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femmedem

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36. He spoke to you using the same casual language he would have used with a friend--a friendly gesture.

Sat Dec 25, 2021, 12:37 PM

Dec 2021

And you understood his meaning. The purpose of language is communication. He did fine.

The next time it happens, I hope you'll think about which is worse, using sentence structure you don't approve of or snubbing a fellow human who is reaching out to you without malice.

I remember reading once that one measure of happiness is the number of small interactions you have with acquaintances--just a hello or a wave, not necessarily anything deep. You denied both him and yourself this small pleasure. Did you feel happier after this interaction? Did he?

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I've stopped responding to people who can't use real sentences [View all] ripcord Dec 2021 OP

That's not laziness, it's dialect difference. tblue37 Dec 2021 #1

+1. n/t femmedem Dec 2021 #25

Which schools teach this dialect? AncientAndy Dec 2021 #39

I was taught metric. LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #41

I spent 45 years teaching college English, but when I am with my Sicilian-American tblue37 Dec 2021 #44

In the Chicago dialect, the "family room" is called a front room, but it's pronounced... Progressive Jones Dec 2021 #135

I was taught how to dial a telephone Effete Snob Dec 2021 #65

. Iggo Dec 2021 #97

I figure any college with a decent linguistics program. Iggo Dec 2021 #95

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2021 #128

Language is far more complex than radius777 Dec 2021 #124

The legitimacy of a dialect doesn't depend on it being taught in classroom. Act_of_Reparation Dec 2021 #133

Lot more charitable than my thoughts. Lancero Dec 2021 #86

... greenjar_01 Dec 2021 #2

... demmiblue Dec 2021 #16

OMG n/t leftstreet Dec 2021 #3

Are you sure English is his first language? vanlassie Dec 2021 #4

I Fail To See Your Problem, Sir The Magistrate Dec 2021 #5

+1000!!! Nt USALiberal Dec 2021 #12

. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #20

Linguistics is successful if the message conveyed can be understood by the recipient. TheBlackAdder Dec 2021 #80

Indeed ibegurpard Dec 2021 #90

. LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #6

... demmiblue Dec 2021 #7

Huh MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #8

are you serious? Kali Dec 2021 #9

Was the person autistic? KS Toronado Dec 2021 #10

He was 20 something skateboarder ripcord Dec 2021 #13

Really? On Christmas Day even? LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #26

Irony is a funny thing, isn't it? MineralMan Dec 2021 #28

Ouch. Dial H For Hero Dec 2021 #35

I'll admit, that's a nice dunk wellst0nev0ter Dec 2021 #38

Autistic people can skate board. KS Toronado Dec 2021 #30

My first job out of college, I worked outreach for the elderly way up in the Appalachian mountains. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #54

+1000! USALiberal Dec 2021 #105

Reminds that I once drove with a friend to visit her Hortensis Dec 2021 #118

Yes. Beautiful people I met in those days. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #122

"He was 20 something skateboarder" Mariana Dec 2021 #87

Lol, is this a parody???? Nt USALiberal Dec 2021 #104

Lol, geez, lighten up! Nt USALiberal Dec 2021 #11

Is it possible that he has learning difficulties or received a subpar education? PTWB Dec 2021 #14

He speaks just fine at City Council and school board meetings ripcord Dec 2021 #22

Your OP refers to him as "some guy", normally indicative of your not knowing him. Dial H For Hero Dec 2021 #37

Hmmm indeed. One wonders what bridges may be missing their Maru Kitteh Dec 2021 #106

A trumpie skateboarder? BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #42

A 20 something Trumpy skateboarder, who also shows up at school board and city council meetings Celerity Dec 2021 #49

I know, right? BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #53

It's an odd one for sure XanaDUer2 Dec 2021 #63

Hey, and back atcha! BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #64

I overheard him talking with friends at a hipster coffee shop Effete Snob Dec 2021 #66

. Iggo Dec 2021 #89

This is fascinating! CrackityJones75 Dec 2021 #119

I am upset about people use the wrong double quote!!! Nt USALiberal Dec 2021 #15

... MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #17

You think you made a point Alpeduez21 Dec 2021 #18

Question for you... LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #19

Have you, now? Well, that's a pretty rude thing to do. MineralMan Dec 2021 #21

Way to take a stand, Ripcord. Says a lot about you. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #23

I don't have any difficulty understanding it in written form. old as dirt Dec 2021 #24

Have you ever heard of dialects? Are you familiar with the Crunchy Frog Dec 2021 #27

Why you do that? edhopper Dec 2021 #29

Oh my god yes! Iggo Dec 2021 #98

You know nothing about the gentleman in question beyond his appearance and two poorly constructed Dial H For Hero Dec 2021 #31

Nah, read the other posts. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #56

Or Newfoundland... Jedi Guy Dec 2021 #69

Ha! BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #103

I'm sure your verbal interaction with people will be greatly missed Stinky The Clown Dec 2021 #32

Smokes. Let's go. LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #33

Wait! Dr. Strange Dec 2021 #84

Good catch! LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #91

yes DiamondShark Dec 2021 #94

Probably a Gen Z bartender. Tomconroy Dec 2021 #34

Nice ageism. So sick and tired of the endless Millennial and Gen Z bashing on this board. Celerity Dec 2021 #43

I say bro, brah, dude ismnotwasm Dec 2021 #45

Me too. LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #47

bruv (in the UK) Celerity Dec 2021 #51

I love slang and real time linguistic changes. I don't always use it, but I stay aware ismnotwasm Dec 2021 #62

I stream a ton of Brit tv shows, and bruv and fam are my new words this year. Iggo Dec 2021 #100

Fam has been prevalent here for years tishaLA Dec 2021 #140

+1. 'Dope' was to the 90s what 'rad' was to the 80s radius777 Dec 2021 #121

Me old China. ;) N/T Jedi Guy Dec 2021 #71

My dad grew up in Fulham, way before it was posh. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #123

I use "dude" a lot. I only use "bro" or "brah" ironically 99% of the time. Jedi Guy Dec 2021 #70

I've noticed this ismnotwasm Dec 2021 #77

Oh yeah, "gnarly" is back. Jedi Guy Dec 2021 #78

Hahaha! Agreed. I hope tubular was a one-off ismnotwasm Dec 2021 #83

I know! And then what would you do? Iggo Dec 2021 #99

He spoke to you using the same casual language he would have used with a friend--a friendly gesture. femmedem Dec 2021 #36

bah, humbug iemanja Dec 2021 #40

Please provide sample sentences 48656c6c6f20 Dec 2021 #46

Rush Limbaugh billh58 Dec 2021 #48

Really? NT mahatmakanejeeves Dec 2021 #50

Language is communication TexasBushwhacker Dec 2021 #52

It grinds on me too BUT MuseRider Dec 2021 #55

I ran into a situation once with someone who behaved like you. MineralMan Dec 2021 #57

When I Travelled In France, Sir The Magistrate Dec 2021 #59

Absolutely. I always apologize for speaking any of the languages I speak poorly. MineralMan Dec 2021 #61

It is too bad that this teller was so unhelpful w/ these people/tourists. It is a good... SWBTATTReg Dec 2021 #75

That was many years ago. The teller was not fired. MineralMan Dec 2021 #76

I see it as an effect of the American Exceptionalism philosophy misanthrope Dec 2021 #82

Remember umbrella man? old as dirt Dec 2021 #96

These videos were completely new to me! ShazzieB Dec 2021 #129

It's just another excuse... old as dirt Dec 2021 #131

This had to be years ago, assuming it ever happened. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #116

Mineral Man said it was "many years ago." ShazzieB Dec 2021 #132

Traveling/doing art research in Italy I used "mi dispiace" a lot. The Italians loved that I was at CTyankee Dec 2021 #92

I did the same thing when I visited France in 1977. n/t ChazII Dec 2021 #81

I did the same thing with Spanish. Iggo Dec 2021 #110

The one time my high school French came in handy was in a similar situation. Dial H For Hero Dec 2021 #79

I can't say anything because, I'm sure multigraincracker Dec 2021 #58

You got ya some tense problems dpibel Dec 2021 #60

Bet yo life. OilemFirchen Dec 2021 #68

Sounds like dialect to me. Elessar Zappa Dec 2021 #67

One of my VA disabilities is Expressive Aphasia so if we ever meet you wouldn't want to talk with me marie999 Dec 2021 #72

It's X'Mas, so thought I'd offer this bit of Enoki33 Dec 2021 #73

I haven't heard a native English speaker in person for 2 months Tetrachloride Dec 2021 #74

Hope you are enjoying that rarified air Texasgal Dec 2021 #85

I shall stop responding to people who think they are better than others... Iggo Dec 2021 #88

My wife gets english pronouns wrong all the time. old as dirt Dec 2021 #93

That's odd....and awesome. Iggo Dec 2021 #101

You do you. gldstwmn Dec 2021 #102

Ok Sunsky Dec 2021 #107

Language is a living thing Bettie Dec 2021 #108

Here's hoping you received all the admiration you were expecting this Christmas EYESORE 9001 Dec 2021 #109

This thread turned out like I thought it would MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #111

Here's my suggestion EYESORE 9001 Dec 2021 #113

I'm with you MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #115

Surprised he's not deleted it yet lol. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #125

So am I MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #127

These be mean, intolerant times. Go widit. Or not. Hortensis Dec 2021 #112

And they may be all the better for not having to deal with you. nolabear Dec 2021 #114

Wow. You actually wrote this? CrackityJones75 Dec 2021 #117

I try hard not to judge people, Emile Dec 2021 #120

I need to relate this here... 634-5789 Dec 2021 #126

I've stopped responding to a certain kind of people, too. ShazzieB Dec 2021 #130

I've stopped responding to people who refuse to use the Oxford comma. Act_of_Reparation Dec 2021 #134

that's a bit harsh Skittles Dec 2021 #136

reminds me of an old classic DU trolling thread Kali Dec 2021 #137

Beer and many experiences. Iggo Dec 2021 #139

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