oct 2021 #19

Couldn't have said it better myself... GoCubsGo Oct 2021 #34

I believe I have a couple that offend me Mossfern Oct 2021 #36

Gendered and racial slurs bother me. I don't use them. Scrivener7 Oct 2021 #89

It's not the word, it's the intention behind it. meadowlander Oct 2021 #98

This message was self-deleted by its author malletgirl02 Oct 2021 #11

Thank you question everything Oct 2021 #18

That's a fair point PJMcK Oct 2021 #48

I am mixed about the subject, while I understand some people are deeply offended, to me based on a ShazamIam Oct 2021 #12

I come from a long line of champion swearers. luvs2sing Oct 2021 #14

Actually, "swear words" billh58 Oct 2021 #16

My opinion is that when every other word is F**k it shows a poor vocabulary question everything Oct 2021 #17

It can happen with a person who has a good vocabulary soldierant Oct 2021 #49

Exactly. Thanks for explaining, has nothing to do with vocabulary. onecaliberal Oct 2021 #84

Using just one or two swear words, but a lot, is a sign of a poor vocabulary muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #91

Sometimes exasperation clouds ones mind. onecaliberal Oct 2021 #105

Amen to this! soldierant Oct 2021 #133

I got an almost perfect SAT verbal score back in the day. And I curse a lot. Scrivener7 Oct 2021 #85

👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 onecaliberal Oct 2021 #134

It might also be the inability to express themselves while speaking. Steelrolled Oct 2021 #101

Good thing we don't need to rely on your opinion. Act_of_Reparation Oct 2021 #123

I gots tons of vocabules and I say fuck and shit on the reg. Iggo Oct 2021 #124

From my somewhat older perspective, dumbcat Oct 2021 #20

Does this translate into feelings of... ret5hd Oct 2021 #32

Interesting questions dumbcat Oct 2021 #58

TY (nt) ret5hd Oct 2021 #66

vulgar Slammer Oct 2021 #68

The person I asked the questions of... ret5hd Oct 2021 #71

Pretty much my thoughts dumbcat Oct 2021 #86

Did you have parents? milestogo Oct 2021 #21

There were words that were not to be spoken in my house, Ocelot II Oct 2021 #26

Yup. milestogo Oct 2021 #28

My Dad never swore but my Mother did have a potty mouth at times kimbutgar Oct 2021 #27

My mother was a veeeery strict, old-school Dutch woman, who had pnwest Oct 2021 #29

Your parents have never tried to make me quit swearing, I've never met them. So by default pnwest Oct 2021 #35

My father used them, hell, damn, shit treestar Oct 2021 #94

what my lifelong hero Frank Zappa had to say about this; 90-percent Oct 2021 #22

Swear words are used *because* they are transgressive. Because they are transgressive, Ocelot II Oct 2021 #23

But they fail to be transgressive when they are overused. milestogo Oct 2021 #33

Exactly my point. I'm not shocked by vulgarity, but I'm sometimes annoyed Ocelot II Oct 2021 #38

That is an excellent book! Behind the Aegis Oct 2021 #60

Taboos change. Go ahead and use the F-word, but do not use the N-word. Klaralven Oct 2021 #24

I swear sometimes but not usually. pwb Oct 2021 #25

As an elementary school teacher teach1st Oct 2021 #30

I have to admit that I like to swear around my uptight sister in law. It makes her flying_wahini Oct 2021 #37

The target of my cussing is usually the computer. Xipe Totec Oct 2021 #50

Sometimes swearing can be appropriate, even excessive swearing. keithbvadu2 Oct 2021 #39

Using the F word DownriverDem Oct 2021 #40

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because those are aimed at your physical appearance and are directed TO YOU Kali Oct 2021 #51

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This message was self-deleted by its author pnwest Oct 2021 #74

fucking obtuse Kali Oct 2021 #114

OMG just choked on my coffee. róisín_dubh Oct 2021 #118

LOL inthewind21 Oct 2021 #126

And then there are two-way words ... Martin Eden Oct 2021 #42

If thy eyes or ears offend thee, get thy shit together and get fucked up. Tommymac Oct 2021 #43

We have to come up with some new swear words tiredtoo Oct 2021 #45

John Goodman's scene from Treme. F you, you F ing, F's sarcasmo Oct 2021 #46

I remember a post calling the word "fuck" a "rapey" word. roamer65 Oct 2021 #47

They're the closest things to actual magic words we have TlalocW Oct 2021 #52

Same ColinC Oct 2021 #53

Free trip to HR in my office. Throck Oct 2021 #55

This message was self-deleted by its author malletgirl02 Oct 2021 #63

is there an hr dept where you work? why not report them? nt orleans Oct 2021 #110

kids Slammer Oct 2021 #56

I don't ask anyone not to swear around me (aside from my daughter) Ms. Toad Oct 2021 #57

As you can see from the responses, it can be quite classist. Behind the Aegis Oct 2021 #62

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Did I say that? Behind the Aegis Oct 2021 #69

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How ironic. Behind the Aegis Oct 2021 #78

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No, I didn't make your point. You missed the point. Behind the Aegis Oct 2021 #104

omg--(been reading these back-and-forth exchanges); you have the patience of a orleans Oct 2021 #112

Wait, what? róisín_dubh Oct 2021 #119

If they called you a grossly obese woman Voltaire2 Oct 2021 #117

I have found that when I feel the need to make a point by swearing..... jaxexpat Oct 2021 #64

I get tired of overuse. LisaM Oct 2021 #70

Fine use swear word malletgirl02 Oct 2021 #76

My Dad used to tell us 4 kids "If you hear me say it, YOU can say it." Talitha Oct 2021 #79

I like to curse. I curse here a lot. I replied to that thread and said so. But the DUer Scrivener7 Oct 2021 #80

Lenny Bruce - when you outlaw the "f" word, you outlaw the ability to say "f" the government. AZLD4Candidate Oct 2021 #81

The last time I emailed my little brother, now a child not quite 70, I asked him if he could Vinca Oct 2021 #82

I hear you Skittles Oct 2021 #87

Your OP doesn't make sense. muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #88

Hm. I can see what you mean. If I'm not stating my case clearly, let me elucidate: pnwest Oct 2021 #92

I think Ocelot II explains it pretty well in #23. muriel_volestrangler Oct 2021 #97

delete Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2021 #90

Seems to me that in your Buddhist template you have it backwards. Saying "shit" or "fuck" Scrivener7 Oct 2021 #95

my takeaway from this is that you were proud of your daughter pnwest Oct 2021 #100

Most "curse words" aren't actually curses anymore... Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2021 #96

Like others, I'm of an age where it was forbidden dickthegrouch Oct 2021 #102

For true desensitization to the F-bomb... roamer65 Oct 2021 #106

A tutorial. roamer65 Oct 2021 #107

Fucking hilarious pnwest Oct 2021 #129

Go ahead and spit on the sidewalk and scratch SharonClark Oct 2021 #108

Words-- specifically dehumanizing words -- are prelude to action. ExTex Oct 2021 #109

Not a bit offended. tavernier Oct 2021 #111

Everything in moderation. Be aware of your audience. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #113

Swearing is easy, anyone can do it Raine Oct 2021 #115

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2021 #120

I've fallen short of my own principles with regard to cursing ecstatic Oct 2021 #121

Cussing around grownups bothers me zero and it bothers me less and less that it bothers others. Iggo Oct 2021 #122

One of my favorite Lenny Bruce routines: thucythucy Oct 2021 #127

HA! That's great pnwest Oct 2021 #128

Here's another one you might like. thucythucy Oct 2021 #130

It sucks if it's done by assholes in the wrong settings or as spice to mask boring or stupid gulliver Oct 2021 #132

Country Joe McDonald the fish cheer cksmithy Oct 2021 #135

Just because this belongs in this thread CelticCrow Oct 2021 #136